Men- Why do you sleep with married women?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't have to celebrate birthdays or holidays with her. I don't have to take her in public. I don't spend money on her. I can blow her off any time I want and she can't raise a stink about it. We don't have to discuss our future. She believes lies like, I wish we met under other circumstances.

She's perfect.

Yuck. How does she have any respect for herself?

Actually, the question is how does this AH you are responding to have any respect for HIMSELF and others?

[Anonymous]

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Ha. I know. Christ. These women think they are so hot. They are easy. Period.

If she's unmarried, you've got to be more attractive than every other actual and potential option she has (basically every other guy in the world, including the 500 "likes" she got on Tinder).

If she's married, you've only got to be more attractive than one guy - and he's fat, and he long ago stopped trying to please her. She's bored with him, and she has built up a mountain of petty resentments against him. Dead easy. A dying plant just needs a little water.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:
Ha. I know. Christ. These women think they are so hot. They are easy. Period.

If she's unmarried, you've got to be more attractive than every other actual and potential option she has (basically every other guy in the world, including the 500 "likes" she got on Tinder).

If she's married, you've only got to be more attractive than one guy - and he's fat, and he long ago stopped trying to please her. She's bored with him, and she has built up a mountain of petty resentments against him. Dead easy. A dying plant just needs a little water.

Women talk about affairs with passion. Men just want to get off. That's why when a woman cheats it's worse because it's more than just sex no matter what she tells you or herself.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:DH here: I don't, and have never been unfaithful, but the idea of taking another man's wife is certainly erotic. I suspect that is a common feeling.

I'm female, 44, happily married 18 years. After a lot of indecision, I recently slept with another man. Although he was a complete gentleman, and very focused, I did feel him taking another man's wife was a big deal for him. Sort of an alpha male conquest thing.

Yes, for sure.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:DH here: I don't, and have never been unfaithful, but the idea of taking another man's wife is certainly erotic. I suspect that is a common feeling.

I'm female, 44, happily married 18 years. After a lot of indecision, I recently slept with another man. Although he was a complete gentleman, and very focused, I did feel him taking another man's wife was a big deal for him. Sort of an alpha male conquest thing.

Yes, for sure.

DH here: +1. I’m faithful and have never done anything like that, but it would be totally hot for that reason.

[Anonymous]

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novaguy wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:The only married women I have had sex with I had the consent of the husband to do so.

OP here, that is hot! I wish I had the consent of my DH, haha

I would give my DW consent if she asked.

DH gave me permission because he is lower drive but seriously I don’t have the time to hunt down another guy. I just need DH to step it up!

DH in your situation. Wish we could connect!

Are you cute? I am! It’s nice to fantasize but I do not think I could actually do such a thing. Nor would I go anywhere or do anything to suggest I want advances. Which is why DH offered, isn’t it!

Same! I think DW might have given permission thinking that I wouldn’t be willing to put in the effort to make it happen. Except I’m putting in effort and we’ll see how it goes. Got very close but wasn’t quite ready.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't have to celebrate birthdays or holidays with her. I don't have to take her in public. I don't spend money on her. I can blow her off any time I want and she can't raise a stink about it. We don't have to discuss our future. She believes lies like, I wish we met under other circumstances.

She's perfect.

Yuck. How does she have any respect for herself?

Actually, the question is how does this AH you are responding to have any respect for HIMSELF and others?

He’s not married. She is. As all the cheating women love to say: the AP isn’t guilty he didn’t exchange vows.

Funny how the slutty women are never wrong.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Ha. I know. Christ. These women think they are so hot. They are easy. Period.

If she's unmarried, you've got to be more attractive than every other actual and potential option she has (basically every other guy in the world, including the 500 "likes" she got on Tinder).

If she's married, you've only got to be more attractive than one guy - and he's fat, and he long ago stopped trying to please her. She's bored with him, and she has built up a mountain of petty resentments against him. Dead easy. A dying plant just needs a little water.

Women talk about affairs with passion. Men just want to get off. That's why when a woman cheats it's worse because it's more than just sex no matter what she tells you or herself.

Yep. And she IS looking to end the married guy’s marriage so she can have him in an exit affair. Guys just are banging for the variety and will say anything, including ILY, to keep side sex going.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't have to celebrate birthdays or holidays with her. I don't have to take her in public. I don't spend money on her. I can blow her off any time I want and she can't raise a stink about it. We don't have to discuss our future. She believes lies like, I wish we met under other circumstances.

She's perfect.

Yuck. How does she have any respect for herself?

Actually, the question is how does this AH you are responding to have any respect for HIMSELF and others?

He’s not married. She is. As all the cheating women love to say: the AP isn’t guilty he didn’t exchange vows.

Funny how the slutty women are never wrong.

Getting involved with a person who is married is just as wrong regardless of gender or marriage status.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't have to celebrate birthdays or holidays with her. I don't have to take her in public. I don't spend money on her. I can blow her off any time I want and she can't raise a stink about it. We don't have to discuss our future. She believes lies like, I wish we met under other circumstances.

She's perfect.

Yuck. How does she have any respect for herself?

Actually, the question is how does this AH you are responding to have any respect for HIMSELF and others?

He’s not married. She is. As all the cheating women love to say: the AP isn’t guilty he didn’t exchange vows.

Funny how the slutty women are never wrong.

Getting involved with a person who is married is just as wrong regardless of gender or marriage status.

But if a married woman says that about a married woman AP—she’s wrong on this board. “She didn’t do anything to you” and all that BS. I agree: all cheaters are scumbags, no matter the gender.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't have to celebrate birthdays or holidays with her. I don't have to take her in public. I don't spend money on her. I can blow her off any time I want and she can't raise a stink about it. We don't have to discuss our future. She believes lies like, I wish we met under other circumstances.

She's perfect.

Yuck. How does she have any respect for herself?

Actually, the question is how does this AH you are responding to have any respect for HIMSELF and others?

He’s not married. She is. As all the cheating women love to say: the AP isn’t guilty he didn’t exchange vows.

Funny how the slutty women are never wrong.

Getting involved with a person who is married is just as wrong regardless of gender or marriage status.

But if a married woman says that about a married woman AP—she’s wrong on this board. “She didn’t do anything to you” and all that BS. I agree: all cheaters are scumbags, no matter the gender.

There are usually only a minority of comments that try and defend an AP that way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have an AP and I am a married women. My AP is not married and I always wonder why he does not want to be with a single lady...I am posting because I saw the other thread where the question was asked of women sleeping with married men. Wondering if there are men who also do what my AP is doing and why?

I sleep with married women. Why? It’s just $ex. We both get our needs fulfilled and go our separate ways. Some women want my number and do call when they have a need, some are just happy with a ONS and that’s all they want. I’ve been told I do things to them that their husband won’t do. 🤷‍♂️

[Anonymous]

Because when you're unhappy or unfulfilled in your marriage, you take what you need outside of it, and marital status of the other consenting adult is probably not one of the main criteria.

[Anonymous]

What do people say "you have no self respect" to people who have great respect for themselves, but none for their spouse and children?

[Anonymous]

Why do people say