Wife wants me to apologize

[Anonymous]

The wife wants me to applogize for being an “ungrateful asshole” and “irresponsible father.” On point one, she cannot deal with a tenant and wants me to step in. I don’t want to. It was her decision to invest in real estate. I wNted nothing to do with it. On point 2, she says I need to write college DD’s cover letter for an internship. I respectfully disagreed. Then when she got all backseat driver on me after I picked her up from work, I pulled over and asked her to drive and I walked home. I guess she missed her award for best actress in a drama!

[Anonymous]

You married her, this is not new.

[Anonymous]

On point one, if you're benefiting from the rental income, you should help your wife out even if the investment wasn't your idea.

On point 2 and then the power struggle in the car: I'm not sure how you getting out of the car and walking home over "backseat driving" makes her the drama queen. You seem well matched, the bone-deep contempt that this post shows notwithstanding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:On point one, if you're benefiting from the rental income, you should help your wife out even if the investment wasn't your idea.

Disagree. My wife benefits from my work income, but I would never ask her to get involved when I was having a tough time -- particularly if she was opposed to my entering that particular line of work in the first place.

[Anonymous]

Point 1- she is asking you for help. When you got married I'm sure she thought you would be there if she needed you. So why aren't you?

Point 2- you got out of the car and walked home and she's the drama queen?

wth?

[Anonymous]

Why isn't the college student writing her own cover letter?

[Anonymous]

One 1, I agree with you. My wife keeps nagging me about RI investment. I'd rather do stocks. Much less work and headache. Thankfully she stops with talk. I knnow I'll be left holding the bag in terms of managing the investment.

Point 2 - You should write the cover letter. If that helps DD getting a good internship, why not?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:On point one, if you're benefiting from the rental income, you should help your wife out even if the investment wasn't your idea.

Disagree. My wife benefits from my work income, but I would never ask her to get involved when I was having a tough time -- particularly if she was opposed to my entering that particular line of work in the first place.

That is actually a good point!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:On point one, if you're benefiting from the rental income, you should help your wife out even if the investment wasn't your idea.

Disagree. My wife benefits from my work income, but I would never ask her to get involved when I was having a tough time -- particularly if she was opposed to my entering that particular line of work in the first place.

Then you don't have a partnership of any kind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why isn't the college student writing her own cover letter?

EXACTLY! I agree with this. My parents didn't write my cover letters (or anything) when I applied for college. When I recently saw some of my applications when I was unpacking boxes recently I cringed at what and how I wrote. However, it was my own work.

DD should write her own cover letter.

You could review it and offer suggestions but I strongly think she should be the one to write it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The wife wants me to applogize for being an “ungrateful asshole” and “irresponsible father.” On point one, she cannot deal with a tenant and wants me to step in. I don’t want to. It was her decision to invest in real estate. I wNted nothing to do with it. On point 2, she says I need to write college DD’s cover letter for an internship. I respectfully disagreed. Then when she got all backseat driver on me after I picked her up from work, I pulled over and asked her to drive and I walked home. I guess she missed her award for best actress in a drama!

On point one: I would probably do it,she clearly is not equipt or strong enough to handle business. On point 2: She is being an irresponsible mother if anyone being irresponsible. If it were me I would work with dd on it. Getting out and walking wasnt the best idea. Its best to completely ignore them at that point, like a child. She sounds a bit like a petulant child from your post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The wife wants me to applogize for being an “ungrateful asshole” and “irresponsible father.” On point one, she cannot deal with a tenant and wants me to step in. I don’t want to. It was her decision to invest in real estate. I wNted nothing to do with it. On point 2, she says I need to write college DD’s cover letter for an internship. I respectfully disagreed. Then when she got all backseat driver on me after I picked her up from work, I pulled over and asked her to drive and I walked home. I guess she missed her award for best actress in a drama!

On point one: I would probably do it,she clearly is not equipt or strong enough to handle business. On point 2: She is being an irresponsible mother if anyone being irresponsible. If it were me I would work with dd on it. Getting out and walking wasnt the best idea. Its best to completely ignore them at that point, like a child. She sounds a bit like a petulant child from your post.

He gets out of the car and walks if someone criticizes his driving, but she sounds like a child? Dudes on this website will circle the wagons for even the weakest specimen.

[Anonymous]

First, your DD needs to write her own letter. On the tenant issue, the fact that you weren't supportive of the real estate deal is irrelevant. She asked for your help! If it's something you can help her with you should, it's what a relationship/marriage is all about. Throwing the tenant problem back in her face is childish......as was climbing out of the car. Time to grow up.

[Anonymous]

You need to hire this guy's wife, Op

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/15/694489.page#12184522

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First, your DD needs to write her own letter. On the tenant issue, the fact that you weren't supportive of the real estate deal is irrelevant. She asked for your help! If it's something you can help her with you should, it's what a relationship/marriage is all about. Throwing the tenant problem back in her face is childish......as was climbing out of the car. Time to grow up.

Absolutely relevant. I would only offer help to get rid of the investment.