I'M STILL UPSET . . .

[Anonymous]

Tool.

[Anonymous]

But they do know their targets, as a percent of the incoming class, for siblings and diversity. And they could easily say things like, "last year we had 200 applicants for 20 slots, of which 8 slots went to siblings and also 30% of the incoming class was underrepresented minorities." That would be really helpful, and I'm sure these stats are already available and widely known within the schools. But they never share them....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:But they do know their targets, as a percent of the incoming class, for siblings and diversity. And they could easily say things like, "last year we had 200 applicants for 20 slots, of which 8 slots went to siblings and also 30% of the incoming class was underrepresented minorities." That would be really helpful, and I'm sure these stats are already available and widely known within the schools. But they never share them....

But what if those stats don't apply to this year, how is that necessarily helpful? Look, if we had known the exact, or near-exact, odds, we probably would've not applied to our top choice. I remember meeting wonderful children and families at playdates, openhouses, and in the lobbies. Yes, I could not help but think "oh, well they are more appealing than we are." But we persevered with the process. Look, we had good luck this year, but we may have ended up disappointed next year or last year. That is why we applied to a range of schools and found something we liked at each one. And we prepared ourselves for each one to minimize any possible disappointment if our DC did not end up at the first choice.

If that makes us tool, then when can I say.....

[Anonymous]

I called an area school during the appropriate admission period time and asked them after siblings, alumni kids, staff kids, and teacher kids, how many spots they were anticipating were open for 3rd grade, their entry year. They told me four. I really appreciated their honesty. However, they could have just been lying to me. I’ll never know because we didn’t apply.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I called an area school during the appropriate admission period time and asked them after siblings, alumni kids, staff kids, and teacher kids, how many spots they were anticipating were open for 3rd grade, their entry year. They told me four. I really appreciated their honesty. However, they could have just been lying to me. I’ll never know because we didn’t apply.

If we had been told there was just one spot after sibs, alum, faculty kids, etc, we probably would've not applied. I am glad that we didn't know that level of detail because our DC was admitted.

[Anonymous]

The truth is, for most families, it is about the parents not the child in PK and K entry schools (or N in a few cases).

[Anonymous]

So don't be upset. No one was passing judgment on your DC. It's you yourself that were not worthy.

[Anonymous]

Troll alert...

This thread makes me happy. My DD got into 4/5 schools (2 big three's). In my "world", I believe that most of you posting have ignored me at playgrounds, passed judgment on me and are generally just plain old snobs. While that is probably not true, I am getting some pleasure out of knowing that our normal, average family was worthy of admission and yours were not.

Those of you still obsessing over not getting into to your top choice never stopped to think that the AD's could smell your desparation a mile away. I wouldn't want you at my school either.

[Anonymous]

The Germans have a word for it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Troll alert...

This thread makes me happy. My DD got into 4/5 schools (2 big three's). In my "world", I believe that most of you posting have ignored me at playgrounds, passed judgment on me and are generally just plain old snobs. While that is probably not true, I am getting some pleasure out of knowing that our normal, average family was worthy of admission and yours were not.

Those of you still obsessing over not getting into to your top choice never stopped to think that the AD's could smell your desparation a mile away. I wouldn't want you at my school either.

We haven't ignored you, sweetie. We just choose not to hang out with the fat mom with the mental problems.

[Anonymous]

Looks like the private schools preferred the fat mom with the mental problems over your snarky ass!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Looks like the private schools preferred the fat mom with the mental problems over your snarky ass!

If this is an example of the sort of people who make up the PTA in the top privates in the area, then I think we're all better off homeschooling or in public schools.

The OP was looking for some understanding and kindness and look at where this has led.

Some of you parents really should seek professional help for your 'issues'. What would possess someone to come online, seek out this thread and make such horrible posts, if not real mental problems?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Looks like the private schools preferred the fat mom with the mental problems over your snarky ass!

If this is an example of the sort of people who make up the PTA in the top privates in the area, then I think we're all better off homeschooling or in public schools.

The OP was looking for some understanding and kindness and look at where this has led.

Some of you parents really should seek professional help for your 'issues'. What would possess someone to come online, seek out this thread and make such horrible posts, if not real mental problems?

I agree with part of your comments and, yes, folks should extend some kindness and understanding to the OP. The thread takes some turns, however, that are troubling. Should schools really tell families what are the odds for admission? Will this discourage families who may have had luck in the process? What if their DS was quiet and thoughtful and all the siblings that year were real extroverts - teachers like to have balance in a classroom. The DS may zoom up the list with his personality.

Also, shouldn't a parent have a Plan B, C, D or E when applying to schools? How can folks expect a DC to express gratitude if parents don't try to find something redeeming in their second, third, fourth choices? One PP wrote about DC not being admitted to any schools. That has to be really tough, especially if the family does not think their local public is even a middling fit for DC.

I don't even know what to say about the mental problems and fat asses comments. My hunch is that therapists in the area must have waiting lists for folks with a variety of conditions....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Looks like the private schools preferred the fat mom with the mental problems over your snarky ass!

Luv u!!!
10:21 poster here... That response is exactly why I wrote what I wrote. None of you unhappy women can admit that your kid just didn't cut it and you and your spouse were just not what the schools want. They have to resort to name calling and stupid assumptions about the fat woman with mental problems. I assure that I am not fat or mental. I am probably staring at you from my corner office planning for the 2009-10 school year at my first choice!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Looks like the private schools preferred the fat mom with the mental problems over your snarky ass!

I can pretty much guarantee that whoever wrote this isn't at a Big 3! My child is at a Big Three and I have never heard anyone make comments like this - ever!