Wife wants me to apologize

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What I read, is that you don't want to take ownership of anything, do anything for your family, kids included and are a constant emotional drain. She would be better off if you kept walking and didn't come home.

You're a joke.

Truth hurts. Or you wouldn't be so butt hurt by my comment.

Truth? You have to be stupid or just a bitter man-hater. An ounce of logic would derail you idiotic post.

I can see how your wife finds it hard to have a conversation with you. All you know is insulting, and walking away. You are worse than I thought. You should consider yourself lucky you fooled somebody for a period of time to marry you!

Who said "finds it hard to have a conversation with you"? Your post was just nonsense and your follow up are pathetic. By the way my wife and I have been married a long time, conversation is easy, she is uses logic and is an adult but I can understand why someone (you) that goes by assumptions and thinks your feeling define the issue would think its hard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One 1, I agree with you. My wife keeps nagging me about RI investment. I'd rather do stocks. Much less work and headache. Thankfully she stops with talk. I knnow I'll be left holding the bag in terms of managing the investment.

Point 2 - You should write the cover letter. If that helps DD getting a good internship, why not?

Because parents shouldn't do their child's work for them?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Never apologize, never explain. It makes you look weak.

If she raises the issues again -- fog her.

http://www.kenrigby.net/07c-Fogging

Wow we got a real aasshike in here. Apparently you're never supposed to explain but then he needs to explain his technique for being an asshole.

Why are you still married dude if you have that much contempt for your spouse.

[Anonymous]

OP, here. I just did not get out and walks away. I pulled over and asked DW whether she would like to drive. She said yes/nd told me to get out. So, I did. And I took my sweet time getting home leaving undone all those chores she expected me to do today.

[Anonymous]

Maybe OP should send an email to his wife detailing his rates for property management assistance. It was well received by dcum when the wife did it for her editing services.

[Anonymous]

OP what was the tenant issue? If it was simply reminding them to take out the trash, that’s different than having to get a court order to remove them.
If she’s being a brat and can’t simply call or email them to ask/ remind them of something, that’s ridiculous and is probably the exact stuff you didn’t want to deal with when she decided to take on this venture.
If it’s a serious issue, like a tenant is violent or aggressive, or they’re not paying rent and facing eviction, etc... I can see her asking for your assistance in the matter, and you should *want* to be there for your wife, but she should still put on her big girl pants and take the initiative/ lead.

As for your daughter - she should write her own cover letter. If DD asks for help, of course help her, but your wife has no right to be mad at you for simply “not doing it”.

[Anonymous]

You can, and should, edit her cover letter but not write it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, here. I just did not get out and walks away. I pulled over and asked DW whether she would like to drive. She said yes/nd told me to get out. So, I did. And I took my sweet time getting home leaving undone all those chores she expected me to do today.

Do you think this update makes you look less dramatic and childish?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The wife wants me to applogize for being an “ungrateful asshole” and “irresponsible father.” On point one, she cannot deal with a tenant and wants me to step in. I don’t want to. It was her decision to invest in real estate. I wNted nothing to do with it. On point 2, she says I need to write college DD’s cover letter for an internship. I respectfully disagreed. Then when she got all backseat driver on me after I picked her up from work, I pulled over and asked her to drive and I walked home. I guess she missed her award for best actress in a drama!

You are a Class A asshole for sure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP what was the tenant issue? If it was simply reminding them to take out the trash, that’s different than having to get a court order to remove them.
If she’s being a brat and can’t simply call or email them to ask/ remind them of something, that’s ridiculous and is probably the exact stuff you didn’t want to deal with when she decided to take on this venture.
If it’s a serious issue, like a tenant is violent or aggressive, or they’re not paying rent and facing eviction, etc... I can see her asking for your assistance in the matter, and you should *want* to be there for your wife, but she should still put on her big girl pants and take the initiative/ lead.

As for your daughter - she should write her own cover letter. If DD asks for help, of course help her, but your wife has no right to be mad at you for simply “not doing it”.

No, the tenant wants to renegotiate something in the lease - $150 maintenance fee per call. DW wants to keep it. I say let it go to make tenant happy. DW wants me to reiterate her position to the tenant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP what was the tenant issue? If it was simply reminding them to take out the trash, that’s different than having to get a court order to remove them.
If she’s being a brat and can’t simply call or email them to ask/ remind them of something, that’s ridiculous and is probably the exact stuff you didn’t want to deal with when she decided to take on this venture.
If it’s a serious issue, like a tenant is violent or aggressive, or they’re not paying rent and facing eviction, etc... I can see her asking for your assistance in the matter, and you should *want* to be there for your wife, but she should still put on her big girl pants and take the initiative/ lead.

As for your daughter - she should write her own cover letter. If DD asks for help, of course help her, but your wife has no right to be mad at you for simply “not doing it”.

No, the tenant wants to renegotiate something in the lease - $150 maintenance fee per call. DW wants to keep it. I say let it go to make tenant happy. DW wants me to reiterate her position to the tenant.

PP who asked the question here. I know this isn’t the point, but out of my own curiosity, what does that even mean? I’ve lived in several apartments and have never heard of a maintenance fee. Does that mean if the apartment needs something fixed, you charge the tenant $150 each visit?

[Anonymous]

OP your wife is unethical. Writing your daughters cover letter to get her an internship is fraud.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The wife wants me to applogize for being an “ungrateful asshole” and “irresponsible father.” On point one, she cannot deal with a tenant and wants me to step in. I don’t want to. It was her decision to invest in real estate. I wNted nothing to do with it. On point 2, she says I need to write college DD’s cover letter for an internship. I respectfully disagreed. Then when she got all backseat driver on me after I picked her up from work, I pulled over and asked her to drive and I walked home. I guess she missed her award for best actress in a drama!

You are a Class A asshole for sure.

+1

[Anonymous]

Da f#ck are you writing an adult's cover letter?

[Anonymous]

NP.

OP, i'm with your on point#1. My DH wants to constantly trade stocks. I'm more of an index fund type of person, so we agreed to him investing xx% in the regular stock market. But I outright refuse to manage any of those investments. That's his choice. Let your DW handle the extra risk she decided to take on.

On point #2 - an adult should write her own cover letter. You can offer to review it as a kind dad.

on the backseat driving, you kind of needlessly escalated. Though it's fine to switch drivers if she is annoying you, I wouldn't have walked home.