Encourage your girls to ask a boy to prom...

[Anonymous]

The bible does not mention prom proposals but it does mention that men should take the lead with initiative. Here are relevant articles that might be helpful for context:

http://www.boundless.org/relationships/2007/biblic...ing-men-initiate-women-respond

http://www.boundless.org/relationships/2007/real-men-risk-rejection

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Anonymous wrote:OP, frankly, I would be disappointed if my son didn't take the lead on this. I want to teach my boys not to be so passive - they still need to do the asking.

But it's ok for your girls to be so passive?

I don't have girls. But if I did, I would not encourage them to ask boys out on dates, no.

If I may, How old are your children? Why do you feel girls shouldn't ask boys on dates?

I have a daughter, and would advise her not to do the asking, but I can't explain why. Maybe you can articulate better than I. (Other girls should do whatever they want, and I'd probably "let" my daughter ask if she insisted.)

And to OP -- thanks for sharing a very cute story!

I am not a PP but I am raising daughters and I would not advise them to ask the boy to prom either. In my family, it is self explanatory. Kids do have a good understanding about man and woman, about their physiological and psychological differences (all kids are into the STEM), and what are those differences entail to. Girls been taught manners since the childhood and they have certain expectations from a man. At the age of 16-17 they don't need any explanation why she should not have to ask boy to prom. The girls know how to make a boy to ask them to prom. If you have not teach your girls a skill how to deal with a boy/man, maybe it is a good time to catch up on that.

[Anonymous]

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I am not a PP but I am raising daughters and I would not advise them to ask the boy to prom either. In my family, it is self explanatory. Kids do have a good understanding about man and woman, about their physiological and psychological differences (all kids are into the STEM), and what are those differences entail to. Girls been taught manners since the childhood and they have certain expectations from a man. At the age of 16-17 they don't need any explanation why she should not have to ask boy to prom. The girls know how to make a boy to ask them to prom. If you have not teach your girls a skill how to deal with a boy/man, maybe it is a good time to catch up on that.

I am wondering what physiological differences between girls and boys preclude girls from asking boys to prom.

[Anonymous]

Well, this thread got weird.

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Well, this thread got weird.

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Anonymous wrote:My son was asked by a girl and he was absolutely beaming the rest of the weekend.

+1.

Finally, some actual feminists.

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Anonymous wrote:Well, this thread got weird.

+ 1. They’re coming out of the woodwork today. I guess this sheds light on the surprising number of women who voted for Trump.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, frankly, I would be disappointed if my son didn't take the lead on this. I want to teach my boys not to be so passive - they still need to do the asking.

But it's ok for your girls to be so passive?

I don't have girls. But if I did, I would not encourage them to ask boys out on dates, no.

If I may, How old are your children? Why do you feel girls shouldn't ask boys on dates?

I have a daughter, and would advise her not to do the asking, but I can't explain why. Maybe you can articulate better than I. (Other girls should do whatever they want, and I'd probably "let" my daughter ask if she insisted.)

And to OP -- thanks for sharing a very cute story!

I have boys - 22. 15, 11 and 9.

And let me be the first to say that I thought nothing of asking boys out, back when I was single and even at this age. It is only that I now have boys that I see that this is not necessarily a good idea or something to encourage in girls.

Why? Agree, hard to put finger on it. But I can tell you this: If my boys want to go out with a girl, if they are even remotely interested, they find a way to ask her. Even if they are shy, even if they are afraid to - there is something to be gained for the boy having to work a bit to get the girl he wants. And unfortunately, it doesn't work that way in reverse.

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Anonymous wrote:

I am not a PP but I am raising daughters and I would not advise them to ask the boy to prom either. In my family, it is self explanatory. Kids do have a good understanding about man and woman, about their physiological and psychological differences (all kids are into the STEM), and what are those differences entail to. Girls been taught manners since the childhood and they have certain expectations from a man. At the age of 16-17 they don't need any explanation why she should not have to ask boy to prom. The girls know how to make a boy to ask them to prom. If you have not teach your girls a skill how to deal with a boy/man, maybe it is a good time to catch up on that.

I am wondering what physiological differences between girls and boys preclude girls from asking boys to prom.

Because boys like to chase girls. They like to feel like they've won a prize. And that doesn't happen when the girl asks them.

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Anonymous wrote:

I am not a PP but I am raising daughters and I would not advise them to ask the boy to prom either. In my family, it is self explanatory. Kids do have a good understanding about man and woman, about their physiological and psychological differences (all kids are into the STEM), and what are those differences entail to. Girls been taught manners since the childhood and they have certain expectations from a man. At the age of 16-17 they don't need any explanation why she should not have to ask boy to prom. The girls know how to make a boy to ask them to prom. If you have not teach your girls a skill how to deal with a boy/man, maybe it is a good time to catch up on that.

I am wondering what physiological differences between girls and boys preclude girls from asking boys to prom.

Because boys like to chase girls. They like to feel like they've won a prize. And that doesn't happen when the girl asks them.

Maybe "physiological differences" means something different to you than to me? Most of the girls I know just as able to chase people as boys are. Haven't you ever seen girls play tag?

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Anonymous wrote:

I am not a PP but I am raising daughters and I would not advise them to ask the boy to prom either. In my family, it is self explanatory. Kids do have a good understanding about man and woman, about their physiological and psychological differences (all kids are into the STEM), and what are those differences entail to. Girls been taught manners since the childhood and they have certain expectations from a man. At the age of 16-17 they don't need any explanation why she should not have to ask boy to prom. The girls know how to make a boy to ask them to prom. If you have not teach your girls a skill how to deal with a boy/man, maybe it is a good time to catch up on that.

I am wondering what physiological differences between girls and boys preclude girls from asking boys to prom.

Because boys like to chase girls. They like to feel like they've won a prize. And that doesn't happen when the girl asks them.

I'm OP. You're so wrong. I know my son feels like he won the jackpot with this date.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The bible does not mention prom proposals but it does mention that men should take the lead with initiative. Here are relevant articles that might be helpful for context:

http://www.boundless.org/relationships/2007/biblic...ing-men-initiate-women-respond

http://www.boundless.org/relationships/2007/real-men-risk-rejection

Thank you for those articles, it was an interesting read. Definitely made me think.

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Anonymous wrote:

I am not a PP but I am raising daughters and I would not advise them to ask the boy to prom either. In my family, it is self explanatory. Kids do have a good understanding about man and woman, about their physiological and psychological differences (all kids are into the STEM), and what are those differences entail to. Girls been taught manners since the childhood and they have certain expectations from a man. At the age of 16-17 they don't need any explanation why she should not have to ask boy to prom. The girls know how to make a boy to ask them to prom. If you have not teach your girls a skill how to deal with a boy/man, maybe it is a good time to catch up on that.

I am wondering what physiological differences between girls and boys preclude girls from asking boys to prom.

Because boys like to chase girls. They like to feel like they've won a prize. And that doesn't happen when the girl asks them.

[/b]+1 Men/boys don't like an easy chase. They are by nature hunters and like the thrill of the chase. [b]

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I am not a PP but I am raising daughters and I would not advise them to ask the boy to prom either. In my family, it is self explanatory. Kids do have a good understanding about man and woman, about their physiological and psychological differences (all kids are into the STEM), and what are those differences entail to. Girls been taught manners since the childhood and they have certain expectations from a man. At the age of 16-17 they don't need any explanation why she should not have to ask boy to prom. The girls know how to make a boy to ask them to prom. If you have not teach your girls a skill how to deal with a boy/man, maybe it is a good time to catch up on that.

I am wondering what physiological differences between girls and boys preclude girls from asking boys to prom.

Because boys like to chase girls. They like to feel like they've won a prize. And that doesn't happen when the girl asks them.

[/b]+1 Men/boys don't like an easy chase. They are by nature hunters and like the thrill of the chase. [b]

And we wonder why some men can't take "no" for an answer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, frankly, I would be disappointed if my son didn't take the lead on this. I want to teach my boys not to be so passive - they still need to do the asking.

But it's ok for your girls to be so passive?

I don't have girls. But if I did, I would not encourage them to ask boys out on dates, no.

If I may, How old are your children? Why do you feel girls shouldn't ask boys on dates?

I have a daughter, and would advise her not to do the asking, but I can't explain why. Maybe you can articulate better than I. (Other girls should do whatever they want, and I'd probably "let" my daughter ask if she insisted.)

And to OP -- thanks for sharing a very cute story!

I am not a PP but I am raising daughters and I would not advise them to ask the boy to prom either. In my family, it is self explanatory. Kids do have a good understanding about man and woman, about their physiological and psychological differences (all kids are into the STEM), and what are those differences entail to. Girls been taught manners since the childhood and they have certain expectations from a man. At the age of 16-17 they don't need any explanation why she should not have to ask boy to prom. The girls know how to make a boy to ask them to prom. If you have not teach your girls a skill how to deal with a boy/man, maybe it is a good time to catch up on that.

Make a boy ask them? Jesus.