Is it okay that I don't have an ounce of empathy for the OW

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I don't think you need to feel empathy, OP. But for your own mental health, I think you need to forgive and move forward. Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. Forgiveness does not require that we excuse the behavior.

I would be careful about gloating over "karma". That tends to backfire. Big time.

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Anonymous wrote:Why should you? She slept with your husband and f***ed with your life. What goes around comes around

+1.

You don't need this person in your life. Like ever! And don't worry about the half sister. I have one and it's frankly awkward.

I disagree about the sibling thing, but still, let your ex manage the relationship between his children.

As stated, the sibling thing is not as big of a deal as people are making it out to be. Would you want to be around someone that was produced from someone that broke up your family? Don't force it. Just let the siblings work it out on their own.

Because it’s a child that had nothing to do with anything, and their sibling loves them?

Do they though? The kids seem like they are pretty little if they never saw each other again it wouldn't be that big of a deal. But as pp stated it's their FATHER'S job to manage that relationship not OP.

If only life were that simple. It never is.

Peoplenever meet their birth parents, and it’s a big deal. A sibling is as well.

Sometimes it is that simple. I have half siblings I don't care bbout. My H has birth parents he doesn't care to meet. If you are so concerned about sibling closeness don't have sex with a married man and think you're going to play happy families till death part you.

It's OP's exes job to get the siblings together period. OP does not need to take on that labor herself.

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Anonymous wrote:Why should you? She slept with your husband and f***ed with your life. What goes around comes around

+1.

You don't need this person in your life. Like ever! And don't worry about the half sister. I have one and it's frankly awkward.

I disagree about the sibling thing, but still, let your ex manage the relationship between his children.

As stated, the sibling thing is not as big of a deal as people are making it out to be. Would you want to be around someone that was produced from someone that broke up your family? Don't force it. Just let the siblings work it out on their own.

Because it’s a child that had nothing to do with anything, and their sibling loves them?

Do they though? The kids seem like they are pretty little if they never saw each other again it wouldn't be that big of a deal. But as pp stated it's their FATHER'S job to manage that relationship not OP.

If only life were that simple. It never is.

Peoplenever meet their birth parents, and it’s a big deal. A sibling is as well.

Do you have a half sister from cheating? I'm that sister. It's awkward. If the kids want a relationship they will figure it out.

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Anonymous wrote:Mine has 3 half siblings via my cheating ex.

He doesn't give a damn about any of them.

It isn't up to OP to foster a relationship with her ex's other kid(s).

Have a half sibling that came from my dad's first marriage, and one lovechild he made while married to mom. Never met them and never wanted to. I lead a different life.

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Team OP!!

[Anonymous]

OP, you need a new friend. To your ex, the OW, the OOW, and the future OOOWs, good riddance. No need to spend any time thinking about them, let alone search for empathy.

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Anonymous wrote:Mine has 3 half siblings via my cheating ex.

He doesn't give a damn about any of them.

It isn't up to OP to foster a relationship with her ex's other kid(s).

Have a half sibling that came from my dad's first marriage, and one lovechild he made while married to mom. Never met them and never wanted to. I lead a different life.

I agree, never felt those are real siblings. Especially when it's done like that. Either way it's up to the adult siblings to decide.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you need a new friend. To your ex, the OW, the OOW, and the future OOOWs, good riddance. No need to spend any time thinking about them, let alone search for empathy.

Agree, why would she???

My relative was pretty happy when the OW ended up dying. Her husband left her for this woman and it tore the family apart among other things.
Real bad Karma there but deserved in every way.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you need a new friend. To your ex, the OW, the OOW, and the future OOOWs, good riddance. No need to spend any time thinking about them, let alone search for empathy.

Agree, why would she???

My relative was pretty happy when the OW ended up dying. Her husband left her for this woman and it tore the family apart among other things.
Real bad Karma there but deserved in every way.

Are you saying the OW in your relative’s situation deserved to die? She didn’t break vows to anyone. That’s really screwed up to be happy someone who frankly has no responsibility to you (and you to them!) dies.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you need a new friend. To your ex, the OW, the OOW, and the future OOOWs, good riddance. No need to spend any time thinking about them, let alone search for empathy.

Agree, why would she???

My relative was pretty happy when the OW ended up dying. Her husband left her for this woman and it tore the family apart among other things.
Real bad Karma there but deserved in every way.

Are you saying the OW in your relative’s situation deserved to die? She didn’t break vows to anyone. That’s really screwed up to be happy someone who frankly has no responsibility to you (and you to them!) dies.

It's more screwed up to think a OW shares zero responsibility in helping to break up a family. The horrible impact to the children is just as much the OW's fault.

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It wouldn't bother me a bit if a OW gets dumped or bites the dust. If my former spouse did all that to me I'd have a hee hee moment. Probably phone a interested friend, about it.

Not sure why this is a thread, but OP should dump that friend. Sounds fishy.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you need a new friend. To your ex, the OW, the OOW, and the future OOOWs, good riddance. No need to spend any time thinking about them, let alone search for empathy.

Agree, why would she???

My relative was pretty happy when the OW ended up dying. Her husband left her for this woman and it tore the family apart among other things.
Real bad Karma there but deserved in every way.

Are you saying the OW in your relative’s situation deserved to die? She didn’t break vows to anyone. That’s really screwed up to be happy someone who frankly has no responsibility to you (and you to them!) dies.

It's more screwed up to think a OW shares zero responsibility in helping to break up a family. The horrible impact to the children is just as much the OW's fault.

This times a million. My husband's mistress walked right by my babies' toys and sippy cups and had sex with him in my bed. But oh no, she didn't nothing to hurt her. I would just feel so bad if bad things befell her.

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*did nothing to hurt us

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:5 years ago my ex left me for a woman he met at work. At the time I was devastated, but realize now it was a blessing in disguise for me ad our son.

Fast forward to now and history has been repeated and ex is leaving the woman he left me for another woman.

My friend basically scolded me for having a karma suck attitude. Saying she thought I'd be more empathetic because I can relate to the situation being cheated on with a young child etc. That I shouldn't be angry with her just my ex.

I told her our situations were nothing alike she took up with and had a child with someone who was willing to cheat and leave a family. I was also angry with my ex at the time, I've moved beyond him and frankly am not surprised because this is who he is.

This woman also did her best to "out mom" me when they got together bragging about all the things she did with my son during his visits with dad. Would make digs about being a super mama because she breastfed to 2, coslept and had her daughter trained by 2 years old where as I formula fed and my son was in diapers until 4. the list goes on and on about her trying to get under my skin.

I don't wish her ill and hope she eventually figures it out if for no other reason than she has a kid. But I don't feel sorry for her on any mom to mom woman to woman sympathy. Is that a bad thing?

Worry about yourself, not other people. This woman has no relation to you now that your ex has moved on from her. She won't be seeing your kids. So, forget her and move on.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you need a new friend. To your ex, the OW, the OOW, and the future OOOWs, good riddance. No need to spend any time thinking about them, let alone search for empathy.

Agree, why would she???

My relative was pretty happy when the OW ended up dying. Her husband left her for this woman and it tore the family apart among other things.
Real bad Karma there but deserved in every way.

Are you saying the OW in your relative’s situation deserved to die? She didn’t break vows to anyone. That’s really screwed up to be happy someone who frankly has no responsibility to you (and you to them!) dies.

It's more screwed up to think a OW shares zero responsibility in helping to break up a family. The horrible impact to the children is just as much the OW's fault.

This times a million. My husband's mistress walked right by my babies' toys and sippy cups and had sex with him in my bed. But oh no, she didn't nothing to hurt her. I would just feel so bad if bad things befell her.

Oh that's sick. I hope you're not with this creep.

Honestly I wouldn't care what befell either of them. Both would be out of my life no matter what I had to do.