would ypu be in a relationship with a nanny?

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Anonymous wrote:Who is asking this question?

If your a nanny the right person won't have a problem with it.

If you are the non- nanny on the equation I'd say pass, as the very fact you are asking means you are thinking about the wrong things.

Evaluate the person as a whole, I won't say profession doesn't matter, because if you are considering building a life with this person it is something to take into consideration..

As to the nanny vs teacher debate, I wish nannies wouldn't do this.
Value what you do in and of it self . Being a nanny has value and so does being a teacher.

As for the guys automatically assuming a nanny will automatically make a good SAHM, think again.

I was a nanny for many years before moving onto a different career. I loved being a nanny and caring for the kids, but I never in a million years would want to be a mother or a SAHM.
Now we've managed to cycle back to the start- focus on the person and their ideals not the career.

Did you want children of your own before you nannied?

I hate the whole teacher vs nanny debate. My point earlier which I didn't a poor job of explaining because I haven't slept in several days... is that I wanted to be a kindergarten teacher. I make more as a nanny. I agree that teachers are underpaid. So are a lot of people....

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It would depend on how serious the nanny is.

If they are flaking out on families, complaining about their job, taking slight at the perceived domestic help nature of the job themselves, then I would not want to date them. If they seemed to treat it as a way to be employed until they got married and could stay home, I would have a problem with it.

But if they rocked it out like a pro, took it really seriously, absolutely not.

[Anonymous]

Ha, for me it would also be her family background. Plenty of young nannies are from well-off families.

[Anonymous]

I make 25/hr as a nanny. My husband is a high earner so I'm able to do a job I love. He thinks it's great. If I'm happy, he's happy.

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They don't make men like they used to. * sigh*

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It would depend on how serious the nanny is.

If they are flaking out on families, complaining about their job, taking slight at the perceived domestic help nature of the job themselves, then I would not want to date them. If they seemed to treat it as a way to be employed until they got married and could stay home, I would have a problem with it.

But if they rocked it out like a pro, took it really seriously, absolutely not.

How would you feel about a nanny who rocked it out like a pro, but also wanted to be a SAHM while her children were young? As a nanny, which I love and take my job very seriously and am quite professional, I cannot imagine not taking care of my own.

[Anonymous]

DW was an au pair when we started dating. Now she has a masters degree and a good fed job. The marriage was sooner than I would have liked (visa expiring) but we waited a while to have kids.

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Anonymous wrote:DW was an au pair when we started dating. Now she has a masters degree and a good fed job. The marriage was sooner than I would have liked (visa expiring) but we waited a while to have kids.

I guess this is every au pair's dream...?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It would depend on how serious the nanny is.

If they are flaking out on families, complaining about their job, taking slight at the perceived domestic help nature of the job themselves, then I would not want to date them. If they seemed to treat it as a way to be employed until they got married and could stay home, I would have a problem with it.

But if they rocked it out like a pro, took it really seriously, absolutely not.

How would you feel about a nanny who rocked it out like a pro, but also wanted to be a SAHM while her children were young? As a nanny, which I love and take my job very seriously and am quite professional, I cannot imagine not taking care of my own.

That makes sense. Can you afford to stay home? What is the issue with your husband that he is hesitant? Sorry, I am assuming you are married. If not, it seems like this conversation is probably premature.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It would depend on how serious the nanny is.

If they are flaking out on families, complaining about their job, taking slight at the perceived domestic help nature of the job themselves, then I would not want to date them. If they seemed to treat it as a way to be employed until they got married and could stay home, I would have a problem with it.

But if they rocked it out like a pro, took it really seriously, absolutely not.

How would you feel about a nanny who rocked it out like a pro, but also wanted to be a SAHM while her children were young? As a nanny, which I love and take my job very seriously and am quite professional, I cannot imagine not taking care of my own.

PP here. If you are rocking it, are you earning comparable to private sector work? Are you with a high net worth family? Does the job bring benefits you couldn't get elsewhere that benefit your family life with your husband? Being professional / rocking it encompasses more than showing up on time.. but if you are earning 50-60k or more, doing prof development and have the rest of your act in gear, are saving as much of your income as possible, etc, the hesitation on his part is coming from sone where else in the relationship.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It would depend on how serious the nanny is.

If they are flaking out on families, complaining about their job, taking slight at the perceived domestic help nature of the job themselves, then I would not want to date them. If they seemed to treat it as a way to be employed until they got married and could stay home, I would have a problem with it.

But if they rocked it out like a pro, took it really seriously, absolutely not.

How would you feel about a nanny who rocked it out like a pro, but also wanted to be a SAHM while her children were young? As a nanny, which I love and take my job very seriously and am quite professional, I cannot imagine not taking care of my own.

That makes sense. Can you afford to stay home? What is the issue with your husband that he is hesitant? Sorry, I am assuming you are married. If not, it seems like this conversation is probably premature.

DH makes enough for us to live comfortably, not extravagantly. Things will certainly be much tighter when we add children and lose an income. He is very happy to have me stay home to care for our future children. Just wondering what an outsiders perspective is. It seems that people look down on nannies, as if they are just waiting for a man to take care of them and that is not the case. Most of is adore children and love our jobs. I am not the OP of this thread, btw.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It would depend on how serious the nanny is.

If they are flaking out on families, complaining about their job, taking slight at the perceived domestic help nature of the job themselves, then I would not want to date them. If they seemed to treat it as a way to be employed until they got married and could stay home, I would have a problem with it.

But if they rocked it out like a pro, took it really seriously, absolutely not.

How would you feel about a nanny who rocked it out like a pro, but also wanted to be a SAHM while her children were young? As a nanny, which I love and take my job very seriously and am quite professional, I cannot imagine not taking care of my own.

That makes sense. Can you afford to stay home? What is the issue with your husband that he is hesitant? Sorry, I am assuming you are married. If not, it seems like this conversation is probably premature.

DH makes enough for us to live comfortably, not extravagantly. Things will certainly be much tighter when we add children and lose an income. He is very happy to have me stay home to care for our future children. Just wondering what an outsiders perspective is. It seems that people look down on nannies, as if they are just waiting for a man to take care of them and that is not the case. Most of is adore children and love our jobs. I am not the OP of this thread, btw.

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