DH says he wants to quit his job....and just take time off

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Anonymous wrote:We have been married for 20 years. DH is 55, me 44. Our last child will be leaving for college in the fall. DH says once DD is gone, he would like to downsize the house, declutter, and move to one of our smaller rental properties in the area. He also says he thinks is time for him to quit his job and take some time off. After 20 years of supporting a wife and family, he says he's burnt out. However, I resent he thinks I should keep working. I've only been able to really rests lush myself in my career and just gained a six figure income for the first time. I would like to to treat myself to some nice things, like a new car, maybe some brand name fashion items, etc.

DH is eligible to retire now, and would net some money from his Federal pension. Selling the house would save $2500 per month and we would net about $300K from the sale. His pension would bring in $2600 per month, and he says he could do some part time work to add to his income. I make about $115K per year.

I think he is being childish and selfish and needs to buck up for another 10 years or do.

glad you are not my wife. are you trying to kill your dh?

Well let me ask the obvious. If a man has support a family for decades and wants to downsize - smaller house, smaller cars, less stressful job, does he have the "right" to do that if his role has taken a toll on him? I would really love to get answers from non-troll women on this one.

SAHM of 24 years here, with one launched and another who will need lifelong care. My DH and I are almost 55 and I have been putting the idea in his head that we should consider downsizing and consider his retirement in five or so years. He says he'll need to work until he dies. No way, in my book. I'm starting to cut back on our lifestyle now.

You didn't answer the question.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have been married for 20 years. DH is 55, me 44. Our last child will be leaving for college in the fall. DH says once DD is gone, he would like to downsize the house, declutter, and move to one of our smaller rental properties in the area. He also says he thinks is time for him to quit his job and take some time off. After 20 years of supporting a wife and family, he says he's burnt out. However, I resent he thinks I should keep working. I've only been able to really rests lush myself in my career and just gained a six figure income for the first time. I would like to to treat myself to some nice things, like a new car, maybe some brand name fashion items, etc.

DH is eligible to retire now, and would net some money from his Federal pension. Selling the house would save $2500 per month and we would net about $300K from the sale. His pension would bring in $2600 per month, and he says he could do some part time work to add to his income. I make about $115K per year.

I think he is being childish and selfish and needs to buck up for another 10 years or do.

glad you are not my wife. are you trying to kill your dh?

Well let me ask the obvious. If a man has support a family for decades and wants to downsize - smaller house, smaller cars, less stressful job, does he have the "right" to do that if his role has taken a toll on him? I would really love to get answers from non-troll women on this one.

SAHM of 24 years here, with one launched and another who will need lifelong care. My DH and I are almost 55 and I have been putting the idea in his head that we should consider downsizing and consider his retirement in five or so years. He says he'll need to work until he dies. No way, in my book. I'm starting to cut back on our lifestyle now.

Yes, I did. Let me spell it out to you: Yes, he does.

You didn't answer the question.

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I don't understand how OP working, him working parttime and drawing from his pension, downsizing and selling means OP can't have or afford luxury goods. What kind of luxury goods are you trying to purchase OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand how OP working, him working parttime and drawing from his pension, downsizing and selling means OP can't have or afford luxury goods. What kind of luxury goods are you trying to purchase OP?

Agreed. Your finances look more than in order, esp if you downsize. You can probably both retire.