People who went to crummy colleges go overboard with grad/prof college bragging?

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Anonymous wrote:My sister in law attends UNC Greensboro, but makes people think she attended Chapel Hill. ????

And my brother walks around decked out in UVA gear even though he started at Nova at age 21 and transferred to UVA under the guaranteed admissions program. To each his own.

Wow...that is mean. Your brother actually graduated from UVA and you begrudge him because he went to a CC and worked to get into UVA? That's even worse than OP

I don't think that's what PP was saying. Sounded like s/he was glad her brother graduated from UVA and should rightfully be wearing their gear. And I agree. It's where you graduate that counts.

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I wear a baseball hat from where my brother and SIL went to undergrad because I love the hat; I went somewhere else and give exactly zero cares about what people think of my "pedigree."

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Anonymous wrote:So here’s the deal. In the DC area, which worships top colleges, it takes balls of steel to wear gear from, say George Mason, American, JMU, Maryland, etc.

DP. But I see people wearing this all the time. And while not top schools, they're still good schools! And I would never judge, they should wear it.

College graduates have already done more than the vast majority of Americans who don't seek any form of college education after high school.
70% of Americans do not have an undergraduate degree; 90% don't have a graduate degree. I think Census bureau data said something around <2% have post-graduate/doctoral.

I swear, DCUM user demographics are as evidential of reality as a unicorn is of utopia.

+1,000

Love that line, ^^PP! And you nailed it.

FWIW, I have a JMU sweatshirt that I wear ALL THE TIME. We didn't go there and we don't have kids there. But a kid two doors down played ball there, I love that kid, he gave me a sweatshirt and I am well on my way to wearing that shirt out.

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Anonymous wrote:So here’s the deal. In the DC area, which worships top colleges, it takes balls of steel to wear gear from, say George Mason, American, JMU, Maryland, etc.

DP. But I see people wearing this all the time. And while not top schools, they're still good schools! And I would never judge, they should wear it.

College graduates have already done more than the vast majority of Americans who don't seek any form of college education after high school.
70% of Americans do not have an undergraduate degree; 90% don't have a graduate degree. I think Census bureau data said something around <2% have post-graduate/doctoral.

I swear, DCUM user demographics are as evidential of reality as a unicorn is of utopia.

+1,000

Love that line, ^^PP! And you nailed it.

FWIW, I have a JMU sweatshirt that I wear ALL THE TIME. We didn't go there and we don't have kids there. But a kid two doors down played ball there, I love that kid, he gave me a sweatshirt and I am well on my way to wearing that shirt out.

Thanks for the resetting. I have a ton of t-shirts from college visits w/my kids and I wear them because they (1) fit and (2) remind me of the trips. But they aren't the schools I attended and few are from the schools my kids ended up attending.

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Maybe I'm not but he's fake and I learned his true colors when he acted like a completely different person once he latched onto Georgetown the way he did. So we're cordial and friendly, but no longer very close friends. He showed a few signs here and there that he was a social climber and somewhat fake, but the Georgetown stuff was kind of the straw that broke the camel's back. He pulled the same elitism when it was time to buy a house and would only consider certain zip codes because of how it would look from a social perspective. Just not the kind of person I want to be close with. To each his own.

Now I'm curious which zip codes Georgetown grad school guy fixated on?

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Anonymous wrote:Personally I had more fun in grad school than undergrad. But I don't wear "gear" from either institution. Being all excited about your alma mater(s) is really 20-something. No more than 5 years after you graduate, you should be over it and nobody gives a shit where you went to school anyway.

Lol! I once dated a 50-something year old guy who had gone to Cornell thirty years prior and talked about it *constantly*.

I know a 40-something woman who went to Davidson and also talks about it constantly. She was so put out when I first met her and told her I wasn't sure where Davidson was.

I still don't know! I don't know where "Elon" is either, and I see stickers and sweatshirts for it a lot.

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Anonymous wrote:My sister in law attends UNC Greensboro, but makes people think she attended Chapel Hill. ????

And my brother walks around decked out in UVA gear even though he started at Nova at age 21 and transferred to UVA under the guaranteed admissions program. To each his own.

Wow...that is mean. Your brother actually graduated from UVA and you begrudge him because he went to a CC and worked to get into UVA? That's even worse than OP

I don't think that's what PP was saying. Sounded like s/he was glad her brother graduated from UVA and should rightfully be wearing their gear. And I agree. It's where you graduate that counts.

No, that's exactly what the PP was saying. There's really no other way to read it.

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Anonymous wrote:My undergrad was the only school I could afford, Big Instate U. I got in and out as quickly as possible, graduating more than a year early. No, it wasn't particularly fun, working all the time to pay tuition and sharing a 1BR apartment with 3 other people.

Law school was amazing. Many lasting friendships, met my spouse, really felt supported by the school and faculty. So yeah, that's the sticker on my car, right next to my kid's private school magnet.

And next to the “OBX” and “I’m with Her” stickers?

New poster here. Was that comment necessary? May your life improve so you are less bitter.

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News flash - life does not begin at 17 and end at 21. It’s full of milestones and undergrad is just a blip. What you are doing in the moment is all that really matters in terms of who you really are. So - if spin is your greatest accomplishment after undergrad - great - embrace it. But that same happiness and pride may also apply to an amazing job of your dreams, opportunity to travel the globe, staying home to care for a child, or graduating from professional school. It’s your life to live your way and enjoy in your way on your terms. God bless the USA.

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Anonymous wrote:News flash - life does not begin at 17 and end at 21. It’s full of milestones and undergrad is just a blip. What you are doing in the moment is all that really matters in terms of who you really are. So - if spin is your greatest accomplishment after undergrad - great - embrace it. But that same happiness and pride may also apply to an amazing job of your dreams, opportunity to travel the globe, staying home to care for a child, or graduating from professional school. It’s your life to live your way and enjoy in your way on your terms. God bless the USA.

+100
Well said.

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Anonymous wrote:My experience in grad school was much more fulfilling and enriching, because I was older, the studies and network more meaningful, and it was that much more difficult to make the achievement being old as hell. The sacrifice was greater, and the reward felt greater. Damn right I am proud of it. I'm also proud of my daughter's activities and I wear her swag too.

Yes OP, I will wear whatever I want to wear, with pride and without fear of your misjudgment. But more likely because that is what is clean

This is me exactly.

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You can tell who in this thread is trying to conceal their inferiority complex, the embarrassment of a non-prestige background. As if linkedin doesn't exist. Or as if real status can't smell your desperation from a kilometer away. No matter how hard you try, it is only a matter of time before wannabes say or do something that gives them away. The middie shibboleth of the poor is always there, somewhere

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Anonymous wrote:You can tell who in this thread is trying to conceal their inferiority complex, the embarrassment of a non-prestige background. As if linkedin doesn't exist. Or as if real status can't smell your desperation from a kilometer away. No matter how hard you try, it is only a matter of time before wannabes say or do something that gives them away. The middie shibboleth of the poor is always there, somewhere

Oh dear. I’m truly sorry for you - get help please.

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I was on campus, it was unexpectedly cold, I bought a hoodie to keep warm. Turns out it was very comfy and just the right weight for travel so I wear it on planes. I don't care about the logo, I bought it for convenience and wear it for comfort.

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Anonymous wrote:You can tell who in this thread is trying to conceal their inferiority complex, the embarrassment of a non-prestige background. As if linkedin doesn't exist. Or as if real status can't smell your desperation from a kilometer away. No matter how hard you try, it is only a matter of time before wannabes say or do something that gives them away. The middie shibboleth of the poor is always there, somewhere

Oh dear. I’m truly sorry for you - get help please.

+1,

Everyone has something that they struggle with, most all of us are insecure about something at some point in our life, the wisest use this discomfort to grow in confidence and humility. But that isn't the true point here. A person's value - life in and of itself - is not measured by any of the things you reference. Matter of fact, I suspect that in your case, it may be clouding the ability to truly value who you really are. I hope you search for the truthful answers. Hint: they aren't found in backgrounds, networks, or inclusion in socio-economic constructs.