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That's because the people living in Georgetown are either (a) college students, (b) early 20-somethings that still hang out at Smith Point, or (c) extremely wealthy 50-70 year olds that own the large, old mansions buried around P & 30th. So you are right: not exactly a fertile territory for early-30s moms with babies. But then again, not a fertile territory for people in their 30s, period (unless you were born in one the houses noted in (c) above). |
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When you said "young DC social scene" I somehow didn't imagine sitting on boards or doing charity work. Sounds young and stuffy to me. |
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I live in Arlington and there are many women around my age here who are having babies. But neighborhood is irrelevant; as I said, many of my attorney women friends also had/are having babies around this age. They live in all different areas of DC and the 'burbs -- from Capitol Hill to Woodley Park to Arlington to Vienna.
Not in Georgetown.... That's because the people living in Georgetown are either (a) college students, (b) early 20-somethings that still hang out at Smith Point, or (c) extremely wealthy 50-70 year olds that own the large, old mansions buried around P & 30th. So you are right: not exactly a fertile territory for early-30s moms with babies. But then again, not a fertile territory for people in their 30s, period (unless you were born in one the houses noted in (c) above). So your part (c) not so correct....We are both in our early 30's living buried up around P and 30 (and own) and were not born into one of the houses!! Both are smart successful individuals. My whole point of discussion here was ARE THERE ANY EARLY 30 YEAR OLDS BURIED UP IN THOSE NEIGHBORHOODS with newborns..... Not to start fights about what is old/young and so on.....Gosh people!! (And by the way all the college students are on the west side of Georgetown) and the people you are talking about in (A) and (B) are the same people! For (C) again, most of my neighbors are not in there 50's-70's! Been around the East side of Georgetown much? Or just hear say and on M Street? |
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Excuse me, if you are the OP, then let me remind you of your original post: Young mother (30 years old) with a newborn in DC.... It's getting depressing when I stroll around to only see older woman with babies in and around DC! I did sign up for Stroller Strides (a fitness group-I highly recommend) which i'm hoping to meet other young mommies.....All my friends are still in the party mode (not married even) and then there is me - I love my life but just missing finding friends that are at the same level as me.....Well if you are a young mother living in DC - I would love to hear from you! -- Is there a single line in there about looking for early 30s moms in YOUR neighborhood? No -- your post was designed to elicit both responses like mine ("why, yes, I'm an early 30s woman having a baby") or responses like the other types you got (justified, in my view) that mocked you for being so silly. In short, even though we are both clearly women in the same boat, I'm glad you don't live around me because I wouldn't be interested in hanging out with you. |
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I am ignoring the loopiness and addressing the OP, who I hope is still reading:
OP, I think it's just a lonely time for a lot of women, having a newborn. Your social scene shifts and you have to readjust. I had my first at 27 and am having my second now at 30 (I'm in downtown Silver Spring). I was the first of my friend group, and it was LONELY. I too felt self-conscious being the youngest mom on the playground. But as you get more involved with kid activities and make more mom friends (and as you get older and your old friends finally start to have kids), it matters less. Most of my mom friends are 5-10 years older than me, and my closest friend at my DD's preschool is like 45 (which amuses us both)! Anyway, if you want sympathy, you got it. If you want suggestions: go out and start joining. Join a PACE group, find a new moms group, find a mommy and me class (yoga or something that interests you). You'll meet more and more moms and find some you click with regardless of age, and you'll also feel more removed from your pre-kid social life (which probably sounds depressing to you right now, but is not such a big deal in the end -- just an evolution). |
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The "young DC social scene" is more than just partying these days. In order to "move up" to the stuffy boards, you have to do more than just talk the talk. Not young and stuffy in my opinion. More like young and doing something. |
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Yes, that was my point -- going from young and stuffy to old and stuff. What's the difference? |
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It's really just a trade-off, like so many other things in life.
Have kids in your 20s, and you will have an abundant amount of energy for them. I am 42 and perfectly healthy, but I simply do not have the energy level that I had in my 20s and I challenge any 40+ year old to say they do and mean it. My sister had two kids in her 20s and once they go to college, she may have another baby. Nice option to have. But a lot of people in their 20s do not have the financial stability nor the wisdom that comes with life experience that a 40+ woman does. Then again, I'll be around 60 when my last one goes to college. Those who had babies in their 20s- early thirties will have empty nests much, much sooner. Unless they choose to have another baby (which my sister probably is not going to do BTW). Why get snarky about something that is so much about fate (for lack of a better word) and preference? Some women don't meet "the one" until they are well into their 30s. Some do much earlier. Some people get married young and just want to be free and party and enjoy -- because being in a good marriage is like being single, only better. Ultimately I don't know which one I would have chosen. The energy level or the time to settle into a career, enjoying my freedom. But it's not something to fight about. There are no winners or losers in this one, people. |
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great Post PP, and I agree with you. But as a young mom, I don't know if I agree with the part about life experience and wisdom. I never felt like older moms had an advantage because they lived longer when it came to babies. It seemed like we were always in the same boat. Some of us managed better than others and some of us were equally overwhelmed with the stress of dealing with our babies.
I am 29 with a 4 year old and a 2 year old and have same age friends and older friends. It's really more a matter of personality to me than age. |
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oh and btw there are actually people in their 20s who are financially stable 
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| ok, so I don't know if it is age-now 34, or the fact that I have three little boys, but I just don't give a crap anymore what anyone does for a living, how old they are, what school their kids go to, whether they breastfed, did they have a "nautural" birth etc..I am so tired of these same arguments making the rounds every few days. I mean seriously, let it ALL go... |
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Ditto. Long before I had kids, I had friends of all different ages. And now that I'm a 38 year old mom (I had my first at 34) I have several younger friends, some my own age and several older. It makes no difference to me. It's more about personalities/values than age. Don't close yourself off to new friendships just because the moms you're meeting are older. |
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