I'M STILL UPSET . . .

[Anonymous]

Desparate housewives indeed! If u macadamias spent this much energy entertaining your spouses maybe u wouldn't still be licking ur wounds or trying to flog a dead horse.

Idiots!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:that my child didn't get into my first two choices. The only thing that makes me feel a little better is that there are many children in the U.S. and, of course, all of the future leaders of the world will not matricluate from these two schools in D.C. Heck, our president didn't attend Sidwell and he's doing pretty darn well. Just a vent. Anybody else out there whose child didn't get into their first choice (and, as a consequence, decide to attend their third choice), but did quite well anyway? Please don't get upset woth this post. It's just my honest feeling . . .

For whom are you upset? your child or yourself?

honest question

Is your child upset?

[Anonymous]

Honestly, if you're STILL upset that your child didn't get into your top choice private school, you have no sense of proportionality. This is not a tragedy. This is about your sense of entitlement. There are people all around us who are dealing with unemployment, poverty, and sickness. Grow the hell up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, if you're STILL upset that your child didn't get into your top choice private school, you have no sense of proportionality. This is not a tragedy. This is about your sense of entitlement. There are people all around us who are dealing with unemployment, poverty, and sickness. Grow the hell up.

Amen!!!

[Anonymous]

This thread is actually about something much different than it would seem -- it's a particular type of statistic that is at issue. Go see the AA thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, if you're STILL upset that your child didn't get into your top choice private school, you have no sense of proportionality. This is not a tragedy. This is about your sense of entitlement. There are people all around us who are dealing with unemployment, poverty, and sickness. Grow the hell up.

What is proportionality, and do you use words like that around your genius kid?

[Anonymous]

OP and other indignant posters - I'm posting for the first time here and quite frankly I'm a little embarrassed for you.

[Anonymous]

This thread makes me sad. OP posted about her vulnerability and for a response she got called a racist and a loser by many here. Another person who read this thread took it to mean that some people were judging her AA kid to not be deserving of a private school spot (see the separate thread she started on this). Two very unhappy people. And it could have been prevented.

I wonder what would have happened if somebody who was concerned about the affirmative action implications of this discussion had asked OP or some of the other posters about it directly. Honestly, minority preference is only one of the many things people on this thread seemed to be interested in, and perhaps the implications for affirmative action weren't immediately obvious to some. I do see a lot of people expressing general frustration with the perceived arbitrariness of the admissions process, and requesting more information from the schools. Most important, I can't see anybody saying anything explicitly negative about affirmative action.

So I wonder if, had somebody expressed their real concerns about the implications for affirmative action, could this have been a learning experience for us all? The answers might have surprised us all, If the concern is affirmative action, why not just broach it directly, instead of calling OP and others losers?

Instead, the whole thing degenerated into immature name-calling on both sides. Ah, DCUM!

[Anonymous]

There's no "both sides" in this thread -- there are a myriad of different posters with different styles and stakes. And someone did directly and explicitly approach the affirmative action question in a spin-off thread whose title begins "AA Mom here."

Affirmative action, as far as I can tell, had little or nothing to do with the degeneration of this thread. Nanny nanny I got in and you didn't! Yeah, well you're fat. All those posts that disagree with me -- they were written by one person with an army of sock puppets who are all out to get me.

[Anonymous]

???? That wasn't exactly a helpful contribution, in fact you sound quite angry.

[Anonymous]

Actually, the OP who started the spin-off thread said that this thread had everything to do with affirmative action and how her AA kid was perceived. I agree there are some immature posters on this thread. But I don't understand why people resorted to name calling instead of asking other posters directly what they mean (and if they were even aware of some of the implications, which seems from some of the later posts not to have been the case).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:???? That wasn't exactly a helpful contribution, in fact you sound quite angry.

I'm not angry; I was just paraphrasing the trajectory of this thread.

[Anonymous]

the problem is, nobody actually mentions affirmative action on this thread until quite recently. So that everybody was dancing around each other. The folks who were debating affirmative action called OP entitled, while other folks clearly didn't understand that the first group was debating a different topic and didn't know where the entitlement stuff was coming from. I put myself in the latter category.

[Anonymous]

I thought that the entitlement stuff was coming,at least in part, from the notion that private schools had an obligation to make lots of data available to people whose only relationship to to the school is that they might apply or their kids had been rejected. The indignation/I've been robbed (vs. I didn't or I didn't get what I wanted) attitude in a context where it's pretty obvious from the beginning that admission is a long-shot not a likelihood is enough to raise the question of whether some posters seem to have a real sense of entitlement. It's not just debates over affirmative action that gave rise to that charge. (And it's not OP herself/alone that sparked it -- more like the cumulative effect of certain kinds of empathy.)

[Anonymous]

I think this thread has run it's course and can be buried in peace. If you want to talk about affirmative action, go to that thread. If you want to talk about whether schools should be required to release more application data, go to that thread. Let's move along and stop rubbernecking here.