Would you marry your spouse if you met him/her today?

[Anonymous]

Yes. He is the best husband and I love him even more after seeing what a great dad he is. We are very lucky.

[Anonymous]

No. Both marriages have been among the worst decisions of my life. I wish I had stayed single. Marriage is a raw deal for most women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Probably not. I was way too focused on superficial things at the time. I was impressed with his looks, charisma, job etc. He dressed well and looked the part.

Now I just want someone who can make me laugh and is interested in being my friend.

^forgot to add that if I married someone who made me laugh and was interested in being my friend I'd probably be posting on here about how my husband doesn't make enough money and is lazy. Or something similar to the posts by many women.

Ha - I agree with you both times!

[Anonymous]

Not a chance.

Actually surprised to see so many yeses -- I just assumed marriage was a miserable state for most. But it's heartening to see that it's happy for many of you. I'd love to have that.

[Anonymous]

Yes

[Anonymous]

In a heartbeat, but he was 40 (me: 30) when I married him so all the cards were on the table as to the kind of man he was/is.

My 25 year old boyfriend who broke my heart before DH came along really had a lot of "potential" but things didn't really turn out as planned. Of course there are exceptions, but I think there can be a lot of unknowns if you get together as a couple when you are in your early or mid-twenties.

[Anonymous]

Yes.

He is my everything. I hope I die before he does. I cannot live without him. I can't.

[Anonymous]

He's a fine person, good dad and husband, but why would I marry him again? I already have children, a paid off house, and a good job. It is nice to have the extra income and companionship, but companionship I could have without getting married. Income, I suppose I could do worse, but his income isn't so awesome that I'd marry him again.

[Anonymous]

No fn way. He’s a totally different person now, and he really sucks so bad that if he died in an accident tomorrow I would not be sad at all except for my kids for losing their father

[Anonymous]

yes, without hesitation. In fact, had I known how great she is and great our marriage (kids) would be, I would have tried to leave my bachelor ways behind earlier.
It is sad to see how many no's there are but I know I'm one of the lucky ones.

[Anonymous]

No. I've learned he has Borderline Personality Disorder.

[Anonymous]

Without a doubt. He is the love of my life. We've known each other for almost 12 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. Both marriages have been among the worst decisions of my life. I wish I had stayed single. Marriage is a raw deal for most women.

Marriage is a raw deal for women with poor judgement and decision-making skills.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For me. No.
I love him and I am committed but if we just met, i would not marry him.

He used to talk about moving to another state (I hate it here); now he is too set in his ways to explore anything other than where we are
He used to like to take trips (small/large/whatever); now he hates traveling with kids
He used to pitch in more and now i feel he is slacking big time
He struggles to understand or empathize with anyone/anything other than what HE has experienced or what HE would do. If HE wouldn't do XYZ he can't even begin to understand why I would want to or why I have.
That is exhausting as we are obviously 2 different people who have only continued to become more different as our relationship goes on.

I do like that he is a great father and that is appealing and he continues to be playful and fun.

That is difficult to answer. If I didn’t marry the person that I married then I would not have the 2 great kids that I have. Outside of my kids.. I am in a extremely lonely cold marriage.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely NOT.