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[Anonymous]

I think there was a movement on facebook to make abortion and people's reasons more visible. People I saw posting had an explanation of why they were posting--in order to keep abortion visible. Maybe she decided it was safe to "come out?" Anyhow, obviously not a good decision.

[Anonymous]

MIL mentioned to my husband for the second time that she believes we should pay for my oldest son's graduate school because we make enough money (he's a junior in college). Funny, she's never brought it up when I'm within earshot, as if the decision is solely my husband's. He told her that we probably weren't going to be paying for grad school and she told him "she'd keep working on him."

We're already paying for my DS' undergrad, which we saved for since he was born and we have two other sons' college to pay for, too. I grew up in a lower middle class household and didn't know how I was going to pay for college, so we always stressed to our kids that they wouldn't have that worry. Consequently, while our oldest son did well in school and is a really good kid, he wasn't and isn't motivated in the least to find scholarships because he said he knew the cost would be covered. Even if we were going to pay for grad school, we'd never tell him ahead of time because he'd not try to find a way to fund it himself. We are willing to let him live at home and pay for his food, etc. (he has a job and pays his car insurance and other expenses) during grad school.

We've never asked either set of in-laws for money and have done well for ourselves, so it's galling that MIL thinks she's got any kind of say in this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:MIL mentioned to my husband for the second time that she believes we should pay for my oldest son's graduate school because we make enough money (he's a junior in college). Funny, she's never brought it up when I'm within earshot, as if the decision is solely my husband's. He told her that we probably weren't going to be paying for grad school and she told him "she'd keep working on him."

We're already paying for my DS' undergrad, which we saved for since he was born and we have two other sons' college to pay for, too. I grew up in a lower middle class household and didn't know how I was going to pay for college, so we always stressed to our kids that they wouldn't have that worry. Consequently, while our oldest son did well in school and is a really good kid, he wasn't and isn't motivated in the least to find scholarships because he said he knew the cost would be covered. Even if we were going to pay for grad school, we'd never tell him ahead of time because he'd not try to find a way to fund it himself. We are willing to let him live at home and pay for his food, etc. (he has a job and pays his car insurance and other expenses) during grad school.

We've never asked either set of in-laws for money and have done well for ourselves, so it's galling that MIL thinks she's got any kind of say in this.

Open your mouth and tell her to mind her own business. No need to stew. How is this a "bad DIL" story if you've said/done nothing?

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Anonymous wrote:MIL mentioned to my husband for the second time that she believes we should pay for my oldest son's graduate school because we make enough money (he's a junior in college). Funny, she's never brought it up when I'm within earshot[i], as if the decision is solely my husband's. He told her that we probably weren't going to be paying for grad school and she told him "she'd keep working on him."

We're already paying for my DS' undergrad, which we saved for since he was born and we have two other sons' college to pay for, too. I grew up in a lower middle class household and didn't know how I was going to pay for college, so we always stressed to our kids that they wouldn't have that worry. Consequently, while our oldest son did well in school and is a really good kid, he wasn't and isn't motivated in the least to find scholarships because he said he knew the cost would be covered. Even if we were going to pay for grad school, we'd never tell him ahead of time because he'd not try to find a way to fund it himself. We are willing to let him live at home and pay for his food, etc. (he has a job and pays his car insurance and other expenses) during grad school.

We've never asked either set of in-laws for money and have done well for ourselves, so it's galling that MIL thinks she's got any kind of say in this.

Open your mouth and tell her to mind her own business. No need to stew. How is this a "bad DIL" story if you've said/done nothing?

PP here-this is the relatives without boundaries thread, not the bad DILs thread. Anyway, I haven't had the opportunity to "open my mouth and tell her to mind her own business" because (see bold italics above) she hasn't said any of it in front of me, probably because she knows that's what I'd do.