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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My FIL came to my house while we were out of town and painted our master bedroom a hideous color.

You win.

I have a crazy in-law house story, too!

So, DH and I bought our very first house. All financed by us, no help from parents/in-laws, etc. So we're excited, you know? First house and all. But - a week after we close, we are going on an international vacation. No big deal - we hire someone to come paint, etc, but don't actually plan to move in until after we're back in the states. However, in-laws are OBSESSED with the house. Like, they drove by it multiple times prior to our closing, even though we asked them to be cool. We assured them that they would have plenty of time to see the house, after we moved in. Unless they wanted to help move - in which case, here's the date, and we'll see you bright and early!

Anyway, we made the mistake of leaving our keys with the in-laws. Since we would be out of the country, we figured it would be helpful to have someone on this side of the ocean with keys in case the painters locked themselves out or burned the house down or something. Figuring that the in-laws would be normal people and, you know, wait until we were at least present before barging into our new home. Oh, but no... While I'm in Europe, I see a facebook post from one of the in-laws, and the setting looks familiar? And then I realize that the whole family (MIL, Grand-MIL, aunts, uncles) are in my newly painted office. That I haven't even seen in person yet. And they didn't even tell us directly - it was just a facebook post on one of their walls - neither DH nor I were tagged or anything.

A few months after we moved in, MIL and FIL are visiting for Christmas. MIL has the audacity to make a huge fuss about wanting a tour of the new house! I said, "Well, you saw it already, so..." and made DH handle that.

Fully admit that I'm still mad about it. And will absolutely never give my in-laws a set of spare keys ever again.

[Anonymous]

When DH and I got engaged, my dad called all of his extended relatives (most of whom I hadn't even seen for more than a decade) and invited them to the wedding. That we hadn't even planned yet, and were planning to finance ourselves anyway. Apparently many were disappointed/insulted when we had a tiny ceremony and dinner for immediate family only.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We told everyone we were having a quiet Thanksgiving with just us at home this year. There have been some extended family issues and we want some time alone with the kids stress free. MIL called and said she needs to come now since she made a doctors appointment in our town that Friday. She lives 10 hours away and has never had a doctors appointment here before. DH and I are arguing over this. He thinks I am selfish. I think MIL is manipulating and has no boundaries.

Oh, fuck no. No, no, no. Stick to your guns here, PP.

If my DH "stuck to his guns" about this, I would book a trip for myself and my kids and leave him to it. Enjoy your mother's fictional doctor's appointment!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We told everyone we were having a quiet Thanksgiving with just us at home this year. There have been some extended family issues and we want some time alone with the kids stress free. MIL called and said she needs to come now since she made a doctors appointment in our town that Friday. She lives 10 hours away and has never had a doctors appointment here before. DH and I are arguing over this. He thinks I am selfish. I think MIL is manipulating and has no boundaries.

Oh, fuck no. No, no, no. Stick to your guns here, PP.

If my DH "stuck to his guns" about this, I would book a trip for myself and my kids and leave him to it. Enjoy your mother's fictional doctor's appointment!

+1. Holy F*ck how could anyone not see that she is making up the appointment?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My FIL came to my house while we were out of town and painted our master bedroom a hideous color.

You win.

I have a crazy in-law house story, too!

So, DH and I bought our very first house. All financed by us, no help from parents/in-laws, etc. So we're excited, you know? First house and all. But - a week after we close, we are going on an international vacation. No big deal - we hire someone to come paint, etc, but don't actually plan to move in until after we're back in the states. However, in-laws are OBSESSED with the house. Like, they drove by it multiple times prior to our closing, even though we asked them to be cool. We assured them that they would have plenty of time to see the house, after we moved in. Unless they wanted to help move - in which case, here's the date, and we'll see you bright and early!

Anyway, we made the mistake of leaving our keys with the in-laws. Since we would be out of the country, we figured it would be helpful to have someone on this side of the ocean with keys in case the painters locked themselves out or burned the house down or something. Figuring that the in-laws would be normal people and, you know, wait until we were at least present before barging into our new home. Oh, but no... While I'm in Europe, I see a facebook post from one of the in-laws, and the setting looks familiar? And then I realize that the whole family (MIL, Grand-MIL, aunts, uncles) are in my newly painted office. That I haven't even seen in person yet. And they didn't even tell us directly - it was just a facebook post on one of their walls - neither DH nor I were tagged or anything.

A few months after we moved in, MIL and FIL are visiting for Christmas. MIL has the audacity to make a huge fuss about wanting a tour of the new house! I said, "Well, you saw it already, so..." and made DH handle that.

Fully admit that I'm still mad about it. And will absolutely never give my in-laws a set of spare keys ever again.

Who cares about this? The big boundary issue is that they looked at your house. Um, ok.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My FIL came to my house while we were out of town and painted our master bedroom a hideous color.

You win.

I have a crazy in-law house story, too!

So, DH and I bought our very first house. All financed by us, no help from parents/in-laws, etc. So we're excited, you know? First house and all. But - a week after we close, we are going on an international vacation. No big deal - we hire someone to come paint, etc, but don't actually plan to move in until after we're back in the states. However, in-laws are OBSESSED with the house. Like, they drove by it multiple times prior to our closing, even though we asked them to be cool. We assured them that they would have plenty of time to see the house, after we moved in. Unless they wanted to help move - in which case, here's the date, and we'll see you bright and early!

Anyway, we made the mistake of leaving our keys with the in-laws. Since we would be out of the country, we figured it would be helpful to have someone on this side of the ocean with keys in case the painters locked themselves out or burned the house down or something. Figuring that the in-laws would be normal people and, you know, wait until we were at least present before barging into our new home. Oh, but no... While I'm in Europe, I see a facebook post from one of the in-laws, and the setting looks familiar? And then I realize that the whole family (MIL, Grand-MIL, aunts, uncles) are in my newly painted office. That I haven't even seen in person yet. And they didn't even tell us directly - it was just a facebook post on one of their walls - neither DH nor I were tagged or anything.

A few months after we moved in, MIL and FIL are visiting for Christmas. MIL has the audacity to make a huge fuss about wanting a tour of the new house! I said, "Well, you saw it already, so..." and made DH handle that.

Fully admit that I'm still mad about it. And will absolutely never give my in-laws a set of spare keys ever again.

Who cares about this? The big boundary issue is that they looked at your house. Um, ok.

+1

I don't get what the big deal was. None of your stuff was in the house. It was just a big empty house? Who cares. They were excited for you. This is totally something my mom would do and I wouldn't care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My FIL came to my house while we were out of town and painted our master bedroom a hideous color.

You win.

I have a crazy in-law house story, too!

So, DH and I bought our very first house. All financed by us, no help from parents/in-laws, etc. So we're excited, you know? First house and all. But - a week after we close, we are going on an international vacation. No big deal - we hire someone to come paint, etc, but don't actually plan to move in until after we're back in the states. However, in-laws are OBSESSED with the house. Like, they drove by it multiple times prior to our closing, even though we asked them to be cool. We assured them that they would have plenty of time to see the house, after we moved in. Unless they wanted to help move - in which case, here's the date, and we'll see you bright and early!

Anyway, we made the mistake of leaving our keys with the in-laws. Since we would be out of the country, we figured it would be helpful to have someone on this side of the ocean with keys in case the painters locked themselves out or burned the house down or something. Figuring that the in-laws would be normal people and, you know, wait until we were at least present before barging into our new home. Oh, but no... While I'm in Europe, I see a facebook post from one of the in-laws, and the setting looks familiar? And then I realize that the whole family (MIL, Grand-MIL, aunts, uncles) are in my newly painted office. That I haven't even seen in person yet. And they didn't even tell us directly - it was just a facebook post on one of their walls - neither DH nor I were tagged or anything.

A few months after we moved in, MIL and FIL are visiting for Christmas. MIL has the audacity to make a huge fuss about wanting a tour of the new house! I said, "Well, you saw it already, so..." and made DH handle that.

Fully admit that I'm still mad about it. And will absolutely never give my in-laws a set of spare keys ever again.

Who cares about this? The big boundary issue is that they looked at your house. Um, ok.

+1

I don't get what the big deal was. None of your stuff was in the house. It was just a big empty house? Who cares. They were excited for you. This is totally something my mom would do and I wouldn't care.

What is wrong with you, two PPs? You never, EVER enter someone's home without their knowledge and explicit consent, unless it is a true emergency. (And keys were only given for an EMERGENCY.) You also don't ever, EVER invite people to someone else's house!

WTF is wrong with you? So glad you aren't related to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:On the day of our engagement, instead of saying congrats, MIL pulled me aside and asked me point-blank if I was having sex with her son (now DH). I was dumb-founded, and didn't answer so she goes on to tell me "Come on, tell me. I was having sex with FIL before marriage. Now your turn?" I still didn't answer, but got super red in the face. I later found out from DH that she then wrote him an email and said that I had *told* her that we were having sex (I hadn't) and to make sure that we use birth control because -- and I QUOTE -- "Engagements break up all the time, and I don't want that woman to trick you into marriage when you realize she's all wrong for you."

Shortly after we told her I was pregnant, my MIL called to gush over how "magical" pregnancy is and how it's so amazing that a man ejaculates inside you and you get pregnant.

I don't really want to discuss my husband's ejaculations with anyone, least of all his mother!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My FIL came to my house while we were out of town and painted our master bedroom a hideous color.

You win.

I have a crazy in-law house story, too!

So, DH and I bought our very first house. All financed by us, no help from parents/in-laws, etc. So we're excited, you know? First house and all. But - a week after we close, we are going on an international vacation. No big deal - we hire someone to come paint, etc, but don't actually plan to move in until after we're back in the states. However, in-laws are OBSESSED with the house. Like, they drove by it multiple times prior to our closing, even though we asked them to be cool. We assured them that they would have plenty of time to see the house, after we moved in. Unless they wanted to help move - in which case, here's the date, and we'll see you bright and early!

Anyway, we made the mistake of leaving our keys with the in-laws. Since we would be out of the country, we figured it would be helpful to have someone on this side of the ocean with keys in case the painters locked themselves out or burned the house down or something. Figuring that the in-laws would be normal people and, you know, wait until we were at least present before barging into our new home. Oh, but no... While I'm in Europe, I see a facebook post from one of the in-laws, and the setting looks familiar? And then I realize that the whole family (MIL, Grand-MIL, aunts, uncles) are in my newly painted office. That I haven't even seen in person yet. And they didn't even tell us directly - it was just a facebook post on one of their walls - neither DH nor I were tagged or anything.

A few months after we moved in, MIL and FIL are visiting for Christmas. MIL has the audacity to make a huge fuss about wanting a tour of the new house! I said, "Well, you saw it already, so..." and made DH handle that.

Fully admit that I'm still mad about it. And will absolutely never give my in-laws a set of spare keys ever again.

Who cares about this? The big boundary issue is that they looked at your house. Um, ok.

+1

I don't get what the big deal was. None of your stuff was in the house. It was just a big empty house? Who cares. They were excited for you. This is totally something my mom would do and I wouldn't care.

What is wrong with you, two PPs? You never, EVER enter someone's home without their knowledge and explicit consent, unless it is a true emergency. (And keys were only given for an EMERGENCY.) You also don't ever, EVER invite people to someone else's house!

WTF is wrong with you? So glad you aren't related to me.

Thanks, reasonable PP!

I mean, really... you other PPs wouldn't care if someone just... went to your house? Walked right in? Without your knowledge or permission?

And to the bolded - the big boundary issue is that WE were excited. Because it was our first house. This isn't like I bought a new jacket that my mom showed my sister. This was a huge expense, and a huge step for us as adult humans, that we were excited to show our relatives. And they treated it like communal property and waltzed right in without telling us.

[Anonymous]

My mom has walked into my house (when the back slider was kept unlocked, no longer does this occur!) and sat on the hallway steps to listen to me read my toddler son a book before nap and sing his naptime songs.

She's also come to my house to borrow my husband's tools without permission and without us being home.

Both my MIL and mother have gotten up in the middle of the night while visiting us and barged into our son's nursery when he's been crying in the middle of the night. Several times when I was nursing and twice with my husband in his boxes rocking the baby. Then they've spoken in loud voices and offered to take over.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mom has walked into my house (when the back slider was kept unlocked, no longer does this occur!) and sat on the hallway steps to listen to me read my toddler son a book before nap and sing his naptime songs.

She's also come to my house to borrow my husband's tools without permission and without us being home.

Both my MIL and mother have gotten up in the middle of the night while visiting us and barged into our son's nursery when he's been crying in the middle of the night. Several times when I was nursing and twice with my husband in his boxes rocking the baby. Then they've spoken in loud voices and offered to take over.

Sorry, I chuckled a bit at the thought of your mother or MIL trying to "take over" nursing your child. I think you've pretty much got that handled.

[Anonymous]

My mother and my stepdad came to visit me and Ex-BF while we lived in Europe. Ex-bf and I went on a business trip simultaneously for a few days and came back to new plants in planter boxes. My mother decided things I planted a few weeks ago didn't look good enough, they were fine really.....getting ready to bloom....so she planted her own stuff. She also re-arranged our furniture and added a few decorations. My poor stepdad tried to stop re-arranging and re-planting, but was almost sent packing and was told that it is not his child and to stop any parenting advice. Ouch! We had a FRANK talk upon our return (the men stayed out of it) and my mother refused to talk to me for six months afterwards. Thank god motherly helicoptering finally stopped after this incident...we're good now.

[Anonymous]

This book is a truly sick version of an overly attached mother. Am I wrong?
https://itunes.apple.com/us/book/love-you-forever/id590247941?mt=11

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This book is a truly sick version of an overly attached mother. Am I wrong?
https://itunes.apple.com/us/book/love-you-forever/id590247941?mt=11

OMG I totally agree! I mean, it's cute at first and I see the point but... if my MIL came INTO my house with a ladder in the middle of the night and got in bed with my husband?! Why is this a children's story?! And why is it so successful!?

[Anonymous]

My MIL physically tried to put a coat on me.