Be honest. Do you care for your dog or cat more than your spouse or partner?

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Anyone who is remotely sane has no difficulty at all making the right choice but I can tell you are thinking to yourself: "Baby...or dog? Baby...or dog?" It really shouldn't be such a tough choice for you.

Our dog actually did answer to Baby. She never demanded her own car like my other mammal dependent.

That's because dogs can't actually talk. You knew that, didn't you?

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Anonymous wrote:I love my dogs unconditionally and treat them like my children so therefore even though I dont have kids I would prefer them over the husband but still care and support him all the same. My beautiful dog got hypothroidism and because of that his aggression escalated. When I got close to his alpha he bit me while I was stroking his fur. Taken to the hospital crying and broken over why he bit me. When I came back he was sittjng facing the door his ears back with a guilty look saying sorry and trying to comfort me. I do believe he had been there the whole time waiting. Besides that incident he showed me unconditional love for the 11 yrs I had him and was very intelligent to a human likeness

It sounds like you are locked in a physically abusive relationship with a controlling canine.

If he bit you, his long time owner, hard enough to cause you to go to the hospital, he needs to be put down.

No second chances for vicious animals.

He passed away. That is why I said he was with me 11 years. You obviously lack empathy or care for innocent beings.

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Dogs : 1
Men : 0

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Anonymous wrote:No I don't. I had my dog before I met my now DH and if they hadn't gotten along at the beginning of the relationship, it would have been a deal breaker. However, I love my husband and I care about him more than I do our dogs.

How strange.

Your husband had to live up to not only your standards, but your dog's, in order to be privileged to date you.

Lucky him.

My dog is a well behaved and affectionate dog. The only people who don't get along with him are people that actively dislike dogs in general. Which is fine but they are not the kind of people I would want to live with as they are not the kind of people that are ok with having dogs in their living space. I have always had dogs, have been active in dog rescue organizations and dog fostering, and will likely always have dogs. I don't think it's unreasonable to want a partner that is ok with dogs when I have always loved having dogs and want to continue having dogs.

I think dogs are OK and have nothing against them. However--they're very dirty and messy at best. They chew things up, get hair everywhere, crap everywhere, and are generally a source of chaos. Multiple dogs is even worse. I have no problem with dogs per se but do I necessarily want your dog hopping in the bed with me at night? No but that doesn't make me a bad person. Anyone who would put dogs above people has a screw loose. Sorry PP but that's you.

NP. What an effing ridiculous thing to say. In the beginning of a relationship there are all kinds of tests a prospective partner has to pass before they can be permanent. Are you, pp, arguing that if I had a few good dates with a dog hater and they asked me to get rid of the dog that I had loved for years that I should do so based solely on the possibility that this relationship panned out? If my DH didn't like sushi at the beginning of our relationship I might not have pursued him, if he hated TV I might have dumped him.

Obviously a person that would prioritize dogs over a spouse either has some issues or the marriage has SERIOUS issues but the idea that while dating one wouldn't prioritize the dog over a boyfriend is ridiculous. Put a ring on it if you want to make such demands. And if someone asked me to get rid of something I loved as much as I love my dog on a whim I wouldn't really think they loved me enough for me to marry them. What a ridiculous oversimplification PP.

It's not ridiculous at all to understand that an emotionally healthy person who owns a pet would almost immediately elevate the importance of a human partner above that of the pet--that's assuming the person actually wants to explore a serious relationship with another emotionally healthy human being. There is no reason at all to mandate that a potential human partner will necessarily be able to get along with your pet even if generally speaking he doesn't mind dogs. Maybe your pet is jealous of him or something.

You give a couple of examples which completely disprove your point. If you would seriously not date someone for something as trivial as not liking sushi or T.V. despite whatever other good qualities he might have, then basically you're pretty much of an immature superficial idiot. Same applies to not dating someone unless he's as in love with your mangy mongrel as you are. The only reason you have such a close bond with Clifford the Big Red Dog in the first place is because of your difficulties in bonding with actual humans. Place the dog where it belongs in your emotions--a housepet--and you will probably start to have better actual human relationships too.

It sounds like for women these dogs are replacements for the little dollies they had when they were children. It would be considered inappropriate for a "grown up" woman to play with little dollies (you know pretend you are the mommy and the dolly is your baby) so the dog is the substitute but basically that's what these women are actually doing. The dog is a surrogate love object because the emotionally immature person is incapable of or afraid of an actual relationship with another adult human.

omg everyone don't worry its ok there is just a dog hating AND woman hating tool here today.

I'm sorry you find out so offensive that I would not want to continue dating a guy who wanted me to immediately displace a loved pet. Doesn't seem like a particularly nice guy. FWIW my dh isn't madly in love with my dog (or vice versa) but would never ask me to choose. Part of why I love him

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PP you're basically acknowledging that your mangy beast is more important to you than your actual human life partner. Your human life partner must have very low self esteem to allow himself to be treated as second-best to a friggin' dog. And you obviously lack any respect for your human life partner whatsoever.

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This thread is surprisingly dog-centered.
Not too many people professing love for a cat over a person.
Perhaps the crazy cat people (and I say that affectionately) don't tend to get married ....or don't get married to someone they would care for less than their cat.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm thinking it depends on the dog and the spouse. If you have a spouse who isn't so great, then I would say the pet wins hands down. A cheater, someone that isn't there for you, put's their in-laws above you, that kind of thing.

People have close bonds with animals, certainly doesn't mean they have a screw loose. I can say there are many pets I would put above some of the crappy people I know or have encountered. Actually some people are shit bags. I've seldom met a shit bag dog or cat, lol.

Unfortunately you're wrong.

Even if my spouse was a cheater, and I hated her guts, if the choice was down to saving her life and that of the family cat or dog, you have to save the human being. That is, if you're sane.

If my spouse was an abuser, cheater, you name it - my dog or cat would come first. Not some piece of poo.

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I dated a guy who cheated for a year! I really thought he would be the one because he told me how we'd grow old together and marry but he had roving eyes. He actually started to cheat after my dog passed away and i was depressed and grieving. Before my beautiful and intelligent dog passed away he would get upset and thought it was ridiculous I would stay home to take care of my pet when they were sick. Looking back I am very glad I didn't waste more time with him and chose my dog over the cheat.

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Anonymous wrote:PP you're basically acknowledging that your mangy beast is more important to you than your actual human life partner. Your human life partner must have very low self esteem to allow himself to be treated as second-best to a friggin' dog. And you obviously lack any respect for your human life partner whatsoever.

Dude obviously if I was choosing to save a life I'd save the father of my children. But I choose not to have children with a giant ahole who wanted me to abandon my dog. Sounds like you've been having trouble getting a girlfriend, and it's not that shocking!

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Anonymous wrote:How many people religiously walk their dog twice per day, but are too busy/tired for sex with their spouse except twice per month ?

Can you just give it up and admit you hate women already?

WTF? How do you conclude "hates women" from the quoted gender-agnostic post?

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I concur OP that pets DO love you unconditionally and that no matter how they are treated, they will always stand by you no matter what.

And for some people, this may be a tough quality to find in a mate.

So I can certainly see how some people can feel like this.

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Anonymous wrote:Dogs : 1
Men : 0

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There's only one batshit crazy person in this thread and it ain't the pet loving folks.

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When you get a dog or a cat,it's for life. You don't just abandon them. For any reason. I don't love my dogs more than my husband but it's pretty close. My dogs don't yell at me, they are always happy to see me, and they ask for nothing. If I was single and dating no way would I give my dog up for a guy.