Closing the barn door after the horse! (condom related)

[Anonymous]

I think everyone here needs to have sex or do something that makes them release the tension. Geesh I can cut the tension with a butter knife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Speaking as a guy who has issues with condoms, I'd probably angle for mutual oral sex instead.

Now before anyone gets on me about "having issues" with condoms, I don't have anything against the use of them per se. For some reason though, as soon as I had one on, I would lose my erection. I don't know if it was an allergy thing or some other issue, but snap, gone. Kind of embarrassing, but thankfully, I had several girlfriends in college who were on the pill, and yes, I got STD tested before new partners to be as safe as possible.

Years later, I'm married, have one kid, and my wife decides that the pills she's on are messing with her hormones too much. We decide to try condoms again. We spent money on all types...thin, ribbed, whatever. Didn't matter, same issue, years later. After 10+ years, my wife and I had had sex thousands of times and were perfectly comfortable with each other, so I wouldn't chalk it up to performance anxiety or anything like that.

Now we have two kids and I got snipped, and we enjoy a ton of condom free, worry free sex.

I realize I just went off on a tangent there, so I suppose to tie it back to the question asked, don't be surprised if he isn't enthused, there could be a reason for it other than the usual. Probably not, but maybe.

My bf of almost 3 years had this same issue. He said they just never worked for him, he'd always go soft. Luckily I have an iud but he always had a tinge of paranoia that he couldn't protect himself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Speaking as a guy who has issues with condoms, I'd probably angle for mutual oral sex instead.

Now before anyone gets on me about "having issues" with condoms, I don't have anything against the use of them per se. For some reason though, as soon as I had one on, I would lose my erection. I don't know if it was an allergy thing or some other issue, but snap, gone. Kind of embarrassing, but thankfully, I had several girlfriends in college who were on the pill, and yes, I got STD tested before new partners to be as safe as possible.

Years later, I'm married, have one kid, and my wife decides that the pills she's on are messing with her hormones too much. We decide to try condoms again. We spent money on all types...thin, ribbed, whatever. Didn't matter, same issue, years later. After 10+ years, my wife and I had had sex thousands of times and were perfectly comfortable with each other, so I wouldn't chalk it up to performance anxiety or anything like that.

Now we have two kids and I got snipped, and we enjoy a ton of condom free, worry free sex.

I realize I just went off on a tangent there, so I suppose to tie it back to the question asked, don't be surprised if he isn't enthused, there could be a reason for it other than the usual. Probably not, but maybe.

My bf of almost 3 years had this same issue. He said they just never worked for him, he'd always go soft. Luckily I have an iud but he always had a tinge of paranoia that he couldn't protect himself.

This is purely psychological, and is one thing in the context of a LTR. If you "cant" wear condoms, you need therapy and to stay away from ONS and casual sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At a conference I recently met and slept with a man from out of town. In our intoxicated state, we did not use protection. BIG mistake, I know. HUGE!

Now he is coming to my city for another conference and we plan to meet up again. I would like him to wear a condom this time. I do feel a bit stupid requesting this, though, since we already did it without. What do you think is the best way to request this without sounding like a damn fool? I am also interested in hearing what men would think of this--would you be super disappointed, think it sensible, what?

Totally depends.

Circ or not?

OP: Not. European. Why?

[Anonymous]

Who cares what anyone....Man or woman think of this issue...??!

Girl, we are talking about your physical health here!! And also your fertility for your future!!

You only get one body in life & you owe it to yourself to protect it at all times. No exceptions!!

No glove No love.

Enough said.