Suicides associated with the AM hack

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Should have thought about that before signing up for the site. (my husband was on the site, I did not know until the list. Yes, he is a cheater) I have absolutely NO sympathy for the people on that site.

Exactly. Anyone who cheats should be stoned in the public square.

Just FYI: Some of you guys sound like rigid, self-righteous moralizers. Maybe that's why your men cheat.

WRONG. People cheat because its fun. They like the challenge. They are narcissist. Don't EVER blame the spouse.

I feel sorry for people like you who have a very linear view of the world. It must really suck to have to work so hard to stay in your little life borders.

[Anonymous]

Look, I feel bad that if he committed suicide, but if something were going to make me feel so guilty that I would take my own life if others found out, I would not do it in the first place.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Look, I feel bad that if he committed suicide, but if something were going to make me feel so guilty that I would take my own life if others found out, I would not do it in the first place.

As long as I still got the life insurance $--can't say I'd care.

[Anonymous]

My friend was nearly destroyed when she found out that her husband, a police officer, was cheating on her once again. She would have full-on panic attacks at work. She divorced him. Cheating destroys the spouse. For those of you who are so casual about it, I seriously doubt that you have ever been cheated on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Look, I feel bad that if he committed suicide, but if something were going to make me feel so guilty that I would take my own life if others found out, I would not do it in the first place.

You can't possibly expect everyone to be as perfect as you though, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Look, I feel bad that if he committed suicide, but if something were going to make me feel so guilty that I would take my own life if others found out, I would not do it in the first place.

As long as I still got the life insurance $--can't say I'd care.

I hope your husband's mistress isn't as heartless as you are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My friend was nearly destroyed when she found out that her husband, a police officer, was cheating on her once again. She would have full-on panic attacks at work. She divorced him. Cheating destroys the spouse. For those of you who are so casual about it, I seriously doubt that you have ever been cheated on.

I don't think anyone is casual about it. I have been cheated on. I don't think this data dump is right. Life and people are complex. It might be easier to 'forgive'--which can sometimes be a valid and good course of action, if it has not been made so public and your life/spouse's life and job destroyed. I don't think everyone is used or be used. People can truly love each other and make bad choices. They can live through alcoholism and health crises. Some cheating is a a pathology that needs treatment . Marriage is long--if you let it be. I'm sorry for your friend - I'm betting 100% everything in the marriage was not hunky dory but for the cheating. I am not blaming her--but I am saying sometimes we fall in love with people who aren't good for us and practically shout that message from the hill tops. divorce is probably the best option then.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Look, I feel bad that if he committed suicide, but if something were going to make me feel so guilty that I would take my own life if others found out, I would not do it in the first place.

As long as I still got the life insurance $--can't say I'd care.

Suicide voids most life insurance policies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Should have thought about that before signing up for the site. (my husband was on the site, I did not know until the list. Yes, he is a cheater) I have absolutely NO sympathy for the people on that site.

Exactly. Anyone who cheats should be stoned in the public square.

Just FYI: Some of you guys sound like rigid, self-righteous moralizers. Maybe that's why your men cheat.

WRONG. People cheat because its fun. They like the challenge. They are narcissist. Don't EVER blame the spouse.

Says the person who is so bitter because they know they were the cause of their spouse cheating. Sucks to be you, but you deserve what you get.

If only we could publicize the number of times the spouses of those on the AM dump actually put out in the past three years...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:I would think when people are being driven to suicide it is a police matter/ in the public interest to provide some.protection. Like blackmail/ extortion. Again, the people who signed up dod not actually commit a crime.

Adultery is not a crime?

Seriously? You thought it was? No, it isn't. Immoral, yes; illegal, no.

It's illegal moron Adultery isn't just a crime in the eyes of your spouse. In 21 states, cheating in a marriage is against the law, punishable by a fine or even jail time.

Show me one prosecution for adultery in the US in the last thirty years. One.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Should have thought about that before signing up for the site. (my husband was on the site, I did not know until the list. Yes, he is a cheater) I have absolutely NO sympathy for the people on that site.

Exactly. Anyone who cheats should be stoned in the public square.

Just FYI: Some of you guys sound like rigid, self-righteous moralizers. Maybe that's why your men cheat.

WRONG. People cheat because its fun. They like the challenge. They are narcissist. Don't EVER blame the spouse.

Says the person who is so bitter because they know they were the cause of their spouse cheating. Sucks to be you, but you deserve what you get.

If only we could publicize the number of times the spouses of those on the AM dump actually put out in the past three years...

My spouse hasn't cheated and I think cheating is abhorrent. So you're wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Should have thought about that before signing up for the site. (my husband was on the site, I did not know until the list. Yes, he is a cheater) I have absolutely NO sympathy for the people on that site.

Exactly. Anyone who cheats should be stoned in the public square.

Just FYI: Some of you guys sound like rigid, self-righteous moralizers. Maybe that's why your men cheat.

WRONG. People cheat because its fun. They like the challenge. They are narcissist. Don't EVER blame the spouse.

I feel sorry for people like you who have a very linear view of the world. It must really suck to have to work so hard to stay in your little life borders.

I feel sorry for people who can't grow up and take responsibility for their own behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Should have thought about that before signing up for the site. (my husband was on the site, I did not know until the list. Yes, he is a cheater) I have absolutely NO sympathy for the people on that site.

Not an issue that you know about your husband but is there a need for it to be publicized to the whole world?

She probably wouldn't have known her husband was a cheater if not for the hack.

This is just awful and sickening. When this whole AM thing first broke, my first reaction was - "serves the cheaters right". But this goes way beyond that sentiment now! This is destroying the lives of so many families - especially children. I don't know what the solution is or the right thing to think is anymore.

Maybe it limited damage.

Maybe before the spouse got an STD and infected his spouse.

Maybe before he knocked a chick up who claimed to be on the Pill--and avoiding paternity and a bastard 1/2 sibling for the kids.

Maybe before spouse was robbed or found dead in the Donovan Hotel.

Maybe the spouse finally has enough reason to leave a narcissistic, macho ahole.

Maybe before a crazy Fatal Attraction chick was met and started stalking his family.

I don't know. I think opening the blinds and seeing reality is for the best.

Seeing reality, yes. But not having your parents' sins known by everyone.

Parent. Singular.

Should have thought of the family and not gone on a website advertising 'life is short, have an affair'. Zero sympathy.

Zero sympathy for their kids? Are you a psycho?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Should have thought about that before signing up for the site. (my husband was on the site, I did not know until the list. Yes, he is a cheater) I have absolutely NO sympathy for the people on that site.

Exactly. Anyone who cheats should be stoned in the public square.

Just FYI: Some of you guys sound like rigid, self-righteous moralizers. Maybe that's why your men cheat.

WRONG. People cheat because its fun. They like the challenge. They are narcissist. Don't EVER blame the spouse.

Have to agree. My marriage is good and no cheating, but of the friends who have had cheating spouses, the cheated on spouses were the nicest, most supportive wives. The cheaters were just really self-involved and narcissist is about right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Should have thought about that before signing up for the site. (my husband was on the site, I did not know until the list. Yes, he is a cheater) I have absolutely NO sympathy for the people on that site.

Exactly. Anyone who cheats should be stoned in the public square.

Just FYI: Some of you guys sound like rigid, self-righteous moralizers. Maybe that's why your men cheat.

WRONG. People cheat because its fun. They like the challenge. They are narcissist. Don't EVER blame the spouse.

Have to agree. My marriage is good and no cheating, but of the friends who have had cheating spouses, the cheated on spouses were the nicest, most supportive wives. The cheaters were just really self-involved and narcissist is about right.

And putting out 3-4+ times a week 16 years into the marriage.

Some have sexual addictions or messed up philandering role models and still step out. It's a fallacy all cheaters aren't getting good sex at home.