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Anonymous wrote:My MIL asked me if my pregnancy was "unplanned." This was our third baby and we'd been married for a decade at this point. I gathered myself together and told her it was VERY much planned and we were shocked at how quickly I got pregnant!

Before she was my MIL, she felt the need to tell me how and when and where DH was conceived. Seared forever into my memory and I don't think DH even knows.

MIL has no filter and surprise, no friends.

Back With another one, this time my own mother.

DH and I had a relatively small wedding, maybe 75 guests and an even smaller rehearsal dinner, just a few out of town relatives and close friends. IL's hosted the dinner (traditional to do so) and naturally, asked us to come up with a guest list help with guest list. Great, simple, easy.

Honey, you need to get over this. Nobody cares in the grand scheme of things. Let it go!
So, night before our wedding in tiny, quaint little restaurant, imagine my surprise when there seemed to be chaos...waiters moving tables, bringing out entire place settings and chairs. My own mother dissolved into tears the prior night, suddenly realizing that she had a small family of origin (duh...) and that "her family" wasn't adequately represented at the rehearsal dinner , so she went ahead and invited two couples, friends of hers, to make things "more even." No checking in with my ILs, no checking with me, the bride, no call ahead to the restaurant. Thinking about this 15 years later and it makes me angry all over again. Thanks, Mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Extended family Thanksgiving dinner, pretty low-key, game on the television for the guys. Dip, chips, crudite, and some little pastry things. Several gray-haired aunts and great-aunts sipping tea in the dining room.

Then we are in the twilight zone, and one of the great aunts says she thinks her uterus is falling out after a minor surgery, and could I please check, as I'm the only one in the room who doesn't need glasses.

And they just keep sipping tea and nodding at me expectantly.

And? Finish the story!

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Op here. We were not having sex during the party. I was mentioning the party to explain why we were there for a whole weekend. This was after the party and everyone was going to bed/milling around eating midnight snacks and things.

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Sil asked me to remove her IUD.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Extended family Thanksgiving dinner, pretty low-key, game on the television for the guys. Dip, chips, crudite, and some little pastry things. Several gray-haired aunts and great-aunts sipping tea in the dining room.

Then we are in the twilight zone, and one of the great aunts says she thinks her uterus is falling out after a minor surgery, and could I please check, as I'm the only one in the room who doesn't need glasses.

And they just keep sipping tea and nodding at me expectantly.

That's not a boundary issue. It is sundowner's disease. But yes, it's a hoot.

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Anonymous wrote:My mother thought it was cool if instead of getting her own Facebook page, she'd "share" mine and use it to lurk at all of the friends and relatives she didn't want to make the effort to have relationships with.

And you let her do this why?

I was at her house and using her laptop to show her a photo on Facebook and didn't log out. She took that as license to use my account from then on; once I realized it, I changed my password and she was pissed that I had the nerve to do that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mother thought it was cool if instead of getting her own Facebook page, she'd "share" mine and use it to lurk at all of the friends and relatives she didn't want to make the effort to have relationships with.

I actually see nothing wrong with this. My husband uses mine instead of creating his own. Assuming she just views and doesn't post or like or anything like that, no big deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My mother thought it was cool if instead of getting her own Facebook page, she'd "share" mine and use it to lurk at all of the friends and relatives she didn't want to make the effort to have relationships with.

I actually see nothing wrong with this. My husband uses mine instead of creating his own. Assuming she just views and doesn't post or like or anything like that, no big deal.

Yeah, no. PP didn't actually give consent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Extended family Thanksgiving dinner, pretty low-key, game on the television for the guys. Dip, chips, crudite, and some little pastry things. Several gray-haired aunts and great-aunts sipping tea in the dining room.

Then we are in the twilight zone, and one of the great aunts says she thinks her uterus is falling out after a minor surgery, and could I please check, as I'm the only one in the room who doesn't need glasses.

And they just keep sipping tea and nodding at me expectantly.

And? Finish the story!

Oh my God with the vagina stories! I was the Pp who posted about MIL who worries about her allegedly smelly vagina. Mil has zero bounderies and like another poster, zero friends. What are people thinking? There is nothing to be ashamed of, but it was weird and inappropriate to bring up some a personal matter (my uterus is falling out!) in the settings described. So weird!

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Anonymous wrote:Ready for this one?

We told our inlaws that we were having a girl. My MIL tells my husband that she hopes girl baby won't inherit her propensity to get bacterial vaginosis and have to worry that her vagina smells like fish. I was talking to FIL (who was obviously trying to distract me). Husband nearly fell out of his chair.

Same MIL- told my SIL the night before her wedding that she hoped she would be faithful to her husband. She then carefully detailed all of her affairs going into graphic detail.

Husband and FIL go through some boxes as they're cleaning out the garage. Husband finds photographs. Starts flipping through until he finds nude ones of his parents. Husband is a very modest person and ends up throwing photos on the floor in shock. FIL explains that these photos are no big deal and they love to keep the marriage fresh.

OMG. Third one -- ok, this could happen to anyone if they forgot what was in the boxes. Second one -- ugh but pretty typical of DCUM no-boundary stories. First one -- so awful and gross on so many levels!

Forgot to mention also that when my SIL divorced the guy, my MIL sympathetically asked "did the affairs start?" Wtf? My poor SIL was always faithful to her husband as he was to her- they were divorcing and very sad, but of course MIL made it about her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ready for this one?

We told our inlaws that we were having a girl. My MIL tells my husband that she hopes girl baby won't inherit her propensity to get bacterial vaginosis and have to worry that her vagina smells like fish. I was talking to FIL (who was obviously trying to distract me). Husband nearly fell out of his chair.

Same MIL- told my SIL the night before her wedding that she hoped she would be faithful to her husband. She then carefully detailed all of her affairs going into graphic detail.

Husband and FIL go through some boxes as they're cleaning out the garage. Husband finds photographs. Starts flipping through until he finds nude ones of his parents. Husband is a very modest person and ends up throwing photos on the floor in shock. FIL explains that these photos are no big deal and they love to keep the marriage fresh.

Oh shit!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My mother thought it was cool if instead of getting her own Facebook page, she'd "share" mine and use it to lurk at all of the friends and relatives she didn't want to make the effort to have relationships with.

I actually see nothing wrong with this. My husband uses mine instead of creating his own. Assuming she just views and doesn't post or like or anything like that, no big deal.

Yeah, no. PP didn't actually give consent.

PP here; I didn't give my consent and she started asking me about private messages, etc. She also started looking up everyone she ever knew from high school, elementary school, etc. (which I know isn't all that unusual when a person first starts using FB) and was on my account all the time, so it looked like I was online and not answering people's messages. It was a mess. My DH browses my FB and I couldn't care less that he does, but it isn't in lieu of having his own relationships with people.

[Anonymous]

Back With another one, this time my own mother.

DH and I had a relatively small wedding, maybe 75 guests and an even smaller rehearsal dinner, just a few out of town relatives and close friends. IL's hosted the dinner (traditional to do so) and naturally, asked us to come up with a guest list help with guest list. Great, simple, easy.

So, night before our wedding in tiny, quaint little restaurant, imagine my surprise when there seemed to be chaos...waiters moving tables, bringing out entire place settings and chairs. My own mother dissolved into tears the prior night, suddenly realizing that she had a small family of origin (duh...) and that "her family" wasn't adequately represented at the rehearsal dinner , so she went ahead and invited two couples, friends of hers, to make things "more even." No checking in with my ILs, no checking with me, the bride, no call ahead to the restaurant. Thinking about this 15 years later and it makes me angry all over again. Thanks, Mom.

Oh my gosh. Are you me? Same thing at my rehearsal dinner. Plus, my parents didn't seem to understand that bridesmaids/groomsmen should be at the rehearsal dinner, but not necessarily every single one of the gajillion family members that they had invited to the wedding. So WIERD since I had asked them at least 5 times about the guests they felt should be at the rehearsal dinner. Of course the night of everything changes, and MIL had been kind enough to personally calligraphy all the guests names and do all the centerpieces, so she was rushed at the end. So embarrassing. MIL still avoids my parents.

[Anonymous]

Before we were married, my MIL asked me to describe my bowel movements. We were sitting together after dinner, just the two of us. She is very extremely into health food herbs and supplements.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Before we were married, my MIL asked me to describe my bowel movements. We were sitting together after dinner, just the two of us. She is very extremely into health food herbs and supplements.

Oh God.