'coaching' my part-time goalie son behind the goal in U11 rec games

[Anonymous]

Stoddert's rules are here, if relevant

http://www.stoddert.com/25/parents/677657.html

Look at the sideline ethics rules - no coaching.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:is it even realistic to expect a coach to give any instruction to the goalie in a game? they're the furthest away from the coach and i've only heard something like 'use your hand' when the kid evidently forgot he could

The time to coach a kid is in practice - never in a game. A quiet coach during a soccer game is a skilled one.
Take some soccer coaching classes - they're fun and informative.
I hate that many rec leagues don't require any coaching courses.

Seriously, our rec coach is a million times better than my other kid's travel coach.

The travel kid has a micromanaging screamer during games that does not let players figure things out for themselves...add in the sideline coaching from the dads and my head is about to explode.

What club is that? Some clubs have no real identity or organization.

[Anonymous]

OP, why would it even occur to you to do this? Are you a coach? Did you play goalie at a super competitive level? Did your kid ask you to? If the answer to any of those questions is "no", back off. The coach must hate you. The other parents also probably think it's awful... unless that's just how most parents are nowadays.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:is it even realistic to expect a coach to give any instruction to the goalie in a game? they're the furthest away from the coach and i've only heard something like 'use your hand' when the kid evidently forgot he could

The time to coach a kid is in practice - never in a game. A quiet coach during a soccer game is a skilled one.
Take some soccer coaching classes - they're fun and informative.
I hate that many rec leagues don't require any coaching courses.

Seriously, our rec coach is a million times better than my other kid's travel coach.

The travel kid has a micromanaging screamer during games that does not let players figure things out for themselves...add in the sideline coaching from the dads and my head is about to explode.

What club is that? Some clubs have no real identity or organization.

Manchester United.

Seriously, PP? You're talking about rec teams like they're training for the EPL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, why would it even occur to you to do this? Are you a coach? Did you play goalie at a super competitive level? Did your kid ask you to? If the answer to any of those questions is "no", back off. The coach must hate you. The other parents also probably think it's awful... unless that's just how most parents are nowadays.

really, you need to chill, it's not like i committed murder or something.

as i said in OP, i saw the other sub goalie's dad did it and thought that's a good idea so i did too. neither of us murdered anybody. and i'll bet my lunch money nobody 'hated' either of us.

you sound like someone trying so hard to keep your mouth shut and emotions bottled in at the games then letting all your anger, disgust and frustration out on someone on an anonymous message board. you ain't much better than me, contrary to what you think.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, why would it even occur to you to do this? Are you a coach? Did you play goalie at a super competitive level? Did your kid ask you to? If the answer to any of those questions is "no", back off. The coach must hate you. The other parents also probably think it's awful... unless that's just how most parents are nowadays.

really, you need to chill, it's not like i committed murder or something.

as i said in OP, i saw the other sub goalie's dad did it and thought that's a good idea so i did too. neither of us murdered anybody. and i'll bet my lunch money nobody 'hated' either of us.

you sound like someone trying so hard to keep your mouth shut and emotions bottled in at the games then letting all your anger, disgust and frustration out on someone on an anonymous message board. you ain't much better than me, contrary to what you think.

I guess the answer to all of his questions would be no?

Stop defending what you did. No it wasn't murder, just don't coach from the sideline anymore. Jeesh

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, why would it even occur to you to do this? Are you a coach? Did you play goalie at a super competitive level? Did your kid ask you to? If the answer to any of those questions is "no", back off. The coach must hate you. The other parents also probably think it's awful... unless that's just how most parents are nowadays.

really, you need to chill, it's not like i committed murder or something.

as i said in OP, i saw the other sub goalie's dad did it and thought that's a good idea so i did too. neither of us murdered anybody. and i'll bet my lunch money nobody 'hated' either of us.

you sound like someone trying so hard to keep your mouth shut and emotions bottled in at the games then letting all your anger, disgust and frustration out on someone on an anonymous message board. you ain't much better than me, contrary to what you think.

I guess the answer to all of his questions would be no?

Stop defending what you did. No it wasn't murder, just don't coach from the sideline anymore. Jeesh

wasn't even defending anything. you asked why it occurred to me and i answered. guess i should've just ignored you, which i'll do now and let this thread die of its nature course.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, why would it even occur to you to do this? Are you a coach? Did you play goalie at a super competitive level? Did your kid ask you to? If the answer to any of those questions is "no", back off. The coach must hate you. The other parents also probably think it's awful... unless that's just how most parents are nowadays.

really, you need to chill, it's not like i committed murder or something.

as i said in OP, i saw the other sub goalie's dad did it and thought that's a good idea so i did too. neither of us murdered anybody. and i'll bet my lunch money nobody 'hated' either of us.

you sound like someone trying so hard to keep your mouth shut and emotions bottled in at the games then letting all your anger, disgust and frustration out on someone on an anonymous message board. you ain't much better than me, contrary to what you think.

I guess the answer to all of his questions would be no?

Stop defending what you did. No it wasn't murder, just don't coach from the sideline anymore. Jeesh

wasn't even defending anything. you asked why it occurred to me and i answered. guess i should've just ignored you, which i'll do now and let this thread die of its nature course.

You asked a question, 6 pages later you have been told that you don't coach from the sideline or from behind the goal and you have rationalized why you did it. That is a form of defending your actions. After six pages of basically being told you behaved like a tool I'm surprised you have come back at all.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:
as i said in OP, i saw the other sub goalie's dad did it and thought that's a good idea so i did too. neither of us murdered anybody. and i'll bet my lunch money nobody 'hated' either of us.

They didn't hate you. They just thought you were a total douche. But if you're OK with that, keep doing it. Lots of total douches revel in their douchery.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, why would it even occur to you to do this? Are you a coach? Did you play goalie at a super competitive level? Did your kid ask you to? If the answer to any of those questions is "no", back off. The coach must hate you. The other parents also probably think it's awful... unless that's just how most parents are nowadays.

really, you need to chill, it's not like i committed murder or something.

as i said in OP, i saw the other sub goalie's dad did it and thought that's a good idea so i did too. neither of us murdered anybody. and i'll bet my lunch money nobody 'hated' either of us.

you sound like someone trying so hard to keep your mouth shut and emotions bottled in at the games then letting all your anger, disgust and frustration out on someone on an anonymous message board. you ain't much better than me, contrary to what you think.

I actually am parent to kids too young for organized sports, so you're wrong there. I do remember growing up playing sports and most parents were really good, but there was one dad who would continually coach and the other kids hated it, the child herself felt humiliated, the coach was incredibly annoyed and finally had the dad red carded one game. Not even sure that was possible. Poor girl. It truly does nothing for them.

As one PP said, a good coach will remain mostly silent and a good parent will only occasionally yell "good job!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stoddert's rules are here, if relevant

http://www.stoddert.com/25/parents/677657.html

Look at the sideline ethics rules - no coaching.

Funny to see Stoddard having rules.... some of the worst sideline defenders I saw.

[Anonymous]

My kid shushed a sideline coaching dad. (My son was on the field, ran by and put his finger to his mouth and shushed him.

It was awesome.

Dad didn't speak to me for a year. It was awesome.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stoddert's rules are here, if relevant

http://www.stoddert.com/25/parents/677657.html

Look at the sideline ethics rules - no coaching.

Funny to see Stoddard having rules.... some of the worst sideline defenders I saw.

Hence the need for rules.

But yeah.