sick person came over uninvited and I have a newborn

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Anonymous wrote:And if you really cared about protecting your newborn from germs you'd be nursing instead of bottle-feeding.

+100
Dang you beat me to it!!!!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And if you really cared about protecting your newborn from germs you'd be nursing instead of bottle-feeding.

+100
Dang you beat me to it!!!!

You guys just made this a hundred times uglier.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And if you really cared about protecting your newborn from germs you'd be nursing instead of bottle-feeding.

+100
Dang you beat me to it!!!!

You guys just made this a hundred times uglier.

I can't agree more. Way to beat down a new mom.

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Anonymous wrote:When is the party for your spring cleaning? Ooh! Ooh! Can I do windows?

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I hate when people bring uninvited folks to my house too. The replies you are receiving shows just how judgemental, selfish and inconsiderate others can be. I wouldn't say anything but would not invite the invited friend over again. I would be pissed too. Please ignore these hateful judgemental posters. You will be the only person up and worried about your child's health while friend and uninvited guest are sleeping peacefully at home. The people commenting on this post are probably the same people who don't believe in hand washing after leaving the restroom but will put their hands on your baby. Lesson learned stop inviting that friend.

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She invited her friend over to work for her. Not for a dinner party or other social occasion.
If she's that uptight about having people around her baby, then she should not invite people over, period. As others have pointed out, the invited friend is more likely to be contagious with a bug and asymptomatic than the uninvited friend who was getting over a cold. Neither were guests, they were both there to do chores for the mom. Really, the tree couldn't have waited a week or two or three to be taken down? How old is the baby? If the new mom is so confident in her indignation about an uninvited sick person, then she's not going to be swayed by the overwhelmingly negative responses she's received - from experienced moms. You do the math.

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How many Christmas decorations do you have? Did you ask them to climb ladders and take lights off your house? Did you provide food and drinks? How did you even word the invite? How many of your friends came?

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Wait, you invited friends over to clean up your Christmas decorations?

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Two things here: Yes, the friend is rude for bringing other people to your house without permission. But you also are kind of SOL because they were coming as a favor to help you out.

The risk of your baby getting sick was tiny, so no need for you to stress out about that.

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And the next time your friend is coming over, feel free to say, "We're only expecting a small group, so please don't bring any other friends."

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You invited people over to take down your Christmas tree?

Yes, this. You are offended that you invited a friend over to take down your decorations, and you are offended that she brought a friend along?

+1

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Anonymous wrote:Wait, you invited friends over to clean up your Christmas decorations?

Totally don't understand this either. Who invites friends over to clean up?

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Anonymous wrote:This is more of a friendship dilemma but this forum seems to be the best one given the situation.

I have a newborn baby. DH and I invited a very small handful of close friends via email over to help us clean up our Christmas tree and decorations. None of these friends have kids and some are single.One friend replied that she would come, and today she showed up with one of her friends (who I know but more as an acquaintance). I didn't invite the acquaintance and my friend didn't ask if the acquaintance could.come along. I was not happy this happened but let it slide.

About an hour in, I'm sitting on the couch feeding my baby a bottle when the acquaintance sits down next to me and says she wishes she could hold the baby but she won't because she has a cold. I immediately got up and said I wanted to see if the baby would take a nap, but really I wanted to remove him from her presence. She followed me to the nursery saying that she wanted to see it, and then I said I didn't want her around the baby since she had a cold. She left and didn't say anything. 10 minutes later my friend came into the room and said they had to get going but was happy to see me etc. Acquaintance didn't come back in (good) but she also didn't apologize for anything.

So I need to address 3 things:

1) My friend who thinks it's ok to bring people to my house even though they weren't invited. The writing on my email didn't say people could invite others. I didn't think I needed to say NOT to invite others because I though it was a given, silly me.
2) The girl who tagged along. If you're not invited somewhere, then don't go, even if someone who was invited tells you it's ok to come.
3) Not only was she not invited, but she brought gems into my house

I really like my friend and want to keep our friendship but it drives me crazy that almost every other time I invite her to do something, she brings one or two or sometimes three other people along, but I'm not sure how to address it. I don't really care for the acquaintance so I'm not too worried about offending her, especially after this happened I am livid. Im not sure what I should say to my friend or if I should do it over email, phone, or in person; but I need to say something otherwise her actions could continue to damage our friendship

Sry for typos.

I really like my friend and want to keep our friendship but it drives me crazy that almost every other time I invite her to do something, she brings one or two or sometimes three other people along, but I'm not sure how to address it. I don't really care for the acquaintance so I'm not too worried about offending her, especially after this happened I am livid. Im not sure what I should say to my friend or if I should do it over email, phone, or in person; but I need to say something otherwise her actions could continue to damage our friendship

Maybe that's the only way she can deal with spending time with you? If you are "inviting" a friend over to do chores for you, then I don't blame her for bringing a friend. Maybe you should stop inviting her to do stuff for you, and see if she reaches out to you and invites you to something social. It seems like your friendship is a bit one sided if you are doing all the asking. Just stop asking her over and keep up a casual friendship via email or text. Frankly, I think your actions have probably already damaged what friendship you had. Hence her need for a wingman.

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Anonymous wrote:You invited people over to take down your Christmas tree?

This is a zillion times worse than someone with a cold. How lazy and entitled.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And if you really cared about protecting your newborn from germs you'd be nursing instead of bottle-feeding.

+100
Dang you beat me to it!!!!

You and PP are assholes. Total, utter, miserable assholes.