sick person came over uninvited and I have a newborn

[Anonymous]

I'm guessing you are a FTM. Stop wasting your time thinking about this.

[Anonymous]

It was rude but I agree to let it go. I wasnt so aware of germs and newborn rules until my friebds began having children - they obviously don't get it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When is the party for your spring cleaning? Ooh! Ooh! Can I do windows?

Snort
Also, I don't think DCUM can handle knowing what type of injury this was. Short of a CVA with hemiparalysis there is no
Coming back from this
Unless you had one of this yards with a million blow up Santas and lights set to music that you can tune into from your car.
Then, together with the above stroke, the email would be ok, but still not the uninvited guests snub

[Anonymous]

Get over yourself.

You invited your single/childless friends to come clean for you. One such friend decided said cleaning would go faster with another set of hands and would allow her to get out of there quicker, so she brought someone. And now you're pissed that that someone was sick -- when you would never even have realized it if she hadn't said something?

And if you're such a perfect mom who is SO worried about your snowflake being around someone who is sick, why did you invite people over at all? Your family should be in seclusion until the 3 month mark. If that means the tree comes down in March, so be it.

[Anonymous]

This is so strange. People who visit families with kids when they are sick are beyond stupid.

I have been in situations when I was sick and was invited to see a newborn. I have always phoned, texted, emailed the new parents, congratulated them and extended my apologies for not visiting because I have a cold etc. ALL parents have appreciated that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is so strange. People who visit families with kids when they are sick are beyond stupid.

I have been in situations when I was sick and was invited to see a newborn. I have always phoned, texted, emailed the new parents, congratulated them and extended my apologies for not visiting because I have a cold etc. ALL parents have appreciated that.

That's nice of you and the right thing to do but my point is if OP is SOOO worried about her kid getting sick, why is she inviting people over at all? If mundane cleaning tasks have to wait until the kid is 3 months, then she should wait. And no -- not all parents are SO worried about this. I think most take common sense precautions of not letting a visibly sick person hold the kid, but many don't worry at all because they know that a 2nd child will have a germ factory of a older sibling breathing and touching them and will likely still be fine.

[Anonymous]

OMG. Get your shit together - seriously. I never respond to DCUM but the Mom in me almost choked when I read this. You are a total self-absorbed nutjob. The world doesn't stop because you have a newborn, nor does it revolve around you. She had a cold. BFD! And you invited people over to help you clean up your Christmas stuff. Are you f'ing kidding me?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OMG. Get your shit together - seriously. I never respond to DCUM but the Mom in me almost choked when I read this. You are a total self-absorbed nutjob. The world doesn't stop because you have a newborn, nor does it revolve around you. She had a cold. BFD! And you invited people over to help you clean up your Christmas stuff. Are you f'ing kidding me?

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It was rude but I agree to let it go. I wasnt so aware of germs and newborn rules until my friebds began having children - they obviously don't get it.

Obviously not. Stupid childless people. And really, what else do they have to do besides do chores for their married friends with children? OP - rude rude rude. And you don't get it - just wait until you have a second or third (or more), and your precious newborn is being schlepped all over the place, hanging out with snotty nosed toddlers who are hacking away because that's what you do when you have more than one kid. If you have any sense of humor at all, you might be able to laugh at how you handled yourself with #1, or not.

I have three, and by the second and third, it's amazing how much stuff you let go. You have to. You don't have time to sweat the small stuff, and I NEVER asked my friends to do chores for me, or assumed that my childless friends had nothing better to do. Sheesh!

[Anonymous]

You are crazy because you are post partem. Let it go.

[Anonymous]

OP. She's not really friends with you. She realizes you are crazy but she must feel some sense of loyalty. She brought a friend along because she wouldn't be able to handle your wackiness solo. Did it ever occur to you that all of the so-called friends you invited over to help you clean your house realize what a nut-job you are and that's why they didn't come over? So the one person gracious enough to even respond gets blamed by you? Oh my - your poor child. Getting a cold is the least of his/her worries. You better start saving now for the therapy fund.

[Anonymous]

And if you really cared about protecting your newborn from germs you'd be nursing instead of bottle-feeding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow... OP, you are just entitled. You asked for help to do chores around your house!! Seriously?? Are you that SIL from a previous post that schedules time slots for baby visits and requires visitors to bring food/do chores?

I knew there was something familiar about this!

OP, if she had to tell you she has a cold then don't worry about it. Especially since people came over to help you.

[Anonymous]

So what was the injury that prevented removal of decorations?

[Anonymous]

Probably butt hurt husband shoving it in it.