What makes someone good in bed? (Non-explicit)

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Question for men: I really like being on the bottom. So how do I avoid bring perceived as starfish? Tips?

(Ftr my boyfriend seems pleased but you never know! Id like to be proactive!)

Really? You really don't know how to be on bottom and not useless?

Use your pelvis. Your hands. Your mouth. Your legs. Pull him into you. Talk to him. Guide him.

Geez. Are you a man? If so im surprised, because that response is so unnecessarily bitchy....

Yeah I do all this stuff. Like I said, just checking.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:An openness and willingness to try new things to keep it exciting. I'm not talking about anything bizarre or kinky. For example: Why does it need to be "in bed"? One of the most passionate sessions we ever had was in my closet - purely spontaneous. We've been married a long time and after 3000 times it would be easy to get bored with the same old same old.

+1 We're the same way regarding same old, same old. Some times we end up laughing hysterically when we try something new and we have a complete failure but that's part of the fun. I don't know if I'm good in bed but I can't be a "starfish" if my DH keeps coming back for more!

Not true. Assuming you expect monogamy of him, he would come back for more regardless if you were poor in bed.

He wouldn't stay with a starfish for over 30 years. No man would - you might want to think about that yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Question for men: I really like being on the bottom. So how do I avoid bring perceived as starfish? Tips?

(Ftr my boyfriend seems pleased but you never know! Id like to be proactive!)

Check your pulse - if it's "at rest" you need to up your game. At 120 you are doing fine. Break a sweat and your doing great!

[Anonymous]

Sexual attraction is first, second and third on the list. A lot of men lie to themselves that women aren't visual creatures. No, honey, we see your gut, love handles and man boobs, and we find them gross. We might tolerate you because other reasons are more important than how gross you have let yourself get...but the sex is going to suffer because we are not attracted to you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm sure lots of guys with big penises are hurting in doing other things, because they feel they don't have too. Their big penis is enough. I had to get good in other areas, because I'm average. I go down Everytime, love it. I tease, and treat her body like a wonderland, but I had to learn.

I have a big penis, but I still go down almost every time because I'm doing it for myself as much as I'm doing it for her. (I have no idea if I'm a representative sample, however!)

Me too. Hung, and I always go down first. But I'm not a lazy guy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm sure lots of guys with big penises are hurting in doing other things, because they feel they don't have too. Their big penis is enough. I had to get good in other areas, because I'm average. I go down Everytime, love it. I tease, and treat her body like a wonderland, but I had to learn.

I have a big penis, but I still go down almost every time because I'm doing it for myself as much as I'm doing it for her. (I have no idea if I'm a representative sample, however!)

Me too. Hung, and I always go down first. But I'm not a lazy guy.

+1

I love her, and I want her to feel good.

Also, it gets her really wet and makes her excited to please me.

I don't get why this is complicated. Guys who don't go down are idiots.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sexual attraction is first, second and third on the list. A lot of men lie to themselves that women aren't visual creatures. No, honey, we see your gut, love handles and man boobs, and we find them gross. We might tolerate you because other reasons are more important than how gross you have let yourself get...but the sex is going to suffer because we are not attracted to you.

Hmm, speaking of 'unnecessarily bitchy' ...

Trust me, we notice how fat your ass is too, and that roll of flab in your middle.