Reassure me - 4 year old has ZERO interest in learning to read / write

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No- its not to be mean. When people are sharing their truth- without worrying about your pride, it can come off as harsh. No one really wastes their time to be bitter. If we click on a thread about delays its because we want to share our truth. Either that our kid was delayed and now is XYZ or that we have seen parents lose their dammed minds over things that turn out just fine. Or more apporpriately- that losing your mind was no influence on your kids progress.

Seeing things as black and white (people either support me or are meanies) is maybe not the best way to view things. If everyone who disagrees with you is better/angry then it explains why people do not voice adverse opinion, IRL.

I am most often surprised that folks are outraged at the varied responses. Who are you all hanging out with, that everyone just smiles and nods?

Oh stop with the righteousness, please. No one is talking about "varied responses". It's the name calling, the callous and dismissive comments, the snark, and often ridiculous but hurtful assertions about the OP as a means to degrade and shame them for - presumably - asking a "dumb question", even if that question is sincere. You worry about X, you ask about X and you get a barrage of nastiness. Very dynamic. Who are you hanging out with where people can't provide "varied responses" on a civil way?

The only person who name called was OP! She called people jackasses and told someone that they lacked basic reading comp skills.

OP here - where did I call someone a jackass? Please site (you can't because I most certainly didn't). And yes, the first poster this morning responded really rudely to my post and clearly hadn't actually read my post. So valid point about reading comprehension. The nastiness on this thread over what was a sincere question about whether (or NOT) I should be concerned about DD simply confirms some of the posts other PPs have made about the nature of this forum. It's actually sort of hilarious to read the nasty responses at this point because they're totally out of proportion with the questions I raised if DDs lack if interest at this stage was normal. Good luck, people! Good night.

[Anonymous]

OP, you titled your thread "Reassure me -- " You wanted to be reassured that your 4 year-old child was normal for not reading up to 50 sight words. And when others failed to do that on demand, you responded with extreme anger and defensiveness, insisting that your situation was normal and natural.

You really can't have it both ways. If you know that you are normal, you don't need reassurance. And you don't lash out with such anger and defensiveness at the occasional snark.

Your over the top extreme rudeness to posters who are not willing to reassure you suggests, very strongly, that you are deeply troubled and extraordinarily competitive about a four year old's reading skills. There is no reassuring you. I started reading this post thinking you were just a mom who needed a little reassurance about normal child development. But frankly, I think you need therapy.