Fuming! Need some advice about SIL and how she handled soemthing
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Anonymous
| You're looking for reasons to be pissed about this. You don't like SIL and that's it. The gift is for your DD and she loves it. Let SIL enjoy gifting it to her and let your DD enjoy owning it |
Anonymous
| Take a deep breath and let it go. I empathize with you but you just need to let it go. Let your DD enjoy it. |
Anonymous
| Let he get this straight, "your brother us a successful surgeon" but your sil is "ambitious to a fault," and you don't like her because she is nothing like you. What is the real problem, op? Are you on team wife #1 or just hate successful, fit, accomplished, generous women? |
Anonymous
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The correct, respectful and appropriate thing to do when you receive a gift is to say thank you. Period.
Even if it is something you would not have chosen, be it a giant stuffed elephant or a $1500 handbag. Manners 101. |
Anonymous
| They use to tell us in sales, do not tell people what is expensive. What you might think is expensive others will not. So your successful sil and brother may think an $1800 gift is just a nice gift for a special occasion. Let's say they have a combined monthly income of 250k a month, 18k is not much. Plus she most likely got the bag for 1/2 that. |
Anonymous
| If wearing athletic gear on the daily makes you this insecure, maybe it's time for a return to real clothing. |
Anonymous
| Your entire family, including ones clear across the country, know that you will allow Kate Spade bags and Coach bags but not LV bags? Have you made similar proclamations about what is and is not acceptable in shoes, clothing, accessories, and belongings? They must all think you are a control freak. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
| Let your daughter enjoy a nice gift. You'll never get her one (and I'm with you on the whole handbag situation) so let your SIL do it. She enjoyed giving it. Your daughter enjoyed receiving it. It cost you literally nothing and your daughter has a quality item that she'll have for years and years if she cares for it properly. Why is that a bad thing? You don't get to dictate what other people give as gifts and your daughter is old enough now to decide what she likes and dislikes so you can't just dump it off at the goodwill like you could when she was a toddler. |
Anonymous
| Where I grew up someone could easily have started this thread about a KS/Coach bag, which underscores for me that this is about your insecurity and control issues rather than the actual price tag. |
Anonymous
It's about control. My mom was the same way. Hate to break it to you op but this probably won't be the last fancy bag your dd wears. |
Anonymous
wait, why did she most likely get it for half that? |
Anonymous
| I think you are jealous that your daughter is turning out to be more like your SIL than you. |
Anonymous
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OP I know how you feel. At 16 you are trying to teach your DD the value of money and other life lessons. So the extravagant gift does not sit well especially in light of your SIL making fun of your marshalls bag. Some people are really into expensive handbags and others are not.
Just keep the bag and send a nice note -- just like you would to anyone. Thank you for the lovely .... And talk with your DD about the responsibility of owning expensive things. most teens I know with expensive real LV mostly keep them in the closet. Too expensive to get banged around for everyday use. Its a target. So it is for special occasion. I hope your DD will listen to your advice on this subject. (I bought my DD ridiculously expensive boots that she wanted -- she does take very good care of them) |
Anonymous
| PP from above: My teen DD thinks why don't we buy a Range Rover which has more style and class? They are just teenagers. |