"Homecoming Dresses"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So is this dress okay?

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Not this poster, but also would be interested in an answer to this question. If this becomes the latest fashion in certain circles for prom this year, should it be viewed as an acceptable personal choice -- while perhaps on one end of the spectrum, it is still merely one choice in the spectrum of choices of self-expression that should not be stymied by parental interference? When it comes to a teenager's personal choice of what to wear, is there any line that should not be crossed?

If your list of things to worry about is so short that there's room on your list for this hypothetical worry, then you lead a charmed life.

Because I am less fortunate than you, I'll worry about it if it actually happens, and not before.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So is this dress okay?

http://www.ruethedayblog.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/05/83319121.jpg

Not this poster, but also would be interested in an answer to this question. If this becomes the latest fashion in certain circles for prom this year, should it be viewed as an acceptable personal choice -- while perhaps on one end of the spectrum, it is still merely one choice in the spectrum of choices of self-expression that should not be stymied by parental interference? When it comes to a teenager's personal choice of what to wear, is there any line that should not be crossed?

If your list of things to worry about is so short that there's room on your list for this hypothetical worry, then you lead a charmed life.

Because I am less fortunate than you, I'll worry about it if it actually happens, and not before.

So basically you don't want to admit that if your child picked this dress out you would honestly say "oh hell no" because the whole time you have been here saying you would let them wear whatever they want, correct?

[Anonymous]

I'm saying that I will deal with what I would say if my child picked out that dress (from where? I don't think it's for sale anywhere we shop) if she ever actually picks out that dress.

And no, I have not been saying that I will let my child wear whatever she wants. I have been saying that all of the tsuris about the dresses some teenage girls wear is actually anxiety about the sexuality of teenage girls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm saying that I will deal with what I would say if my child picked out that dress (from where? I don't think it's for sale anywhere we shop) if she ever actually picks out that dress.

And no, I have not been saying that I will let my child wear whatever she wants. I have been saying that all of the tsuris about the dresses some teenage girls wear is actually anxiety about the sexuality of teenage girls.

Anxiety about the sexuality of teenage girls? Um....yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Jesus, ladies. Unclench. And enough with the slut shaming. Because that's what it is.

No it's not. Slut shaming would be trying to humiliate or insult ("shame") a person who has lots of sex with lots of different partners (the actual meaning of the word "slut").

This discussion is about how many parents don't think short tight dresses that show off tons of cleavage and the butt is a good look. It's tacky, it's rarely flattering, it's unnecessary, and it's particularly objectionable at a school event.

Nobody except the wearer of the dress, the romantic partner of the wearer of the dress, and any close confidantes of the wearer of the dress knows how much sex if any someone wearing a dress like that has been having, and it doesn't matter anyway. Because the point isn't that wearing a dress like that makes a girl a "slut" (it doesn't; someone wearing that kind of dress could have had any amount of sex ranging from none to she lost track of how much. And it still wouldn't matter.). This isn't about sex or "sluts"; it's about dressing in an appropriate and flattering way.

Clearly, many parents do not believe that certain types of dresses are acceptable for their high school aged daughters. Is having standards for acceptable manner of dress for your children no longer part of parenting? When and why did this become a bad thing to monitor?

+1,000,000
You sound like a great parent.