Friends coming over but bored

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My daughter is older but my advice is to not invite the kids over who are constantly bored. We have everything you could imagine and yet there will always be the one bored kid. It has nothing to do with what you do or don't have and it's more about that particular kid.

Agree with this.
By age 10, some kids are turning into interesting humans who can find something to do in any situation, some are turning into whiney, boring people. Avoid the later.

This.

Geez, when I was 9 and older I was allowed to ride my bike by myself and go hang out at my girlfriend's house up the street--the old time "playdate" I guess. Her parents hung a blackboard in the basement almost as big as a regular school one. We really didn't need much more than that damn blackboard or our bikes to have fun. If a certain kid is always bored--don't invite him. Let him vegetate at his own house.

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It's funny. My 8yr old is so imaginative and loves to create, play and have playdates. But we are starting to see a group of these girls not want to play anything at all. It is extremely sad.

I have always encouraged my kids to play and remind them they only have a small window of being a kid and to take advantage of it. Growing up may seem fun but it is boring. I feel like many parents WANT their kids to grow up though. They look forward to clearing out toys, not having to play with them, looking at mini me's to shop with. So many never seemed excited for anything or want to do anything. Even last year at the pool, some of the kids just sit around and looked a tablet or talked on lounge chairs. They were 8-10yrs old. No ping pong, no basketball, no marco polo. It is weird.

I am not generalizing everyone but it is a trend I have noticed more right now than 7-8yrs ago when my oldest was this age. Maybe it is just this grade my daughter is in but I feel like the more she wants to play games, create mini-plays, do a spy-hunt in the backyard, etc... the more she will get outcasted by her more "mature" peers.

I wish their was a meet-up for creative fun imaginative girls. Keep their spark going

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's funny. My 8yr old is so imaginative and loves to create, play and have playdates. But we are starting to see a group of these girls not want to play anything at all. It is extremely sad.

I have always encouraged my kids to play and remind them they only have a small window of being a kid and to take advantage of it. Growing up may seem fun but it is boring. I feel like many parents WANT their kids to grow up though. They look forward to clearing out toys, not having to play with them, looking at mini me's to shop with. So many never seemed excited for anything or want to do anything. Even last year at the pool, some of the kids just sit around and looked a tablet or talked on lounge chairs. They were 8-10yrs old. No ping pong, no basketball, no marco polo. It is weird.

I am not generalizing everyone but it is a trend I have noticed more right now than 7-8yrs ago when my oldest was this age. Maybe it is just this grade my daughter is in but I feel like the more she wants to play games, create mini-plays, do a spy-hunt in the backyard, etc... the more she will get outcasted by her more "mature" peers.

I wish their was a meet-up for creative fun imaginative girls. Keep their spark going

I have noticed this too - the push for kids not to be kids. I mean posters on this board shame parents for not telling thier kids about Santa by age 5 and we have friends who are just chomping at the bit to rid thier house of all toys the second they are not used daily. I wonder if it is the next phase of parenting following the wave of over-protectiveness. I do find age 10 to be challenging. In some ways my son is growing up, but in some ways he is just a kid.