Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who is still a virgin at 35. He admitted it to me recently; it was pretty unexpected. He also admitted to having a really f'ed up childhood and to having massive insecurity issues, and he said he has some questions about whether he might be bisexual or gay. I think he may have stayed celibate because he was raised in a very catholic, traditional household and coming out as gay or bi could be very uncomfortable.
My advice was just to not worry about the gay or straight or bi thing, that it is 2016 and any of the above are acceptable in this day and age, and especially around here in DC. And that he should keep up with the therapy to try to figure out why he doesn't feel worthy of love and a normal sex life, whatever form that takes.
I'm happy to be his friend and sounding board, but couldn't date him. I have slept with a fair number of people over the years, and in my experience, a major experience gap can cause problems between partners.
This is what I was wondering about OPs guy. Possibly sexually abused, questioned his sexuality, scared etc etc.
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