Pick up drop off fight with DH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I DONT WAKE UP AT 7:30am. I LEAVE THE HOUSE AT 7:30 am. How could I wake up at 7:30 and have an 8:05 start time? (Which I agree is so insanely stupid and offensive that I had to get a MEMO for, but my boss/job are great in most every other way)

My DH also travels a lot, and he is gone his fair share over weekends, and I need to be really clear. He's NOT deployed. He has a desk job, he is not in harm's way. We are both well educated, and we both have reasonably important jobs. His life is not harder than mine, his personal time is not more valuable. I made a choice to marry into the Army, but he made a choice to be in the Army, and have a child with a professional woman. I'm literally asking that he does maybe 10-12 minutes of help in the morning with OUR child.

Don't bother OP. Don't let these progressive women fool you. They have antiquated views of gender roles. As you can see theit advice is always for thr woman to bed more, so more and to accommodate her man. They are modern women with careers, but with a mindset that is stuck in 1955. Its really pathetic to see it in print.

[Anonymous]

Wow. I've seen a few threads about military spouses lately. It sounds like signing up for a life of misery.

Why does anyone do it?

Plus it seems that on top of the structural challenges of the job that can't be changed, military men are super inflexible and expect their wives to cater to them - and do it with a smile. Are military divorces higher than average? I wouldn't be surprised.

[Anonymous]

I agree that since your DH's only free time is at night, then he needs to be doing household chores when he gets home.

[Anonymous]

Wake up earlier, make him do something else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm an Army wife and it never ceases to amaze me the women who get into this not thinking of what it means long-term. The time between PT and work is not free time. I'm surprised he hasn't started getting ready on post rather than coming home where you nag and bitch. Military spouses are the ones who have to compromise because the military does not. Find a daycare with more suitable hours (7am-7pm or something similar). Find a more flexible job. I work 50-60 hours a week, but I changed jobs and negotiated contracts until I was able to build the flexibility we needed. Good luck if you have any deployments leaving you a single parent for a year.

Is being a bitch also a requirement for being an army wife?

Lulz. Yes, yes, it is. As is acting like you somehow earned DH's rank and whining about how no one has it as hard as you, how you want him to get out... then whine about missing your 'military family' after he finally caves and gets out.