It can't be that i'm the only....

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Anonymous wrote:

33 what? 33 year since you got your driver's license?
people in dc are too much focused in their careers that they forget about family. when they realize they missed it they pretend nothing happened and get preggo at age 40. i wonder who will be happy handling a teenager at age 55... a 55 yo is supposed to be enjoying retirement and waiting for grandchildren!

Foreign Born Nanny, I presume. I see you've been shitting all over several threads today. If you don't have something useful to add, please get out and go do something useful with your time.

I was born here in DC area but was raised far away from the empty life people live in DC.
Came back, built the base of my successful career and traveled a little bit. Right now I'm packing up to enjoy the rest of the life I chose for my family.
By the way,why do you think I'm a nanny?

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By the way,why do you think I'm a nanny?

From a post on the forums, now also on the home page: http://www.dcurbanmom.com/weblog/2009/07/20/dcum-posters

"Then there are the obvious trolls. These seem to be the work of one or two posters. Foreign-born former nanny is the standout here. She disagrees with everything just for the sake of being crotchety, typically insults Americans in general, tells us how we're worse than a "third world country", and then adds that she is sorry for our husbands or children. All with creative grammar, lots of ALL CAPS and free standing sentence fragments."

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Anonymous wrote:lol look at the 40yo women with new borns trying to feel better about their age LOL

You are an idiot.

I'm 33.

33 what? 33 year since you got your driver's license?
people in dc are too much focused in their careers that they forget about family. when they realize they missed it they pretend nothing happened and get preggo at age 40. i wonder who will be happy handling a teenager at age 55... a 55 yo is supposed to be enjoying retirement and waiting for grandchildren!

With your attitude you'd be smart to start looking into long-term health care b/c I seriously doubt YOUR kids will be taking you in. Good luck being surrounded by loved ones in your old age.

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I was 30 when I had my first. I didn't feel young and I agree that it's not young. It seems that the problem is more the friends that you have and where you live. We moved out to Silver Spring and there are mothers both younger and older than I am and plenty my age too. I definitely feel like they are all my peers.

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First of all I didn't post anything for everyone to attack each other about what they considered old or young. I reached out to see if anyone knew of younger mother's out there......and yes younger meaning in the late 20's early 30's...you in your 40's admit you are getting OLDER!!!

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Anonymous wrote:I don't think 30 is all that young. Seems about average.

Average yes.....

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"With your attitude you'd be smart to start looking into long-term health care b/c I seriously doubt YOUR kids will be taking you in. Good luck being surrounded by loved ones in your old age."

HIGH FIVE! Check it out, OP's still on the attack...

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Anonymous wrote:I hate to break it to you, but 30 isn't that young. To someone in their 20's you are now over the hill.

HAHAH...Glad you think that...But just turning 30 a few days ago (I'm still young) i'm sure you are way over the hill....

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Anonymous wrote:I hate to break it to you, but 30 isn't that young. To someone in their 20's you are now over the hill.

Yeah, but around here, 30 is super young for having a baby. I had my first at 32 and was by far the youngest new mom at my company. Most started around 35, some around 40.

Obviously there is nothing wrong with either, I can see pros and cons to both, but I would have to say around DC that is young.

But, there was a mom in my mom's group who was 28. So clearly you are not alone!

Yes thank you!! It is very young for DC- I grew up here and many people are not interested in getting a great education and experiencing life without children first (traveling and so on)....Not like the back hills where education is not that important and so on...

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Anonymous wrote:Get over yourself. Really. My kids are 6 years apart, so I'm a younger mom among the parents of my oldest child's frinds and an older mom among the parents of my youngest child's friends. It does provide an interesting perspective, but I've never had trouble relating to either cohort and feel lucky to have friends in different stages of life.

Really you need to say get over yourself....RUDE

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm one of those older mommies you are trying to avoid But plenty of my friends had their first kids before they were 30, so keep looking. In this area, it is not uncommon to have a baby late in life, but I'm sure there are some younger moms around.

And I actually totally understand why you'd want to find a few younger moms to hang out with. I have definetly changed since I was 30. I'll admit it. I'm worn out and tired (but also much more self-assured in my ragged old self). I'm in a different place in my career. I have different values. And I have different friends (they have all made it past the party stage, I think I was the last).

YOU ARE SO RIGHT

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Anonymous wrote:I have a two-week-old and just turned 29. Funny if that is considered a "young" mother in this area... where I grew up, many people got engaged in college, married just after graduation, and had their first baby by 23 or maybe 24, so I would be considered an "older" mom there.

Right and you grew up in the midwest...I'm sure not in the Washingtonian area

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Anonymous wrote:I think the main problem is that being a parent isn't enough of a commonality to make friends. That's why I think it makes more sense to join groups that involve a hobby or interest like art, hiking, animals, etc. You're much more likely to find people you click with.

YES YES YES!

This was my problem when I was a SAHM, which after meeting a gaggle of tiresome women finally cut my losses and looked else where. Just because we were all SAHMs it did not mean that I had ANYTHING in common with most them. I actually gravitated towards my old work friends and my working mom friends. Many of my good friends have nothing to do with our children's age or work status, it has everything to do with commonality. For me it has to do with cooking, nutrition, and a love of the outdoors.

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Anonymous wrote:I think the main problem is that being a parent isn't enough of a commonality to make friends. That's why I think it makes more sense to join groups that involve a hobby or interest like art, hiking, animals, etc. You're much more likely to find people you click with.

YES YES YES!

This was my problem when I was a SAHM, which after meeting a gaggle of tiresome women finally cut my losses and looked else where. Just because we were all SAHMs it did not mean that I had ANYTHING in common with most them. I actually gravitated towards my old work friends and my working mom friends. Many of my good friends have nothing to do with our children's age or work status, it has everything to do with commonality. For me it has to do with cooking, nutrition, and a love of the outdoors.

I'm surprised - I find that at this stage I definitely want other Mom friends, because I'm generally looking for activities I can do *with* my child (since the relatively limited amount of time I get on my own is generally booked up.) Of course, for a fellow Mom friend to also be a TRUE friend there has to be far more in common - but luckily you only need a couple good friends!

[Anonymous]

OP I understand your sitch: it's hard to be a new mom at 30 when all your friends are single and partying. Granted, 30 isn't old, but when you're the only one in your circle with a kid you can feel out of place compared to the other moms in DC.

I have coped (somewhat) by reaching out to my friends friends who have small children. I joined PACE and Mamistad but was lumped in with other moms whose only similarities I shared was having a child the same age. It was hard to connect on a personal level.

If I still lived in DC I would totally suggest we get together, but we recently moved. Hang in there. It gets better. I promise.