It can't be that i'm the only....

[Anonymous]

I am 31 and about to have my first. Many women around me are also around my age and about to have kids. Many women who have toddlers now were my age when they had their kids. I'm not sure who you're hanging out with, but I'm a pretty typical lawyer in DC who sees a lot of women our age (and "young," we're not) who are pregnant or have babies.

[Anonymous]

I agree you really are not that young. However, your peers are probably out in the suburbs because at the lower end of the 30's your peers may not be able to afford a family-sized home close in.

[Anonymous]

I am curious to discover why women - who suddenly have kids and become SAHMs - find it difficult to make friends.

My friends are those whom I met PRE-marriage, PRE-kids. They are STILL my friends.

Other than the fact that I care for two young ones (and am now working again PT), I haven't changed at all.

What happens to you women who are seeking out friendships? Did you NOT know yourselves before you got married and had kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am curious to discover why women - who suddenly have kids and become SAHMs - find it difficult to make friends.

My friends are those whom I met PRE-marriage, PRE-kids. They are STILL my friends.

Other than the fact that I care for two young ones (and am now working again PT), I haven't changed at all.

What happens to you women who are seeking out friendships? Did you NOT know yourselves before you got married and had kids?

No, I did not know myself. Went through a lot of changes and am glad that now I do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am curious to discover why women - who suddenly have kids and become SAHMs - find it difficult to make friends.

My friends are those whom I met PRE-marriage, PRE-kids. They are STILL my friends.

Other than the fact that I care for two young ones (and am now working again PT), I haven't changed at all.

What happens to you women who are seeking out friendships? Did you NOT know yourselves before you got married and had kids?

Some of these women may not have lived in the area pre-kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree you really are not that young. However, your peers are probably out in the suburbs because at the lower end of the 30's your peers may not be able to afford a family-sized home close in.

The definition of "family-sized home" becomes flexible for non-geriatric families who wish to buy their first homes in the city... which is actually the normal course of things in cities with high property values. DC has just joined these ranks recently.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:lol look at the 40yo women with new borns trying to feel better about their age LOL

You are an idiot.

I'm 33.

33 what? 33 year since you got your driver's license?
people in dc are too much focused in their careers that they forget about family. when they realize they missed it they pretend nothing happened and get preggo at age 40. i wonder who will be happy handling a teenager at age 55... a 55 yo is supposed to be enjoying retirement and waiting for grandchildren!

So, let see... if people live until 90 years old and retire at 55. That's 35 years of retirement and waiting for grandchildren? I hope I will do more when I retire.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First of all I didn't post anything for everyone to attack each other about what they considered old or young. I reached out to see if anyone knew of younger mother's out there......and yes younger meaning in the late 20's early 30's...you in your 40's admit you are getting OLDER!!!

So, you're doing the attacking on behalf of others?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am curious to discover why women - who suddenly have kids and become SAHMs - find it difficult to make friends.

My friends are those whom I met PRE-marriage, PRE-kids. They are STILL my friends.

Other than the fact that I care for two young ones (and am now working again PT), I haven't changed at all.

What happens to you women who are seeking out friendships? Did you NOT know yourselves before you got married and had kids?

Exactly. I have those friends too - but they don't all live here, and now that I'm a PT working Mom I'm looking for friends who can hang out during my days off, and my free time in the evening/weekends is really limited or often spent on family stuff. So I need a different group of friends for my general hang-out-with friends. Women who suddenly have kids and become SAHMs are suddenly in a very new situation - much like moving to a new city. And making NEW friends as an adult woman is hard, no matter your situation.

[Anonymous]

I had my first at 31 - most of the moms I've met around here were about the same age or a bit older when the started their families. That said, some of the moms of kids in my daughter's preschool were older because they had older kids.

I have felt some discrimination from older moms who don't seem interested in being friends with me because I'm "young" by comparison but generally speaking it doesn't seem to matter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First of all I didn't post anything for everyone to attack each other about what they considered old or young. I reached out to see if anyone knew of younger mother's out there......and yes younger meaning in the late 20's early 30's...you in your 40's admit you are getting OLDER!!!

And you're not, Peter Pan?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree you really are not that young. However, your peers are probably out in the suburbs because at the lower end of the 30's your peers may not be able to afford a family-sized home close in.

All my friends are in Georgetown! We also live in Georgetown so no not the suburbs

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First of all I didn't post anything for everyone to attack each other about what they considered old or young. I reached out to see if anyone knew of younger mother's out there......and yes younger meaning in the late 20's early 30's...you in your 40's admit you are getting OLDER!!!

And you're not, Peter Pan?

Bitter much

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 31 and about to have my first. Many women around me are also around my age and about to have kids. Many women who have toddlers now were my age when they had their kids. I'm not sure who you're hanging out with, but I'm a pretty typical lawyer in DC who sees a lot of women our age (and "young," we're not) who are pregnant or have babies.

where do you live? that you are finding women around you your age about to have kids....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First of all I didn't post anything for everyone to attack each other about what they considered old or young. I reached out to see if anyone knew of younger mother's out there......and yes younger meaning in the late 20's early 30's...you in your 40's admit you are getting OLDER!!!

And you're not, Peter Pan?

Bitter much

Meh, I thought the Peter Pan poster was funny. And she's RIGHT too, so neener neener.