What makes someone good in bed? (Non-explicit)

[Anonymous]

Is it physical attractiveness? Passion? Know-how?

[Anonymous]

Caring about their partner's experiences as well as their own.

[Anonymous]

experience

[Anonymous]

Enthusiasm and skills - need them both.

[Anonymous]

"Skill" is pretty ambiguous. Having an easily responsive partner is half the battle when it comes to being "good" in bed. If you're working with a dead fish, almost nothing is going to work. If you're working with a partner who is enthusiastic, communicative, and really digs the physical sensations of sex, it's going to be easy to be good in bed.

That said, being concerned about whether your partner is having a good time, being willing to take the time to please your partner, and trying to pay attention to the signals your partner sends (both verbally and nonverbally) will help make you better. Also, being curious enough about sex to have fun with it and explore new things will help as well.

[Anonymous]

For a woman? Enthusiasm, and ability to block out the external non-bedroom noises that otherwise occupy her brain

For a man? Ability to delay his own orgasm, focus on her orgasm, and listen to (or mind-read) the things she needs to "get there"

[Anonymous]

Open-minded willingness to please your partner. DH, then BF, let something slip once and tried to correct the statement, but I knew he meant what he said. I have it a shot and he loved it. Since then, he's been upfront about "hey, let's try this" and we do. Some things are a miss, but some things have been great and we have a lot of fun.

[Anonymous]

ability and know how to use all 4 corners of the bed

[Anonymous]

Confidence, too

[Anonymous]

Being attentive to a women's entire body while having sex.

[Anonymous]

Knowing when to quit

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Being attentive to a women's entire body while having sex.

+1. Regardless of how large of an area you need to cover.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For a woman? Enthusiasm, and ability to block out the external non-bedroom noises that otherwise occupy her brain

For a man? Ability to delay his own orgasm, focus on her orgasm, and listen to (or mind-read) the things she needs to "get there"

chemistry doesn't hurt. a nice body doesn't hurt.

[Anonymous]

As an old married lady who definitely sowed her oats as a young woman, it all comes down to chemistry and passion. When it's magic, it's magic. When it's not, no amount of skill, technique, or willingness to please can make the sex amazing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For a woman? Enthusiasm, and ability to block out the external non-bedroom noises that otherwise occupy her brain

For a man? Ability to delay his own orgasm, focus on her orgasm, and listen to (or mind-read) the things she needs to "get there"

chemistry doesn't hurt. a nice body doesn't hurt.

This. I've been an amateur endurance athlete over the last several years and I've had the typical scrawny, but lean, build. I've quit racing bikes this year and have been in the gym lifting heavy and putting on muscle. She really seems to notice. The way I see it is that if you want sex, be someone she wants to have sex with - and that doesn't just mean fitness and muscles.