Poor Communication from New School

[Anonymous]

I am agreeing with you PP. I'm simoly pointing out that entitled parent behavior is not exclusive to independent schools. I have seen this poor parental attitude in every kind of school, and I pity the kids exposed to this example.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am agreeing with you PP. I'm simoly pointing out that entitled parent behavior is not exclusive to independent schools. I have seen this poor parental attitude in every kind of school, and I pity the kids exposed to this example.

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[Anonymous]

I am a buddy family who has yet to contact my assigned family. I've been away for two weeks, and was busy getting my kids organized for sleep away camp before that. School has been out for less than a month. But I also recognize that there is a family on the other end waiting for the call. OP isn't wrong, but I hope that no one makes a judgement call about the school based on their buddy family. That seems extreme.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are a lot of valid points here. OP's concern is valid. The high cost of private school (especially when not paid for by a third party) is valid and the desire to form a partnership is valid. What I wish, though, is that people could stop tearing others down. Calling someone something just makes people come across as judgemental and, frankly, no better off than the perceived offender.

What a namby-pamby, kumbaya response. You commit the same sin you accuse others of in your post. What you call "judgmental," I call having standards.

The muddled English of your post reflects your muddled thinking. The high cost of private school is valid for what? Does paying high tuition justify an attitude of entitlement in which schools are meant to jump at your every whim?

As someone who pays $120,000 in private school tuition each year, I disagree, and will continue to judge the people who think that way.

You should just agree that other people disagree. You paying $120,000 does not entitle you to judge anybody. Who do you think you are???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are a lot of valid points here. OP's concern is valid. The high cost of private school (especially when not paid for by a third party) is valid and the desire to form a partnership is valid. What I wish, though, is that people could stop tearing others down. Calling someone something just makes people come across as judgemental and, frankly, no better off than the perceived offender.

What a namby-pamby, kumbaya response. You commit the same sin you accuse others of in your post. What you call "judgmental," I call having standards.

The muddled English of your post reflects your muddled thinking. The high cost of private school is valid for what? Does paying high tuition justify an attitude of entitlement in which schools are meant to jump at your every whim?

As someone who pays $120,000 in private school tuition each year, I disagree, and will continue to judge the people who think that way.

You should just agree that other people disagree. You paying $120,000 does not entitle you to judge anybody. Who do you think you are???

PP is someone making a huge financial investment in Childs education, while realizing it is different from a commodity one buys and inspects like a car. Well said PP and carry on. You sound like a great partner in schooling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are a lot of valid points here. OP's concern is valid. The high cost of private school (especially when not paid for by a third party) is valid and the desire to form a partnership is valid. What I wish, though, is that people could stop tearing others down. Calling someone something just makes people come across as judgemental and, frankly, no better off than the perceived offender.

What a namby-pamby, kumbaya response. You commit the same sin you accuse others of in your post. What you call "judgmental," I call having standards.

The muddled English of your post reflects your muddled thinking. The high cost of private school is valid for what? Does paying high tuition justify an attitude of entitlement in which schools are meant to jump at your every whim?

As someone who pays $120,000 in private school tuition each year, I disagree, and will continue to judge the people who think that way.

You should just agree that other people disagree. You paying $120,000 does not entitle you to judge anybody. Who do you think you are???

PP is someone making a huge financial investment in Childs education, while realizing it is different from a commodity one buys and inspects like a car. Well said PP and carry on. You sound like a great partner in schooling.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a buddy family who has yet to contact my assigned family. I've been away for two weeks, and was busy getting my kids organized for sleep away camp before that. School has been out for less than a month. But I also recognize that there is a family on the other end waiting for the call. OP isn't wrong, but I hope that no one makes a judgement call about the school based on their buddy family. That seems extreme.

Yes, it's called extreme entitlement or being a drama queen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are a lot of valid points here. OP's concern is valid. The high cost of private school (especially when not paid for by a third party) is valid and the desire to form a partnership is valid. What I wish, though, is that people could stop tearing others down. Calling someone something just makes people come across as judgemental and, frankly, no better off than the perceived offender.

What a namby-pamby, kumbaya response. You commit the same sin you accuse others of in your post. What you call "judgmental," I call having standards.

The muddled English of your post reflects your muddled thinking. The high cost of private school is valid for what? Does paying high tuition justify an attitude of entitlement in which schools are meant to jump at your every whim?

As someone who pays $120,000 in private school tuition each year, I disagree, and will continue to judge the people who think that way.

You should just agree that other people disagree. You paying $120,000 does not entitle you to judge anybody. Who do you think you are???

Some people have a more strongly developed sense of ethics and justice. OP and you sound morally stunted, for example.

I'd say PP is someone with more judgment than you, which entitles them to judge. Who do you think you are to tell PP or anyone else what they should or should not do?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are a lot of valid points here. OP's concern is valid. The high cost of private school (especially when not paid for by a third party) is valid and the desire to form a partnership is valid. What I wish, though, is that people could stop tearing others down. Calling someone something just makes people come across as judgemental and, frankly, no better off than the perceived offender.

What a namby-pamby, kumbaya response. You commit the same sin you accuse others of in your post. What you call "judgmental," I call having standards.

The muddled English of your post reflects your muddled thinking. The high cost of private school is valid for what? Does paying high tuition justify an attitude of entitlement in which schools are meant to jump at your every whim?

As someone who pays $120,000 in private school tuition each year, I disagree, and will continue to judge the people who think that way.

You should just agree that other people disagree. You paying $120,000 does not entitle you to judge anybody. Who do you think you are???

Some people have a more strongly developed sense of ethics and justice. OP and you sound morally stunted, for example.

I'd say PP is someone with more judgment than you, which entitles them to judge. Who do you think you are to tell PP or anyone else what they should or should not do?

Well, I think that money cannot buy you the right to say anything about others' way of thinking or doing things that are different from yours. Sense of ethics and justice certainly does not come from money. Just stunned and tired of reading all those things while a parent is just asking a straight question - you do not like it, just pass your way instead of trying to make the parent feel bad just because she/ he does not think the way you do. And yes, all of us should agree that others may disagree with us. That is the very basic to start a discussion. Oops, there is none here but judgement. The well thinking people are always right, aren't they?

[Anonymous]

OP, definitely call the school. Just tell them that you'd like your daughter to meet some of her classmates before school starts and you are hoping they can share the class list. That's a reasonable request and I'm sure the school would be happy to oblige.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, definitely call the school. Just tell them that you'd like your daughter to meet some of her classmates before school starts and you are hoping they can share the class list. That's a reasonable request and I'm sure the school would be happy to oblige.

I disagree. It's annoying and needy. Many of our kids are barely out of school, it's a long weekend when many go away for the week, schools have just finished up fiscal year business, it's only the first week of July, for Pete's sake!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are a lot of valid points here. OP's concern is valid. The high cost of private school (especially when not paid for by a third party) is valid and the desire to form a partnership is valid. What I wish, though, is that people could stop tearing others down. Calling someone something just makes people come across as judgemental and, frankly, no better off than the perceived offender.

What a namby-pamby, kumbaya response. You commit the same sin you accuse others of in your post. What you call "judgmental," I call having standards.

The muddled English of your post reflects your muddled thinking. The high cost of private school is valid for what? Does paying high tuition justify an attitude of entitlement in which schools are meant to jump at your every whim?

As someone who pays $120,000 in private school tuition each year, I disagree, and will continue to judge the people who think that way.

You should just agree that other people disagree. You paying $120,000 does not entitle you to judge anybody. Who do you think you are???

Some people have a more strongly developed sense of ethics and justice. OP and you sound morally stunted, for example.

I'd say PP is someone with more judgment than you, which entitles them to judge. Who do you think you are to tell PP or anyone else what they should or should not do?

Well, I think that money cannot buy you the right to say anything about others' way of thinking or doing things that are different from yours. Sense of ethics and justice certainly does not come from money. Just stunned and tired of reading all those things while a parent is just asking a straight question - you do not like it, just pass your way instead of trying to make the parent feel bad just because she/ he does not think the way you do. And yes, all of us should agree that others may disagree with us. That is the very basic to start a discussion. Oops, there is none here but judgement. The well thinking people are always right, aren't they?

I'm the PP who pays $120,000 in tuition each year. At no point was I implying that this makes me superior to anyone else. That's not how I roll.

However, I was responding to the posters who implied that paying $30,000 a year in tuition entitles you treat your school -- particularly its staff -- as though they are mere underlings whose purpose is to fulfill your every whim. I find this entitled attitude appalling.

The OP did not ask a straight question. It was pure whine and complaint, with the ridiculous comment that perhaps she chose the wrong school, because it hasn't done exactly what she thinks they should do.

I do subscribe to the partnership model one of the other posters described, and I think it's perfectly reasonable to call out someone for behaving appallingly. Perhaps because of the reactions of posters on this board, OP will think twice before approaching her school community with such an entitled attitude.

OP, I can tell you that a group of very nice parents -- with a sense of egalitarianism and deep respect for our teachers and administration -- rule our school, and anyone displaying the attitudes you favor would be ostracized.

[Anonymous]

If you are a buddy family and you haven't called your new family yet, get on it. How rude. The new family is nervous enough enough without your absence. Tge child has all kinds of questions, the parent has questions, and you should be doing exactly what you signed up for.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you are a buddy family and you haven't called your new family yet, get on it. How rude. The new family is nervous enough enough without your absence. Tge child has all kinds of questions, the parent has questions, and you should be doing exactly what you signed up for.

Buddy families are volunteers, not servants for hire. The previous poster sounds like OP in a new, irritating guise.

Any family that is so neurotic that it can't deal with the run-up to a new school without a buddy family deserves to remain buddy-less. Which OP may be.
Not all incoming families will have a buddy family, because sometimes there aren't enough volunteers. Summer is a busy time for a lot of families, between camp and vacations. In that eventuality, the admissions office will prioritize the nicer families, i.e. those they most want to retain. So maybe OP has already irritated the admissions team enough that she wasn't assigned a buddy family.

When we were new to a school. We were pleasantly surprised when we had a buddy family, but neither expected nor demanded one. My recollection is that we were mostly contacted in late July or August, so being stressed about it in June is just plain silly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you are a buddy family and you haven't called your new family yet, get on it. How rude. The new family is nervous enough enough without your absence. Tge child has all kinds of questions, the parent has questions, and you should be doing exactly what you signed up for.

Nervous enough? It's school. Billions of people have gone to new school. How freakin fragile are people? Seriously. A buddy family is a nice idea, but a freaking timeline? Get a grip.