Travel Sport Affairs

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Two of my three kids have played various travel sports and the amount of drunkeness that goes on amongst some of the parents sets up a situation made for extra-marital hookups. My friend's father was her softball coach. He left her mother for a teammate's mother. Like someone else said earlier in the thread, the actual hookups don't have to be during the tournaments, [b]but the stage can definitely be set at tournaments for affairs to happen once everyone's at home. Personally, I find it somewhat disturbing that so many parents find it necessary to get drunk off their asses during the downtimes at tournaments. For many of those parents, I really think the whole experience is about them and the kids' sport is a way to justify their behavior.

Most* parents obsessed with the travel sport scene are bored and living through their kids.

A willingness to put in the time and money does not always translate to obsession. I take it you were the parent who always stayed home alone and were bitter because you were alone for countless weekends?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yet another way kids travel sports can be so disruptive to family life. Don't even get me started...

+1. The dumbest time and money sink there is. Shocking how many smart people I know sucked into this lifestyle. And nearly all brats are ungrateful for the sacrifices.

So, your kid isn't good enough?

I'm a NP -- and this is drifting way off topic, but my kids aren't athletic enough that they're going to star on their high school teams, let alone get a college scholarship or the like. So, I've coached their rec teams. It's been awfully rewarding in terms of time spent with my kids and time getting to know their friends & classmates. (Also, inexpensive, limited travel, and no affairs!)

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yet another way kids travel sports can be so disruptive to family life. Don't even get me started...

+1. The dumbest time and money sink there is. Shocking how many smart people I know sucked into this lifestyle. And nearly all brats are ungrateful for the sacrifices.

Well 2 of my kids were good enough to get college scholarships...so not having to pay for college was a pretty good ROI.

And my kids (and I coached) with a lot of kids who went on to play in college - so there is that. It takes a lot of time and a lot of money. But consider this...it kept my kids busy, in good physical shape, motivated, they got to travel and meet peers, focused on grades (less time to goof off) and committed to improving themselves. It was also a way for us to bond and connect because DH and I played the same sport that they did. So it had its cons and I am not sure I would go whole hog again, but it was a net positive to my family. To each his own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Single Dad here. My daughter was on a HS dance team that performed at a national level so there was a lot of long distance travel. The dance Moms were so into it that it was bizarre. I was one of the few dads that ever made the trips and I always felt like an outsider because I was just a dad and not a "dance dad". We were at a state tournament where the girls shared rooms and I had my own room. After a big team dinner I went back to my room while the moms hung out in the bar. About an hour later there was a knock on my door and one of the moms pushed her way in an announced something like "I haven't had sex in two years and I need it now." Wine infused women have never had any appeal to me despite the fact she was quite attractive. I couldn't shove her back into the hall or be seen escorting her back to her room so I called security and asked for some help which they thankfully provided. If she had been single I might have taken her up on the offer but a married woman no way. So, stuff can happen. I was very happy that my DD was a senior and the season was almost over.

Calling security was probably the best move here. Still - this probably got talked about for the rest of the season. Or did it stay on the down-low?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yet another way kids travel sports can be so disruptive to family life. Don't even get me started...

+1. The dumbest time and money sink there is. Shocking how many smart people I know sucked into this lifestyle. And nearly all brats are ungrateful for the sacrifices.

My kid loves to play, he's good enough to be on the travel team, and I can afford it. What's it to you if we choose to do that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Single Dad here. My daughter was on a HS dance team that performed at a national level so there was a lot of long distance travel. The dance Moms were so into it that it was bizarre. I was one of the few dads that ever made the trips and I always felt like an outsider because I was just a dad and not a "dance dad". We were at a state tournament where the girls shared rooms and I had my own room. After a big team dinner I went back to my room while the moms hung out in the bar. About an hour later there was a knock on my door and one of the moms pushed her way in an announced something like "I haven't had sex in two years and I need it now." Wine infused women have never had any appeal to me despite the fact she was quite attractive. I couldn't shove her back into the hall or be seen escorting her back to her room so I called security and asked for some help which they thankfully provided. If she had been single I might have taken her up on the offer but a married woman no way. So, stuff can happen. I was very happy that my DD was a senior and the season was almost over.

Hmmmm, time to sign up DD for a "dance team" (whatever that is)...

Dad came for the dancing but stayed for the side benefits!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Single Dad here. My daughter was on a HS dance team that performed at a national level so there was a lot of long distance travel. The dance Moms were so into it that it was bizarre. I was one of the few dads that ever made the trips and I always felt like an outsider because I was just a dad and not a "dance dad". We were at a state tournament where the girls shared rooms and I had my own room. After a big team dinner I went back to my room while the moms hung out in the bar. About an hour later there was a knock on my door and one of the moms pushed her way in an announced something like "I haven't had sex in two years and I need it now." Wine infused women have never had any appeal to me despite the fact she was quite attractive. I couldn't shove her back into the hall or be seen escorting her back to her room so I called security and asked for some help which they thankfully provided. If she had been single I might have taken her up on the offer but a married woman no way. So, stuff can happen. I was very happy that my DD was a senior and the season was almost over.

Calling security was probably the best move here. Still - this probably got talked about for the rest of the season. Or did it stay on the down-low?

PP here - I'm pretty sure it stayed on the down low. I never said anything (until now!) and I can't imagine she did. Other than to say hello, I didn't speak with her again.