Typical SAHM with school aged kids day

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Reading through these, I would LOVE to be a SAHM to school aged kids. My husband offered when the kids were babies, but I wasn't in to it then. But when the kids are in school all day, it seems to be a lot of working out, cooking, reading, faffing around (I mean that in the nicest way possible). It sounds like my dream weekends on the rare days when DH takes the kids out all day. Who wouldn't want that to be their main activity?

FWIW, I like aspects of my job but I don't kind myself that I'm not out there curing cancer. I could easily make the switch and not feel bad if we had the money.

I could too, but DH wouldn't respect me and my parents raised me to always have my own income/keep my foot in the door (even if part-time for awhile) so I 'need' to work.

I'm fortunate to be a GS-15 WAH Fed. DH makes 3 times my salary, but we use my work's health benefits and I am also contributing towards retirement.

I think it is sad that your husband wouldn't respect you. Really sad.

[Anonymous]

Sad that your husbands respect for you is so tenuous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Reading through these, I would LOVE to be a SAHM to school aged kids. My husband offered when the kids were babies, but I wasn't in to it then. But when the kids are in school all day, it seems to be a lot of working out, cooking, reading, faffing around (I mean that in the nicest way possible). It sounds like my dream weekends on the rare days when DH takes the kids out all day. Who wouldn't want that to be their main activity?

FWIW, I like aspects of my job but I don't kind myself that I'm not out there curing cancer. I could easily make the switch and not feel bad if we had the money.

I could too, but DH wouldn't respect me and my parents raised me to always have my own income/keep my foot in the door (even if part-time for awhile) so I 'need' to work.

I'm fortunate to be a GS-15 WAH Fed. DH makes 3 times my salary, but we use my work's health benefits and I am also contributing towards retirement.

I think it is sad that your husband wouldn't respect you. Really sad.

I wouldn't respect myself if I had 6.5 hours a day of leisure while he was busting his ass to bring home the bacon. Not sad at all. I get SAH in the infant/toddler years--I don't at all in the years where kids are in school all day long.

[Anonymous]

Lots of dog walking. I WAH and see the SAHMs go by with their dogs all day long. Admirable in these temperatures.

[Anonymous]

I am honestly curious what other people's days are typically like. May be I am trying to get inspired. I am a SAHM, so I am not judging at all! Please don't let this devolve into a war. Thanks for your honest replies.

Unfortunately, Op these types of questions always end up in a 'battle' between Moms. Honestly, you have to come up with a schedule that works for you. We are all different with variety of situations that I don't see reading other people's daily lives really help you. If it works for your family than that is good enough for you. There is no need to look at what other people are doing because it might be the wrong thing for your family.

Good luck!

[Anonymous]

I am honestly curious about WOHM schedules. Particularly, the hours you see your kids and the things you do. Please detail. TIA!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sad that your husbands respect for you is so tenuous.

I agree. It's truly sad that your husband's respect for you hinges on you having a job.

-WOHM

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, these aren't lives.

What do you mean. I think they are largely beautiful lives. Taking care of their families, their own health, their homes, spending time with friends and volunteering. Sounds wonderful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am honestly curious what other people's days are typically like. May be I am trying to get inspired. I am a SAHM, so I am not judging at all! Please don't let this devolve into a war. Thanks for your honest replies.

Unfortunately, Op these types of questions always end up in a 'battle' between Moms. Honestly, you have to come up with a schedule that works for you. We are all different with variety of situations that I don't see reading other people's daily lives really help you. If it works for your family than that is good enough for you. There is no need to look at what other people are doing because it might be the wrong thing for your family.

Good luck!

Not sure if you see the irony in your post. YOU do not think looking at others situations should help me with mine. It does, and that frankly is my decision, not yours to make.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Reading through these, I would LOVE to be a SAHM to school aged kids. My husband offered when the kids were babies, but I wasn't in to it then. But when the kids are in school all day, it seems to be a lot of working out, cooking, reading, faffing around (I mean that in the nicest way possible). It sounds like my dream weekends on the rare days when DH takes the kids out all day. Who wouldn't want that to be their main activity?

FWIW, I like aspects of my job but I don't kind myself that I'm not out there curing cancer. I could easily make the switch and not feel bad if we had the money.

I could too, but DH wouldn't respect me and my parents raised me to always have my own income/keep my foot in the door (even if part-time for awhile) so I 'need' to work.

I'm fortunate to be a GS-15 WAH Fed. DH makes 3 times my salary, but we use my work's health benefits and I am also contributing towards retirement.

I think it is sad that your husband wouldn't respect you. Really sad.

I wouldn't respect myself if I had 6.5 hours a day of leisure while he was busting his ass to bring home the bacon. Not sad at all. I get SAH in the infant/toddler years--I don't at all in the years where kids are in school all day long.

Everyone's situation is different. My husband makes way more money than we could ever need, so it really does not make sense for me to work. I handle everything else (home, kids schedules, cook, health needs, our social schedule, our aging parents, bills, investing, etc.) It works for us!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Get up at 6am cook breakfast for everyone and go for a run. I finish my run at 7am when everyone else is just getting up, have a shower, get the kids ready and take them to school. Get back, put in the laundry and clean the house, put in 3-4 hours work (from home), cook various dinners for the evening, pick up the kids, help them with homework and music practice, go for a bike ride (weather depending). Read books and play board games or talk with the kids, get lunches made for the following morning, have dinner with husband (kids dinner is early), go to bed.

If you're working 20 hours a week I'd call that a part time WAHM, not SAHM.

You. Do. Not. Get. To. Define. Me.

Ok, sure, call yourself whatever you want. I didn't mean it as an insult. I work 30 hours a week myself, mostly from home, and when asked, I tell people that I work part-time, not that I stay at home. (And that I love the job situation I've worked out!) You should define yourself however you want, but I do wonder why you took my comment as an insult?

Lol. Yeah. We do. If you work for pay, you by definition are not a sahm. No matter what you want to call yourself.

I didn't say what i was paid or what the work is. So, no actually you don't.

[Anonymous]

To the pp and I assume the OP?

I am the pp who said you don't have to look to other people. I didn't mean to insult you, honestly! I was trying to reassure you that what you do during the day is totally fine and you don't have to compare yourself to other people. If you took my advice as trying to tell you what to do than you misunderstood but you can totally ignore it and continue to do as you wish.

Have a lovely day!

[Anonymous]

I was really enjoying all of the SHAM's descriptions... can we get back to that?

[Anonymous]

I am home full time with elementary aged children. It's not for everyone because honestly your role in the family is to make everyone's life easier. If you can't handle that or need external validation, this isn't the gig for you. I'm a weirdo and love it, though. Here was my typical run down of a day.

6 am -- wake up, Coffee, read paper quietly. Walk dog.

6:30. Gets kids up, make breakfast while everyone is getting dressed. DH is usually showering by this time.

7-8:30 Kids eat, DH grabs and go, and kids head out to the bus. During this time, I am double checking bags, making sure the kids didn't forget something, etc. I usually clean up breakfast while this stuff is going on (nothing fancy here).

8:30-10 Gym

10-12 Either I grocery shop or I run an errand like getting DH's dry cleaning or I just head home and do everyone's laundry (including DH's. I know people think I'm nuts but what I am here for? To take care of this stuff). Occasionally, I will have a long catch up call with my parents or in laws or friends.

12-2 I do a deep clean of the house. I work in zones so I'm not cleaning the whole place daily but I like spending the time to focus on certain areas. My house is spotless and it's a strange sense of pride I derive from this.

2-3 I start to pull together dinner. Chop veggies, etc. I usually do this while I am watching a bit of television in the kitchen.

3-4:30 Make snack, kids walk in, usually do a back pack check. We usually go for a walk or they play in the back yard if it's nice. If it's cold, I usually have them do a craft of some sort (I have a massive craft habit and enjoy working on things with them.

4:30-6:30 Sometimes we have a sport. Sometimes a music lesson at home. Or homework. It's just depends.

6:30-7 I usually finish dinner (it's all pre-prepped so it only takes 30 minutes to throw together).

7 DH arrives. I pour us a glass of wine, we usually will sit for a few minutes in the kitchen and chat. I send the girls to the basement to play (they wreck it but I'll just clean it tomorrow. It's worth the quiet time).

7:20-8 We eat.

8-9 Wind down bed time. Showers, books, quiet time, etc.

9-10 DH and I usually have a second glass of wine and we either watch a TV show or just have some quiet adult time.

10 Bed.
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I usually get an afternoon to myself on the weekends to catch up with girlfriends. DH and I usually do a date night once a week as well. I have a very content life. It isn't for everyone. But it works for me.

[Anonymous]

I have a husband who travels frequently when not working from home. Our life would be chaos and I would be a resentful mess if I was back at my 60 hour a week career in finance which also included frequent travel. I had a tremendously successful career which I'm happy to talk to my children about. I'm also happy to teach them about being adaptable and that I could make the choice to do what was best for an entire family of people because I loved them. Our house is peaceful and their lives are better because of the choice my husband and I made. You may find that pathetic but I'm quite proud of all of the choices I've made as well as the home life we've created for our kids. Luckily your judgment doesn't affect me in any way. You may not think you are a troll but you certainly aren't the sort of woman I would hope my daughter turns out to be.

I could have written your post. I am agree and I don't really care what others think. I did very well in school and in my career and now this is the season of my life to be at home and taking care of my family and making life more peaceful and enjoyable for all of us. I feel very fortunate.