Encourage your girls to ask a boy to prom...

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Anonymous wrote:Exactly, no woman wants a passive man. Passitivity is a way to have a son who can't keep a girlfriend or one who moves his mini family into your home because he was taught to be "laid- back" and be pursued. This will translate in his employment opportunities as well.

But men want passive women who can't pursue what they want. Got it. Passivity is a woman who marries the first guy who asks her and stays with an abusive husband because what if nobody else wants her? This will translate into her life expectancy as well.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, frankly, I would be disappointed if my son didn't take the lead on this. I want to teach my boys not to be so passive - they still need to do the asking.

But it's ok for your girls to be so passive?

I don't have girls. But if I did, I would not encourage them to ask boys out on dates, no.

If I may, How old are your children? Why do you feel girls shouldn't ask boys on dates?

I have a daughter, and would advise her not to do the asking, but I can't explain why. Maybe you can articulate better than I. (Other girls should do whatever they want, and I'd probably "let" my daughter ask if she insisted.)

And to OP -- thanks for sharing a very cute story!

I have boys - 22. 15, 11 and 9.

And let me be the first to say that I thought nothing of asking boys out, back when I was single and even at this age. It is only that I now have boys that I see that this is not necessarily a good idea or something to encourage in girls.

Why? Agree, hard to put finger on it. But I can tell you this: If my boys want to go out with a girl, if they are even remotely interested, they find a way to ask her. Even if they are shy, even if they are afraid to - there is something to be gained for the boy having to work a bit to get the girl he wants. And unfortunately, it doesn't work that way in reverse.

I would agree with this. Nothing wrong with girls asking boys out/to prom/whatever, but I do agree that most boys would prefer to do the asking. Of course, the ultra-liberal DCUM crowd will now go into outrage mode. Bring it on.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry but I'm teaching my daughter that the guy should take the initiative. She of course can be polite, smile, be open & friendly. She is free to drop hints. She may not ask. We do not encourage aggressiveness but feminity and grace. We are teaching from biblical standards.

I think I just threw up.

That biblical standards post can't be real.

It's not. You people are getting all worked up by trolls.

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Anonymous wrote:Exactly, no woman wants a passive man. Passitivity is a way to have a son who can't keep a girlfriend or one who moves his mini family into your home because he was taught to be "laid- back" and be pursued. This will translate in his employment opportunities as well.

But men want passive women who can't pursue what they want. Got it. Passivity is a woman who marries the first guy who asks her and stays with an abusive husband because what if nobody else wants her? This will translate into her life expectancy as well.

Sadly there is a lot of truth to what PP wrote.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, frankly, I would be disappointed if my son didn't take the lead on this. I want to teach my boys not to be so passive - they still need to do the asking.

But it's ok for your girls to be so passive?

I don't have girls. But if I did, I would not encourage them to ask boys out on dates, no.

If I may, How old are your children? Why do you feel girls shouldn't ask boys on dates?

I have a daughter, and would advise her not to do the asking, but I can't explain why. Maybe you can articulate better than I. (Other girls should do whatever they want, and I'd probably "let" my daughter ask if she insisted.)

And to OP -- thanks for sharing a very cute story!

I am not a PP but I am raising daughters and I would not advise them to ask the boy to prom either. In my family, it is self explanatory. Kids do have a good understanding about man and woman, about their physiological and psychological differences (all kids are into the STEM), and what are those differences entail to. Girls been taught manners since the childhood and they have certain expectations from a man. At the age of 16-17 they don't need any explanation why she should not have to ask boy to prom. The girls know how to make a boy to ask them to prom. If you have not teach your girls a skill how to deal with a boy/man, maybe it is a good time to catch up on that.

Make a boy ask them? Jesus.

Actually, it is not about Jesus, it is about science. if you are familiar with males psychology, you know that they are not that complicated. Woman always can make a man do what woman wants. The point is, if the girl wants the particular boy to ask her to prom, she will send him some signs, clues, instead of asking him.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, frankly, I would be disappointed if my son didn't take the lead on this. I want to teach my boys not to be so passive - they still need to do the asking.

But it's ok for your girls to be so passive?

I don't have girls. But if I did, I would not encourage them to ask boys out on dates, no.

If I may, How old are your children? Why do you feel girls shouldn't ask boys on dates?

I have a daughter, and would advise her not to do the asking, but I can't explain why. Maybe you can articulate better than I. (Other girls should do whatever they want, and I'd probably "let" my daughter ask if she insisted.)

And to OP -- thanks for sharing a very cute story!

I am not a PP but I am raising daughters and I would not advise them to ask the boy to prom either. In my family, it is self explanatory. Kids do have a good understanding about man and woman, about their physiological and psychological differences (all kids are into the STEM), and what are those differences entail to. Girls been taught manners since the childhood and they have certain expectations from a man. At the age of 16-17 they don't need any explanation why she should not have to ask boy to prom. The girls know how to make a boy to ask them to prom. If you have not teach your girls a skill how to deal with a boy/man, maybe it is a good time to catch up on that.

Make a boy ask them? Jesus.

+1 You took the words right out of my mouth.

I asked a boy to prom 30 years ago. I was not dating anyone, we worked together and went as friends. It is not a big deal. I think you are making way too much out of this.

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Actually, it is not about Jesus, it is about science. if you are familiar with males psychology, you know that they are not that complicated. Woman always can make a man do what woman wants. The point is, if the girl wants the particular boy to ask her to prom, she will send him some signs, clues, instead of asking him.

Because science!

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Anonymous wrote:Exactly, no woman wants a passive man. Passitivity is a way to have a son who can't keep a girlfriend or one who moves his mini family into your home because he was taught to be "laid- back" and be pursued. This will translate in his employment opportunities as well.

But men want passive women who can't pursue what they want. Got it. Passivity is a woman who marries the first guy who asks her and stays with an abusive husband because what if nobody else wants her? This will translate into her life expectancy as well.

Women outlive men by ten years. This needs to be fixed before any other issue. It's outrageous.

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I am not a PP but I am raising daughters and I would not advise them to ask the boy to prom either. In my family, it is self explanatory. Kids do have a good understanding about man and woman, about their physiological and psychological differences (all kids are into the STEM), and what are those differences entail to. Girls been taught manners since the childhood and they have certain expectations from a man. At the age of 16-17 they don't need any explanation why she should not have to ask boy to prom. The girls know how to make a boy to ask them to prom. If you have not teach your girls a skill how to deal with a boy/man, maybe it is a good time to catch up on that.

Make a boy ask them? Jesus.

+1 You took the words right out of my mouth.

I asked a boy to prom 30 years ago. I was not dating anyone, we worked together and went as friends. It is not a big deal. I think you are making way too much out of this.

I am another PP who mentioned asking a boy out to the prom in the 90s. It was not courtship, I had no intent of dating anyone until I was in college. I just wanted a respectful, nice, cute dude to hang out with on my double-date with my friend. We went bowling afterwards it was fun.

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Anonymous wrote:I asked a boy to my junior prom over twenty years ago (he said yes, fwiw). I had no idea I was such a revolutionary!

Same!

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I've never asked a guy on a date much less prom. But I've noticed that when girls pursue guys instead of being pursued they don't have the upper hand in the relationship. Guys are much more likely to not be as serious as someone they pursued and put in the hard work of engaging a woman. My personal preference is to be pursued and then respond. If yours is not that okay too.