Be honest. Do you care for your dog or cat more than your spouse or partner?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm pregnant but would still choose DH over the unborn baby and my beloved dog. DH is my life partner.

Yikes hopefully after the child is born you'll feel differently.

Hopefully. Currently we could always have another pregnancy. Baby isn't even a real baby yet.

LOL you're crazy aren't you. I feel sorry for your fetus, why not just abort it right now rather than bring it into the hellish world it will face with you as its "mother."

Her DH probably wants a kid, and to keep him she must produce an heir.

If that happens maybe PP will get lucky and her dog will devour the little brat. That would be O.K. since dogs are more important than people.

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Anonymous wrote:No I don't. I had my dog before I met my now DH and if they hadn't gotten along at the beginning of the relationship, it would have been a deal breaker. However, I love my husband and I care about him more than I do our dogs.

How strange.

Your husband had to live up to not only your standards, but your dog's, in order to be privileged to date you.

Lucky him.

My dog is a well behaved and affectionate dog. The only people who don't get along with him are people that actively dislike dogs in general. Which is fine but they are not the kind of people I would want to live with as they are not the kind of people that are ok with having dogs in their living space. I have always had dogs, have been active in dog rescue organizations and dog fostering, and will likely always have dogs. I don't think it's unreasonable to want a partner that is ok with dogs when I have always loved having dogs and want to continue having dogs.

I think dogs are OK and have nothing against them. However--they're very dirty and messy at best. They chew things up, get hair everywhere, crap everywhere, and are generally a source of chaos. Multiple dogs is even worse. I have no problem with dogs per se but do I necessarily want your dog hopping in the bed with me at night? No but that doesn't make me a bad person. Anyone who would put dogs above people has a screw loose. Sorry PP but that's you.

So, in your mind, a single person that has a dog should be willing to give that dog up if a person they've just started casually dating doesn't like their dog because the person they are casually dating is a person and the dog is just a dog? Even though they have no attachment to the person but they have a bond with and an obligation to the dog?

No they don't have to do anything they don't want to do.

Life is about choices. If some people think their relationship with a dog is more important than with a human, that simply means they don't regard the other person very highly. But it's kind of ridiculous to rule out a possible soulmate/life partner (human) simply because he and your dog might not happen to get along. In fact it's downright crazy.

Let me try to put it to you in other terms--let's say you meet a great guy, no problem, he even likes your dog, you get serious, set a marriage date. All of a sudden a previously unknown dog allergy crops up and he simply can't be anywhere around the dog and he can't live in a house where the dog lives because of the hair etc. causing his allergy to flare up.

It actually sounds like you are saying you would give up the human in favor of the dog. If so different strokes but it might explain why a lot of these ladies are stuck loving dogs rather than people in the first place.

Another example, you have this dog you really love, your husband loves it, you have a baby, for whatever reason it bites the baby. Do you get rid of the dog (maybe give it a way, not necessarily put it down) or the baby?

Anyone who is remotely sane has no difficulty at all making the right choice but I can tell you are thinking to yourself: "Baby...or dog? Baby...or dog?" It really shouldn't be such a tough choice for you.

I'm not sure what part of "if they hadn't gotten along at the beginning of the relationship" was difficult for you to understand. My statement had no bearing on what would happen once I was in a committed relationship. Nothing else you posted is remotely accurate. I hope you can get over your irrational disdain for dogs and people who care for dogs at some point in your life.

Nothing difficult at all. What don't you understand about choices and that any relationship which ends up as serious starts as casual? Every relationship has a "beginning." What you're saying is someone could actually be your soulmate, perfect in every way, other than (let's say) your dog just doesn't like the guy for some reason. Maybe the dog doesn't like his smell. Your problem is you are actually equating your simulated emotions for a dog with those for a human being. This is childish on your part. It's just like a little girl playing pretend with a little dolly. The dog who you project all your emotions onto in such an unhealthy way would just as soon be mindlessly humping your leg, pooping on your shoes, and licking its balls.

Have a great relationship with your dog/soulmate honey.

You sound dumber than a bag of hammers.

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Anonymous wrote:No I don't. I had my dog before I met my now DH and if they hadn't gotten along at the beginning of the relationship, it would have been a deal breaker. However, I love my husband and I care about him more than I do our dogs.

How strange.

Your husband had to live up to not only your standards, but your dog's, in order to be privileged to date you.

Lucky him.

My dog is a well behaved and affectionate dog. The only people who don't get along with him are people that actively dislike dogs in general. Which is fine but they are not the kind of people I would want to live with as they are not the kind of people that are ok with having dogs in their living space. I have always had dogs, have been active in dog rescue organizations and dog fostering, and will likely always have dogs. I don't think it's unreasonable to want a partner that is ok with dogs when I have always loved having dogs and want to continue having dogs.

I think dogs are OK and have nothing against them. However--they're very dirty and messy at best. They chew things up, get hair everywhere, crap everywhere, and are generally a source of chaos. Multiple dogs is even worse. I have no problem with dogs per se but do I necessarily want your dog hopping in the bed with me at night? No but that doesn't make me a bad person. Anyone who would put dogs above people has a screw loose. Sorry PP but that's you.

So, in your mind, a single person that has a dog should be willing to give that dog up if a person they've just started casually dating doesn't like their dog because the person they are casually dating is a person and the dog is just a dog? Even though they have no attachment to the person but they have a bond with and an obligation to the dog?

No they don't have to do anything they don't want to do.

Life is about choices. If some people think their relationship with a dog is more important than with a human, that simply means they don't regard the other person very highly. But it's kind of ridiculous to rule out a possible soulmate/life partner (human) simply because he and your dog might not happen to get along. In fact it's downright crazy.

Let me try to put it to you in other terms--let's say you meet a great guy, no problem, he even likes your dog, you get serious, set a marriage date. All of a sudden a previously unknown dog allergy crops up and he simply can't be anywhere around the dog and he can't live in a house where the dog lives because of the hair etc. causing his allergy to flare up.

It actually sounds like you are saying you would give up the human in favor of the dog. If so different strokes but it might explain why a lot of these ladies are stuck loving dogs rather than people in the first place.

Another example, you have this dog you really love, your husband loves it, you have a baby, for whatever reason it bites the baby. Do you get rid of the dog (maybe give it a way, not necessarily put it down) or the baby?

Anyone who is remotely sane has no difficulty at all making the right choice but I can tell you are thinking to yourself: "Baby...or dog? Baby...or dog?" It really shouldn't be such a tough choice for you.

I'm not sure what part of "if they hadn't gotten along at the beginning of the relationship" was difficult for you to understand. My statement had no bearing on what would happen once I was in a committed relationship. Nothing else you posted is remotely accurate. I hope you can get over your irrational disdain for dogs and people who care for dogs at some point in your life.

Nothing difficult at all. What don't you understand about choices and that any relationship which ends up as serious starts as casual? Every relationship has a "beginning." What you're saying is someone could actually be your soulmate, perfect in every way, other than (let's say) your dog just doesn't like the guy for some reason. Maybe the dog doesn't like his smell. Your problem is you are actually equating your simulated emotions for a dog with those for a human being. This is childish on your part. It's just like a little girl playing pretend with a little dolly. The dog who you project all your emotions onto in such an unhealthy way would just as soon be mindlessly humping your leg, pooping on your shoes, and licking its balls.

Have a great relationship with your dog/soulmate honey.

You sound dumber than a bag of hammers.

Listen, I'm not saying every human being is more important than every dog.

I'm thinking that there are probably a lot of dogs that surpass you, for example.

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It always amazes me that someone gets angry over another's opinion. So yours is different, no problem but why attack personally. Live and let live.

Apparently many put their pet's over other people in their lives. Doesn't mean YOU have to!

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Anonymous wrote:This is a stupid thread to begin with. You can't categorize bonds in this way. It's like comparing how one loves a spouse over a child, a friend over another friend, a parent over a grandparent.There are those that can have very close bonds with animals which transcend what we understand as communication, and bonds for our spouse which involve other means. Those who love their pets deeply have a relationship with them as if they were children. It's not an either/or though.

No they don't, because pets are not children, so whatever these deluded folk think they have with their animals, it's not a parent/child relationship.

That's the point. It's totally dysfunctional to put people on the same level as animals, and the only reason they're even doing it is because people who "bond" to animals like they are "children" have psychological problems which inhibit their healthy bonding with other human beings.

Trying to rationalize or justify it is rather pointless.

You know I guess it's OK if you want to think of your dog as if it's your child but then you are limiting your relationship possibilities with human beings to other equally nutty people. I would think that's rather unhealthy.

It's over a billion dollar industry so I'm afraid you're wrong. There are animals that are much better than certain people. That's a given.

What part of what I said is "wrong"? That animals aren't human children? Because "it's a billion dollar industry"?

There are animals that are much better than certain people--well if your dog is Lassy, Rin Tin Tin, or Scooby Doo maybe you have a point. But the reality is these women who are in love with their dogs don't really care about their dogs as "individuals." The dog is just a focal point for their self centered projection of an immature self-love. They love the dog as much as a child because the relationship is really with themself. The dog loving fanatic projects whatever traits she wants onto her dog. She never says how disgusting it is when she catches the dog eating its own filth (time after time), rolling in another dog's dogshit and bringing it home all over the house, biting people, vomiting on the rug, barking all night, and all the other nonsense that dogs get into.

Placing this much emotional emphasis on a pet is just a first world emotional affectation by emotionally stunted women. I'm not sure why you would expect any healthy person to buy into it.

WOW!! You may think of yourself as "healthy", but you are also bat shit crazy!!

Their post seems to be a anger at women post, probably not pet related.

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Anonymous wrote:No I don't. I had my dog before I met my now DH and if they hadn't gotten along at the beginning of the relationship, it would have been a deal breaker. However, I love my husband and I care about him more than I do our dogs.

How strange.

Your husband had to live up to not only your standards, but your dog's, in order to be privileged to date you.

Lucky him.

My dog is a well behaved and affectionate dog. The only people who don't get along with him are people that actively dislike dogs in general. Which is fine but they are not the kind of people I would want to live with as they are not the kind of people that are ok with having dogs in their living space. I have always had dogs, have been active in dog rescue organizations and dog fostering, and will likely always have dogs. I don't think it's unreasonable to want a partner that is ok with dogs when I have always loved having dogs and want to continue having dogs.

I think dogs are OK and have nothing against them. However--they're very dirty and messy at best. They chew things up, get hair everywhere, crap everywhere, and are generally a source of chaos. Multiple dogs is even worse. I have no problem with dogs per se but do I necessarily want your dog hopping in the bed with me at night? No but that doesn't make me a bad person. Anyone who would put dogs above people has a screw loose. Sorry PP but that's you.

So, in your mind, a single person that has a dog should be willing to give that dog up if a person they've just started casually dating doesn't like their dog because the person they are casually dating is a person and the dog is just a dog? Even though they have no attachment to the person but they have a bond with and an obligation to the dog?

No they don't have to do anything they don't want to do.

Life is about choices. If some people think their relationship with a dog is more important than with a human, that simply means they don't regard the other person very highly. But it's kind of ridiculous to rule out a possible soulmate/life partner (human) simply because he and your dog might not happen to get along. In fact it's downright crazy.

Let me try to put it to you in other terms--let's say you meet a great guy, no problem, he even likes your dog, you get serious, set a marriage date. All of a sudden a previously unknown dog allergy crops up and he simply can't be anywhere around the dog and he can't live in a house where the dog lives because of the hair etc. causing his allergy to flare up.

It actually sounds like you are saying you would give up the human in favor of the dog. If so different strokes but it might explain why a lot of these ladies are stuck loving dogs rather than people in the first place.

Another example, you have this dog you really love, your husband loves it, you have a baby, for whatever reason it bites the baby. Do you get rid of the dog (maybe give it a way, not necessarily put it down) or the baby?

Anyone who is remotely sane has no difficulty at all making the right choice but I can tell you are thinking to yourself: "Baby...or dog? Baby...or dog?" It really shouldn't be such a tough choice for you.

I'm not sure what part of "if they hadn't gotten along at the beginning of the relationship" was difficult for you to understand. My statement had no bearing on what would happen once I was in a committed relationship. Nothing else you posted is remotely accurate. I hope you can get over your irrational disdain for dogs and people who care for dogs at some point in your life.

Nothing difficult at all. What don't you understand about choices and that any relationship which ends up as serious starts as casual? Every relationship has a "beginning." What you're saying is someone could actually be your soulmate, perfect in every way, other than (let's say) your dog just doesn't like the guy for some reason. Maybe the dog doesn't like his smell. Your problem is you are actually equating your simulated emotions for a dog with those for a human being. This is childish on your part. It's just like a little girl playing pretend with a little dolly. The dog who you project all your emotions onto in such an unhealthy way would just as soon be mindlessly humping your leg, pooping on your shoes, and licking its balls.

Have a great relationship with your dog/soulmate honey.

You sound dumber than a bag of hammers.

Listen, I'm not saying every human being is more important than every dog.

I'm thinking that there are probably a lot of dogs that surpass you, for example.

My DH knows our dog is much better than most of his relatives. He would come first no matter what. Actually over my relatives too, and many others.

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Anonymous wrote:This is a stupid thread to begin with. You can't categorize bonds in this way. It's like comparing how one loves a spouse over a child, a friend over another friend, a parent over a grandparent.There are those that can have very close bonds with animals which transcend what we understand as communication, and bonds for our spouse which involve other means. Those who love their pets deeply have a relationship with them as if they were children. It's not an either/or though.

No they don't, because pets are not children, so whatever these deluded folk think they have with their animals, it's not a parent/child relationship.

That's the point. It's totally dysfunctional to put people on the same level as animals, and the only reason they're even doing it is because people who "bond" to animals like they are "children" have psychological problems which inhibit their healthy bonding with other human beings.

Trying to rationalize or justify it is rather pointless.

You know I guess it's OK if you want to think of your dog as if it's your child but then you are limiting your relationship possibilities with human beings to other equally nutty people. I would think that's rather unhealthy.

It's over a billion dollar industry so I'm afraid you're wrong. There are animals that are much better than certain people. That's a given.

What part of what I said is "wrong"? That animals aren't human children? Because "it's a billion dollar industry"?

There are animals that are much better than certain people--well if your dog is Lassy, Rin Tin Tin, or Scooby Doo maybe you have a point. But the reality is these women who are in love with their dogs don't really care about their dogs as "individuals." The dog is just a focal point for their self centered projection of an immature self-love. They love the dog as much as a child because the relationship is really with themself. The dog loving fanatic projects whatever traits she wants onto her dog. She never says how disgusting it is when she catches the dog eating its own filth (time after time), rolling in another dog's dogshit and bringing it home all over the house, biting people, vomiting on the rug, barking all night, and all the other nonsense that dogs get into.

Placing this much emotional emphasis on a pet is just a first world emotional affectation by emotionally stunted women. I'm not sure why you would expect any healthy person to buy into it.

WOW!! You may think of yourself as "healthy", but you are also bat shit crazy!!

Their post seems to be a anger at women post, probably not pet related.

It's anger at something, sounds like a miserable person.

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Anyone who is remotely sane has no difficulty at all making the right choice but I can tell you are thinking to yourself: "Baby...or dog? Baby...or dog?" It really shouldn't be such a tough choice for you.

Our dog actually did answer to Baby. She never demanded her own car like my other mammal dependent.

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Anonymous wrote:This is a stupid thread to begin with. You can't categorize bonds in this way. It's like comparing how one loves a spouse over a child, a friend over another friend, a parent over a grandparent.There are those that can have very close bonds with animals which transcend what we understand as communication, and bonds for our spouse which involve other means. Those who love their pets deeply have a relationship with them as if they were children. It's not an either/or though.

No they don't, because pets are not children, so whatever these deluded folk think they have with their animals, it's not a parent/child relationship.

That's the point. It's totally dysfunctional to put people on the same level as animals, and the only reason they're even doing it is because people who "bond" to animals like they are "children" have psychological problems which inhibit their healthy bonding with other human beings.

Trying to rationalize or justify it is rather pointless.

You know I guess it's OK if you want to think of your dog as if it's your child but then you are limiting your relationship possibilities with human beings to other equally nutty people. I would think that's rather unhealthy.

It's over a billion dollar industry so I'm afraid you're wrong. There are animals that are much better than certain people. That's a given.

What part of what I said is "wrong"? That animals aren't human children? Because "it's a billion dollar industry"?

There are animals that are much better than certain people--well if your dog is Lassy, Rin Tin Tin, or Scooby Doo maybe you have a point. But the reality is these women who are in love with their dogs don't really care about their dogs as "individuals." The dog is just a focal point for their self centered projection of an immature self-love. They love the dog as much as a child because the relationship is really with themself. The dog loving fanatic projects whatever traits she wants onto her dog. She never says how disgusting it is when she catches the dog eating its own filth (time after time), rolling in another dog's dogshit and bringing it home all over the house, biting people, vomiting on the rug, barking all night, and all the other nonsense that dogs get into.

Placing this much emotional emphasis on a pet is just a first world emotional affectation by emotionally stunted women. I'm not sure why you would expect any healthy person to buy into it.

WOW!! You may think of yourself as "healthy", but you are also bat shit crazy!!

Their post seems to be a anger at women post, probably not pet related.

It's anger at something, sounds like a miserable person.

I'm incredibly grateful I don't know anyone like this IRL.

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I don't value a pet over a human. That said, I am an animal person. If you aren't, great. However, it is a pretty good indicator that we are not going to be compatible in other important areas as well.

Superficial? Not at all.

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I love my dogs unconditionally and treat them like my children so therefore even though I dont have kids I would prefer them over the husband but still care and support him all the same. My beautiful dog got hypothroidism and because of that his aggression escalated. When I got close to his alpha he bit me while I was stroking his fur. Taken to the hospital crying and broken over why he bit me. When I came back he was sittjng facing the door his ears back with a guilty look saying sorry and trying to comfort me. I do believe he had been there the whole time waiting. Besides that incident he showed me unconditional love for the 11 yrs I had him and was very intelligent to a human likeness

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How many people religiously walk their dog twice per day, but are too busy/tires for sex with their spouse except twice per month ?

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Anonymous wrote:I love my dogs unconditionally and treat them like my children so therefore even though I dont have kids I would prefer them over the husband but still care and support him all the same. My beautiful dog got hypothroidism and because of that his aggression escalated. When I got close to his alpha he bit me while I was stroking his fur. Taken to the hospital crying and broken over why he bit me. When I came back he was sittjng facing the door his ears back with a guilty look saying sorry and trying to comfort me. I do believe he had been there the whole time waiting. Besides that incident he showed me unconditional love for the 11 yrs I had him and was very intelligent to a human likeness

It sounds like you are locked in a physically abusive relationship with a controlling canine.

If he bit you, his long time owner, hard enough to cause you to go to the hospital, he needs to be put down.

No second chances for vicious animals.

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Anonymous wrote:How many people religiously walk their dog twice per day, but are too busy/tires for sex with their spouse except twice per month ?

Can you just give it up and admit you hate women already?

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Anonymous wrote:How many people religiously walk their dog twice per day, but are too busy/tires for sex with their spouse except twice per month ?

How many of them have sex with their dogs instead of their spouses?