Settle a debate. Which is worse: emotional or physical affair?

[Anonymous]

He's threatened by me wanting to try different things. I really can't see myself doing only two positions the rest of my life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They both suck. People are assholes that do either to a spouse.

They are cowardly and pathetic. I am so disgusted by cheaters. Very low self-esteem, narcissistic, selfish...

[Anonymous]

New poster here. I'm not satisfied in the bedroom but I love my husband and I've made the decision not to cheat. We've only been married 7+ years so who knows what the future holds. In my home country, infidelity would not necessarily end a marriage. And I don't hold any moralistic judgments about other people's marriages. However, I personally would not want to cheat because I know it would devastate my husband emotionally. We've tried working on sex bit but with little success. For now, I am willing to accept that things will always be this way. And anyway, eventually we will be old and sexual incompatibility will no longer be an issue. I knew my husband was older and I did not want to live together so I accept my own responsibility in this.

I would forgive a physical affair but it would devastate me if my husband fell in love with someone else. I have had an intense close friendship with a man I knew before marriage but I avoid him at all cost because I believe it could easily become an affair. My husband would probably forgive both physical and emotional affair.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is no coming back from a physical affair. I'll never stop seeing the two of you together, even if he's faceless. Him doing stuff to you. Worse, you doing stuff to him.

There's no way back from that without endlessly feeling like a chump. No amount "but I love you" can fix the physical aspect.

Unless you both were high school sweetheart virgins, it's more than likely that she has had other meat in her mouth before.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is no coming back from a physical affair. I'll never stop seeing the two of you together, even if he's faceless. Him doing stuff to you. Worse, you doing stuff to him.

There's no way back from that without endlessly feeling like a chump. No amount "but I love you" can fix the physical aspect.

Unless you both were high school sweetheart virgins, it's more than likely that she has had other meat in her mouth before.

Before knowing me is way different than during our relationship.

[Anonymous]

If a physical affair lasts 5 years does that their was also an emotional element?

[Anonymous]

If you cheat on your man and do a sex act that you wouldn't do with him it's devastating.

[Anonymous]

Physical. Nobody ever got HIV by emotional contact.