My mother is very sick (WWYD question)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your first priority is your child, and you simply can't afford this. Look into skype calls or something else, but your child is dependent on you and it is not fair to her to put her in a financially precarious position. Don't charge the visit and rack up debt that will make you even more stressed out. Going out there isn't going to heal your mother and frankly you're probably still going to feel shitty afterwards, except you'll feel shitty & even more financially stressed. I grew up with parents who were always financially stressed and it sucked! I would get so angry because they did it to themselves & their children. At the end of the day, you can't afford this.

I disagree about what her priorities should be based on her posts.

At the end of the day, this OP would feel horrible if she didn't see her mom before she died. She'll take a financial hit but nothing that can't be resolved and for OP, that is worth it.

Yes. Also, it will model for the child that family comes first and it's ok to go through hardships to be with those you love. A precious lesson in this day and age, if you ask me.

[Anonymous]

OP here. I wanted to update the kind people on this board to let you know my beautiful mother passed away last night in peace, about a week after I left. I am so very glad we had those last few days with her, while she was still lucid. She also communicated her wishes at the end, which was helpful in making the final decisions for her.

Some family members and friends have stepped up to help me return for the service. Everything is going to be ok. Bless you all.

[Anonymous]

I'm very sorry for your loss, OP.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry for your loss, OP and am glad you were with her.

[Anonymous]

So sorry for you loss OP. It's good you were with her and will be able to go for the service and be with your family.

[Anonymous]

OP, I am so sorry for your loss. Peace to you and your loved ones.

[Anonymous]

God bless your kind family and friends who are making it possible for you to go back for the service. Glad you are going to be OK, too.

[Anonymous]

I am so sorry for your loss OP, and so glad you were able to have that last visit. You are in my thoughts; wishing you peace.

[Anonymous]

Peace and hugs to you, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you have relatives who could help with the costs? Or start a gofundme account.

+1 on the gofundme. Post a link and I would donate.

[Anonymous]

My condolences OP. I'm so glad you went to see here and had some last good time with her. Especially glad that you sound at peace and pleased with how you handled it. That is a wonderful thing.

[Anonymous]

So glad ot have this update, and that you can go again. Good luck and peace to you and your family.