Wife wants me to apologize

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Anonymous wrote:What I read, is that you don't want to take ownership of anything, do anything for your family, kids included and are a constant emotional drain. She would be better off if you kept walking and didn't come home.

Thats odd what i read was a wife makes major financial commitments like mortgages/homes and exposes her family to liability against her spouses wishes/opinion then is not grown up enough to handle a very simple and very common issue with the very investment she unilaterlaay made. So her respnse is to call names. Who wont take ownership? Seriously you have csome strange view of ownership. She cant handle her rental, yet she would be better off with him walking. Maybe the lady should grow up.

Oh please, can't you actually recognize a man child when you read his post? He is lazy. He was against the rental property, he is against helping a kid write a cover letter, imagine how fed up she is(if this is not a troll, which most likely it is), all I am reading from OP is no, no, no. Translate that to his whole life and marriage, and you get a more accurate picture. But, yet again, typical DCUM sexism from predominantly female posters, crucify the woman and side with the man. And the constant insults and name calling? Really? His wife may be immature, but he is way ahead. Walking away, name calling, refusing to do anything to help out?

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I'm so f----ing sick of reading crap from people who are clueless about what a marriage or any relationship needs to exist be it personal or business. Every relationship requires that you listen to the other person and compromise with the degree of compromise driven by your feelings for the other party. If you love someone you will bend over backwards. If it's a one off business deal you will not bend over backwards. I adore my wife so my disagreement threshold with her is incredibly high. I have some customers who are complete a---holes and my compromise willingness is non existent. So my wife believes I'm a sweetheart and some customers think I'm an SOB. I'm both.

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Anonymous wrote:Even though you did not agree with the real estate issue, you really should assist your wife now.
She really needs your help & support right now and as her husband she could use you as her rock.

Most people dont like being a rock after someone throws fits and calls them an asshole. From the sound of it she pretty infantile.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm so f----ing sick of reading crap from people who are clueless about what a marriage or any relationship needs to exist be it personal or business. Every relationship requires that you listen to the other person and compromise with the degree of compromise driven by your feelings for the other party. If you love someone you will bend over backwards. If it's a one off business deal you will not bend over backwards. I adore my wife so my disagreement threshold with her is incredibly high. I have some customers who are complete a---holes and my compromise willingness is non existent. So my wife believes I'm a sweetheart and some customers think I'm an SOB. I'm both.

So you would say that OP walking away and leaving the car was immature and a wrong way to handle an argument with his "beloved" wife?

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Anonymous wrote:Even though you did not agree with the real estate issue, you really should assist your wife now.
She really needs your help & support right now and as her husband she could use you as her rock.

Most people dont like being a rock after someone throws fits and calls them an asshole. From the sound of it she pretty infantile.

Oh sure, he was just a nice polite sweetheart and said nothing insulting before she called him that? Because that makes most sense, right? He didn't tell her that it was her idea, he is sick of her idiocy, she is incompetent, and probably many other choice names? Sure, she just walked into the car and said all that?
Or maybe,
"I know you hate the property, but I could really use your help."
"Fu** off," says he, "I will never do anything with your stupid property that I didn't want and will hold it over your head as long as I live."

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What I read, is that you don't want to take ownership of anything, do anything for your family, kids included and are a constant emotional drain. She would be better off if you kept walking and didn't come home.

Thats odd what i read was a wife makes major financial commitments like mortgages/homes and exposes her family to liability against her spouses wishes/opinion then is not grown up enough to handle a very simple and very common issue with the very investment she unilaterlaay made. So her respnse is to call names. Who wont take ownership? Seriously you have csome strange view of ownership. She cant handle her rental, yet she would be better off with him walking. Maybe the lady should grow up.

Oh please, can't you actually recognize a man child when you read his post? He is lazy. He was against the rental property, he is against helping a kid write a cover letter, imagine how fed up she is(if this is not a troll, which most likely it is), all I am reading from OP is no, no, no. Translate that to his whole life and marriage, and you get a more accurate picture. But, yet again, typical DCUM sexism from predominantly female posters, crucify the woman and side with the man. And the constant insults and name calling? Really? His wife may be immature, but he is way ahead. Walking away, name calling, refusing to do anything to help out?

Typical DCUM, a whining childbride that complains about what other people do or don't do for them, ignore her obvious weak child like behavior. Oddly you don't take offense with ops wife calling him names, you think she is a victim. Typical DCUM, "sexism" , the universal answer add hypocrisy of siding with a name calling (she was the name caller you have it wrong) childbride. You and op's wife fit the typical blame the man because he doesn't do wants and expand these (clearly her issue examples) "do anything to help out". You critical thinking ability is beyond silly.

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Anonymous wrote:On point one, if you're benefiting from the rental income, you should help your wife out even if the investment wasn't your idea.

Disagree. My wife benefits from my work income, but I would never ask her to get involved when I was having a tough time -- particularly if she was opposed to my entering that particular line of work in the first place.

Then you don't have a partnership of any kind.

True, his wife makes major financial commitments and exposes the family to liability then realizes she is too much of a child to play business lady.

OP stop sock puppeting.

Not OP, nice try. I feel sorry for your husband if that's the partnership you have.

You feel sorry for my husband because we help each other when called upon? Because we don't hold grudges or enact dramatic scenes on the side of the road? Because we don't hold each other in contempt and call each other names? Okay, I'll let him know he has your pity for the fact that he's a grownup in a happy relationship.

While your at it let him know you know you thinks its perfectly acceptable to make major financial commitments, like mortages against his wishes/opinion/advice and expose the family to liability then toss it in his lap if you are not adult enough to manage it. And most importantly call him names for thinking you should step up and handle something as trivial a tenant. Oddly, you dont have a problem with his childbride calling him names for expecting her to be an adult. Yes , i feel for him if you view op's wife as displayng those qualities you claim to value.

He asked me to thank the semiliterate misogynist for his sympathy. So thanks.

"misogynist " typical DCUM too stupid to defend a position and fall back on a name to deflect from their stupidity. Lets try this, explain where at any point, my response warranted "misogynist ". Poor little baby, some disagrees with you and they must be bad because your feels are all hurt. I feel even more sorry for him now.

Hey! It's the dunderhead from the garbage pile! I knew your vitriol seemed familiar!

More deflecting and name calling, I would do that too if I was too stupid to defend a comment. Pathetic.

You answer to "dunderhead" now? Neat![/quote

Jackhammer, I am responding to your constant deflection. Its fun seeing how long it takes to push an idiot to formulate a response. Its usually funny too.

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Anonymous wrote:What I read, is that you don't want to take ownership of anything, do anything for your family, kids included and are a constant emotional drain. She would be better off if you kept walking and didn't come home.

Thats odd what i read was a wife makes major financial commitments like mortgages/homes and exposes her family to liability against her spouses wishes/opinion then is not grown up enough to handle a very simple and very common issue with the very investment she unilaterlaay made. So her respnse is to call names. Who wont take ownership? Seriously you have csome strange view of ownership. She cant handle her rental, yet she would be better off with him walking. Maybe the lady should grow up.

Oh please, can't you actually recognize a man child when you read his post? He is lazy. He was against the rental property, he is against helping a kid write a cover letter, imagine how fed up she is(if this is not a troll, which most likely it is), all I am reading from OP is no, no, no. Translate that to his whole life and marriage, and you get a more accurate picture. But, yet again, typical DCUM sexism from predominantly female posters, crucify the woman and side with the man. And the constant insults and name calling? Really? His wife may be immature, but he is way ahead. Walking away, name calling, refusing to do anything to help out?

Typical DCUM, a whining childbride that complains about what other people do or don't do for them, ignore her obvious weak child like behavior. Oddly you don't take offense with ops wife calling him names, you think she is a victim. Typical DCUM, "sexism" , the universal answer add hypocrisy of siding with a name calling (she was the name caller you have it wrong) childbride. You and op's wife fit the typical blame the man because he doesn't do wants and expand these (clearly her issue examples) "do anything to help out". You critical thinking ability is beyond silly.

Childbride? Ha, I am probably much, much older than OP, his wife and you. I am just not stupid. OP has narrow vision, and his post shows it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm so f----ing sick of reading crap from people who are clueless about what a marriage or any relationship needs to exist be it personal or business. Every relationship requires that you listen to the other person and compromise with the degree of compromise driven by your feelings for the other party. If you love someone you will bend over backwards. If it's a one off business deal you will not bend over backwards. I adore my wife so my disagreement threshold with her is incredibly high. I have some customers who are complete a---holes and my compromise willingness is non existent. So my wife believes I'm a sweetheart and some customers think I'm an SOB. I'm both.

So you would say that OP walking away and leaving the car was immature and a wrong way to handle an argument with his "beloved" wife?

It was not as wrong as her calling him an ungrateful asshole.

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Anonymous wrote:Even though you did not agree with the real estate issue, you really should assist your wife now.
She really needs your help & support right now and as her husband she could use you as her rock.

Most people dont like being a rock after someone throws fits and calls them an asshole. From the sound of it she pretty infantile.

Oh sure, he was just a nice polite sweetheart and said nothing insulting before she called him that? Because that makes most sense, right? He didn't tell her that it was her idea, he is sick of her idiocy, she is incompetent, and probably many other choice names? Sure, she just walked into the car and said all that?
Or maybe,
"I know you hate the property, but I could really use your help."
"Fu** off," says he, "I will never do anything with your stupid property that I didn't want and will hold it over your head as long as I live."

Of course it went like that because on DCUM all wives are so reasonable and never in the wrong.

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You are supposed to be partners. You are supposed to support and help each other. You need to step up your game.

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Anonymous wrote:What I read, is that you don't want to take ownership of anything, do anything for your family, kids included and are a constant emotional drain. She would be better off if you kept walking and didn't come home.

Thats odd what i read was a wife makes major financial commitments like mortgages/homes and exposes her family to liability against her spouses wishes/opinion then is not grown up enough to handle a very simple and very common issue with the very investment she unilaterlaay made. So her respnse is to call names. Who wont take ownership? Seriously you have csome strange view of ownership. She cant handle her rental, yet she would be better off with him walking. Maybe the lady should grow up.

Oh please, can't you actually recognize a man child when you read his post? He is lazy. He was against the rental property, he is against helping a kid write a cover letter, imagine how fed up she is(if this is not a troll, which most likely it is), all I am reading from OP is no, no, no. Translate that to his whole life and marriage, and you get a more accurate picture. But, yet again, typical DCUM sexism from predominantly female posters, crucify the woman and side with the man. And the constant insults and name calling? Really? His wife may be immature, but he is way ahead. Walking away, name calling, refusing to do anything to help out?

Typical DCUM, a whining childbride that complains about what other people do or don't do for them, ignore her obvious weak child like behavior. Oddly you don't take offense with ops wife calling him names, you think she is a victim. Typical DCUM, "sexism" , the universal answer add hypocrisy of siding with a name calling (she was the name caller you have it wrong) childbride. You and op's wife fit the typical blame the man because he doesn't do wants and expand these (clearly her issue examples) "do anything to help out". You critical thinking ability is beyond silly.

Childbride? Ha, I am probably much, much older than OP, his wife and you. I am just not stupid. OP has narrow vision, and his post shows it.

I was referring to ops wife as childbride and it was meant as childlike spouse. Because she is. Odd you only critize him and have no opinion on hos name calling wife that cant handle a simple task. So you think calling your spouse an asshole for not doing what you want is ok? (of course he would then be right if he called her names for buying it) His post shows she is child like. Seems your vision is narrow, the wife is always right and you should expect a woman to act like a helpless child.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm so f----ing sick of reading crap from people who are clueless about what a marriage or any relationship needs to exist be it personal or business. Every relationship requires that you listen to the other person and compromise with the degree of compromise driven by your feelings for the other party. If you love someone you will bend over backwards. If it's a one off business deal you will not bend over backwards. I adore my wife so my disagreement threshold with her is incredibly high. I have some customers who are complete a---holes and my compromise willingness is non existent. So my wife believes I'm a sweetheart and some customers think I'm an SOB. I'm both.

Why would I want to be in a relationship where I have to compromise a lot. That's nuts.

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Anonymous wrote:You are supposed to be partners. You are supposed to support and help each other. You need to step up your game.

They both do, partners don't buy homes and expose their family to liability unilaterally.

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Anonymous wrote:The wife wants me to applogize for being an “ungrateful asshole” and “irresponsible father.” On point one, she cannot deal with a tenant and wants me to step in. I don’t want to. It was her decision to invest in real estate. I wNted nothing to do with it. On point 2, she says I need to write college DD’s cover letter for an internship. I respectfully disagreed. Then when she got all backseat driver on me after I picked her up from work, I pulled over and asked her to drive and I walked home. I guess she missed her award for best actress in a drama!

1. I would agree o help with the tenant under the condition that this rental investment would be dissolved.


2. DOes your daughter ant help getting this internship? If she does I think she should still write the cover letter,, but you would be happy to give her feedback after she's written a first draft. The writing center at her college can also help with this.

3. I think this was a reasonable response if you were able to pull over safely.

4. Your wife seems abusive. Your child is in college it might be time to move on.

+1. I am just surprised with the kids that this issue hasn’t come up before. Our parents are teachers so doing your child’s project much less writing a cover letter for a job is a non-starter. I’m not sure how I would handle it if we not only didn’t see eye to eye but my DH was trying to pressure me into doing so.