cheerleaders excessive bullying

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My daughter(15) is on the varsity cheerleading team at her high school. There are 12 seniors on her squad and only 4 lower class girls. My daughter does not fit the typical cheerleader stereotype. She does not enjoy going to parities, is not into drama/boys and is not very fashionable(jeans, tshirt kind of girl)

The senior girls on the squad are bullying her to the point my daughter no longer smiles. They drop her on purpose from stunts to see if she will cry. They force her to say swear words since she doesn't like to cuss, they tell her they lost a competition because of her ugly face, they tell her since her boyfriend doesn't have sex with her he doesn't love her. The list is endless. She says the younger girls on the squad do not join in on the bullying but are to afraid to say anything .

I spoke with the coach and she said that my daughter is too sensitive and is very shy. She said that if my daughter would stop crying, they wouldn't pick on her. She told me how she likes for the girls to work things out themselves and she always stops it if she thinks it's gone too far. From my perceptive the coach likes to be buddy buddy with these older girls and they basically run the show.

My daughter says she won't quit because then she won't get a scholarship. She wants to cheer in college and is actually very good. She says if I go to the principal, it will make it much worse and that they already were saying mean things from my conversation with the coach. I am at a loss. My husband and I feel helpless seeing her come home from practice and go straight to her room to cry. I just want her to quit and be done with it.

This is how school shooters are born.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Check out the local all star program. I'm not a cheer parent so I'm not super familiar, but was a college cheerleader. I'm not sure any of the high schools around here are good enough for her to get a big scholarship- my scholarship for cheer was like $2,000/ semester at a private school. Helpful, but not worth the bullying. I tried out the summer before my freshman year and got on the team. She just needs to stay active with tumbling or an all star team and she will be fine.

This! If she’s good, get her into the gym with a competitive team!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am sorry this is happening. You need to pull your DD out, it sounds like she is a flier and this is no joke, if they are dropping her, she could get seriously injured. Quick question, which colleges offer cheerleading scholarships? And I don't mean a one time $500. Thanks.

Yes. I cheered for LSU about 100 years ago and had a full ride for my 4 years of undergrad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would send an email to the coach re-expressing your concerns and capturing her understanding and copy the principal. Something like this:

As I mentioned to you when we spoke on ___The senior girls on the squad are bullying her to the point my daughter no longer smiles. They drop her on purpose from stunts to see if she will cry. They force her to say swear words since she doesn't like to cuss, they tell her they lost a competition because of her ugly face, they tell her since her boyfriend doesn't have sex with her he doesn't love her. The list is endless. She says the younger girls on the squad do not join in on the bullying but are to afraid to say anything.

I know that you said that you like to let the girls work things out on their own, but I am concerned that my daughter could be physically hurt and I don't believe she should have to endure the bullying I have described. You indicated that you would "stop the bullying if you thought it had gone too far." In my view, it has already gone to far. Can we please schedule a meeting to come up with a strategy to put an end to it.

I look forward to discussing this further at your earliest convenience.

This.

And start looking around for a lawyer. Because even if this goes your way it's likely there will still be further backlash from the bullies. At that point you want to scare the crap out of them and their parents with a cease and desist letter from an attorney. Or the school is going to try to make you the problem, at which point you will likely need to let them know you aren't messing around.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread is 8 years old guys

Oops. LOL.

[Anonymous]

No sport is worth this. Scholarships are super rare anyway. Don't count on it. That is putting way to much pressure and value on something unlikely to happen anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Omg you must be talking about Lee high school in San Antonio TX. The girls on that squad are totally hoochies. The bully my daughter bc they are jealous. She's a 3 time All American. The follow no rules.

WHY did you revive an 8 year old thread? What on earth were you searching that lead you to this ancient topic?