Encourage your girls to ask a boy to prom...

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Anonymous wrote:We're in our early 30s now, but DH was asked in a promposal type way for his senior prom. Thing was, he was already planning on asking his girlfriend that night on their date. He was pretty bitter about the whole thing, but couldn't crush the girl that asked him so publicly (it involved roses and the whole school watching on a stage).

Was his girlfriend the one who did the promposal? Or was it some other girl who did the promposal and he felt like he couldn't crush her? If that was the situation, what did he do? He couldn't crush his girlfriend either.

PP here. He crushed the girlfriend. It was a girl who had a crush on him that asked him to prom.

Um... did she know he had a girlfriend? He should have said "Sorry, I have a gf."

Exactly! I'm not understanding this situation at all. He had a girlfriend - why didn't he simply tell the other girl thank you so much for asking, but you do know I have a girlfriend, right?

When a girl ask in a public way the boy has to say yes.

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Anonymous wrote:Normalizing the idea that both parties can do the asking and that it isn’t the boy’s job to do the asking helps level the dating playing field. Girls shouldn’t have to be passive spectators, hoping that some guy will ask them to prom. Girls and boys alike should be free to ask and accept or reject as appropriate.

I view this the opposite. Girls have more power by forcing boys to put themselves out there and express interest in a girl. If girls have to do the asking it means that girls are letting the boy do the deciding.

When a man asks a woman to marry, who do you think has the advantage? I say the woman.

I guess I’m trying to teach my kids to strive for equality (or something close) in their relationships, not constantly game them for the upper hand.

Men already have the upper hand in life by not bearing children. Can’t we at least still get asked to dances?!

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Anonymous wrote:We're in our early 30s now, but DH was asked in a promposal type way for his senior prom. Thing was, he was already planning on asking his girlfriend that night on their date. He was pretty bitter about the whole thing, but couldn't crush the girl that asked him so publicly (it involved roses and the whole school watching on a stage).

Was his girlfriend the one who did the promposal? Or was it some other girl who did the promposal and he felt like he couldn't crush her? If that was the situation, what did he do? He couldn't crush his girlfriend either.

PP here. He crushed the girlfriend. It was a girl who had a crush on him that asked him to prom.

Um... did she know he had a girlfriend? He should have said "Sorry, I have a gf."

Exactly! I'm not understanding this situation at all. He had a girlfriend - why didn't he simply tell the other girl thank you so much for asking, but you do know I have a girlfriend, right?

When a girl ask in a public way the boy has to say yes.

Uh, no. If a girl doesn't have to accept a boy's invitation (public or not), then the opposite is also true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So, do the girls do the whole big to-do with the proposal like the boys feel pressure to do?

Asking for a friend.

I am OP. My son was asked in an extremely low-key and private way. (In person, not by text.)

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Anonymous wrote:OMG 15:36. Get over yourself. It's 2018 and girls and women can do the asking!

Yeah, but OP seemed to imply that girls should do it to make the guys happy. However, they lose out on the happiness of getting asked out themselves. It just seems to be a silly reason to encourage it.

I don't see where OP implied any such thing. She was just sharing a girl shouldn't have to wait if there's someone she'd like to go with. I'm sure both kids were happy.

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OP, frankly, I would be disappointed if my son didn't take the lead on this. I want to teach my boys not to be so passive - they still need to do the asking.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, frankly, I would be disappointed if my son didn't take the lead on this. I want to teach my boys not to be so passive - they still need to do the asking.

But it's ok for your girls to be so passive?

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Anonymous wrote:Normalizing the idea that both parties can do the asking and that it isn’t the boy’s job to do the asking helps level the dating playing field. Girls shouldn’t have to be passive spectators, hoping that some guy will ask them to prom. Girls and boys alike should be free to ask and accept or reject as appropriate.

I view this the opposite. Girls have more power by forcing boys to put themselves out there and express interest in a girl. If girls have to do the asking it means that girls are letting the boy do the deciding.

When a man asks a woman to marry, who do you think has the advantage? I say the woman.

Please don’t reproduce.

[Anonymous]

Gone are the days of randomly asking a cute classmate to prom. It doesn’t happen anymore according to my teens. If you aren’t already dating someone or going as friends, it just doesn’t happen. My dd is just going with a group of friends.

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Anonymous wrote:My son was asked by a girl and he was absolutely beaming the rest of the weekend.

Np. I think your story is cute but I am not going to take your advice. I'm not going to encourage or discourage my daughter in this matter. It is up to her to decide!

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Anonymous wrote:So, do the girls do the whole big to-do with the proposal like the boys feel pressure to do?

Asking for a friend.

I am OP. My son was asked in an extremely low-key and private way. (In person, not by text.)

This is sweet and the way to do it!

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Anonymous wrote:OP, frankly, I would be disappointed if my son didn't take the lead on this. I want to teach my boys not to be so passive - they still need to do the asking.

But it's ok for your girls to be so passive?

I don't have girls. But if I did, I would not encourage them to ask boys out on dates, no.

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I'm sorry but I'm teaching my daughter that the guy should take the initiative. She of course can be polite, smile, be open & friendly. She is free to drop hints. She may not ask. We do not encourage aggressiveness but feminity and grace. We are teaching from biblical standards.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry but I'm teaching my daughter that the guy should take the initiative. She of course can be polite, smile, be open & friendly. She is free to drop hints. She may not ask. We do not encourage aggressiveness but feminity and grace. We are teaching from biblical standards.

The bible says stuff about who is supposed to ask whom out on dates? I didn't know that.

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My DD just got asked through a scavenger hunt that culminated in a chocolate factory tour. Adorable!