"Homecoming Dresses"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Where do you live? I've found the dresses here to be mostly appropriate. Bethesda.

That is nice, did you chaperone the dance or did you just see the children that were with your daughter? What about those shoes?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Jesus, ladies. Unclench. And enough with the slut shaming. Because that's what it is.

+1

[Anonymous]

Our school sends the kids home with dress code violation (they miss the dance) and the parents FIGHT about it. Like they want their kid looking like a hooker and don't understand why there is a dress code? I get fighting the authority a little but some dresses are see thru, thongs, no undergarments, boobs could fall out, the girl can't bend over, skin tight. I am glad they make them go home and change. It isn't shaming, it is obeying the rules.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I need some perspective. I took my oldest son to his first homecoming event where pictures were being taken. There must have been over forty couples there in various groups. I expected to see some "sexy" dresses but I was taken aback. The first 30% looked appropriately dressed in pretty dresses, the second 30% were dressed in dresses I would say are "too short" or "too low cut" but at least not both, and the third category of 40% of the girls, in my opinion and please excuse the harshness, looked like they were dressed as hookers -- super-tight ("bandage"), crazy-short (how can they sit?), strapless or very low-cut dresses with four-inch heels. Is my opinion regarding the third category out-of-date? Anti-feminist? Too prudish When my daughter gets to that age, will I "mellow out" about it? It felt so weird, because I was actually shocked and no one else seems to be.

You may or may not mellow out about it, when your daughter gets to that age.

But what you need to be very careful about, right now, is giving the message to your oldest son that girls/women who wear revealing clothing have less worth as human beings than girls/women who wear less revealing clothing.

But is it ok to give the message that those girls have bad taste, and they lack dignity and class? You're fooling yourself if you think how a person dresses says nothing at all about the person.

No, it's not. Do you sincerely believe that wearing dresses that you consider too tight/too short/too high/too low takes away a girl's or woman's dignity? And class (however you want to define that)? I don't.

NP here but I absolutely do think dressing like that takes away from a woman. I honestly do. And you can say you don't but it is a stereotype like the rest of society. Man with baggy pants and wife beater walks into gas station and you get nervous. Not the man in the suit. A man sees a teenaged girl dressed in low cut mini dress with stilettos and they aren't thinking, wow she sure is a smart nice girl I would like to get to know. They are thinking one thing only.

[Anonymous]

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NP here but I absolutely do think dressing like that takes away from a woman. I honestly do. And you can say you don't but it is a stereotype like the rest of society. Man with baggy pants and wife beater walks into gas station and you get nervous. Not the man in the suit. A man sees a teenaged girl dressed in low cut mini dress with stilettos and they aren't thinking, wow she sure is a smart nice girl I would like to get to know. They are thinking one thing only.

I think that people thinking that a human being has less value when dressed in certain clothes is a much bigger problem than teenage girls in short tight dresses.

Also, girls and women are not responsible for men's thoughts, and girls and women are not responsible for men's actions. Who is responsible? The men, themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:18: 32

This is what I would consider ugly/ill designed

http://www1.macys.com/shop/product/teeze-me-juniors-lace-strapless-dress?ID=1739738&CategoryID=18109#fn=SPECIAL_OCCASIONS%3DParty/Cocktail%26sp%3D1%26spc%3D250%26ruleId%3D%26slotId%3D9

Whereas I don't mind this one so much.

http://www1.macys.com/shop/product/emerald-sundae-juniors-ruffled-peplum-bodycon-dress?ID=1418976&CategoryID=18109&LinkType=#fn=SPECIAL_OCCASIONS%3DParty/Cocktail%26PAGEINDEX%3D2%26sp%3D2%26spc%3D250%26ruleId%3D%26slotId%3D77

Funny - both are strapless, show the same amount of cleavage and the same amount of leg.

I think the 1st one is definitely only aimed at teens whereas the 2nd is something that you could see a 24-25 year old in for sure, so of course we are going to see that one as better- its a more mature look (albeit still young)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

NP here but I absolutely do think dressing like that takes away from a woman. I honestly do. And you can say you don't but it is a stereotype like the rest of society. Man with baggy pants and wife beater walks into gas station and you get nervous. Not the man in the suit. A man sees a teenaged girl dressed in low cut mini dress with stilettos and they aren't thinking, wow she sure is a smart nice girl I would like to get to know. They are thinking one thing only.

I think that people thinking that a human being has less value when dressed in certain clothes is a much bigger problem than teenage girls in short tight dresses.

Also, girls and women are not responsible for men's thoughts, and girls and women are not responsible for men's actions. Who is responsible? The men, themselves.

Oh dear lord. Are you really saying no one judges a book by it's cover? Why in the world do you think girls dress like that? They want to be looked at and desired. It isn't like the 4 inch heels and skin tight mini is a comfy outfit they wear at home watching TV. I mean seriously enough already. You want your kids to dress that way fine. But you can not force others to think your way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

NP here but I absolutely do think dressing like that takes away from a woman. I honestly do. And you can say you don't but it is a stereotype like the rest of society. Man with baggy pants and wife beater walks into gas station and you get nervous. Not the man in the suit. A man sees a teenaged girl dressed in low cut mini dress with stilettos and they aren't thinking, wow she sure is a smart nice girl I would like to get to know. They are thinking one thing only.

I think that people thinking that a human being has less value when dressed in certain clothes is a much bigger problem than teenage girls in short tight dresses.

Also, girls and women are not responsible for men's thoughts, and girls and women are not responsible for men's actions. Who is responsible? The men, themselves.

Oh dear lord. Are you really saying no one judges a book by it's cover? Why in the world do you think girls dress like that? They want to be looked at and desired. It isn't like the 4 inch heels and skin tight mini is a comfy outfit they wear at home watching TV. I mean seriously enough already. You want your kids to dress that way fine. But you can not force others to think your way.

Who is forcing anybody to think any way? If you want to judge a person's worth, actions, values, or upbringing based on their clothes, go right ahead.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Do you even have a HS student. Do you know girls give away BJ's like it is Halloween candy. This generations "spin the bottle" has been taken to a whole new level.

I don't have a HS student, but I always find claims like this interesting, because all the sources I read say that teens are actually having less sex these days--rates have dropped steadily since 1988 (when many of us were teens).

Even Fox says so!
http://www.foxnews.com/health/2011/03/03/teens-having-sex-study-finds/

[Anonymous]

Lots of girls don't have good fashion sense. They just don't. They grow up and don't either. It doesn't always mean Mom should step in and demand a change. At 16 or 17 I think the fashion mistakes are theirs to own - and not a very big deal.

[Anonymous]

Do you even have a HS student. Do you know girls give away BJ's like it is Halloween candy. This generations "spin the bottle" has been taken to a whole new level.

Interesting, is this YOUR daughter. It's not mine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Do you even have a HS student. Do you know girls give away BJ's like it is Halloween candy. This generations "spin the bottle" has been taken to a whole new level.

I don't have a HS student, but I always find claims like this interesting, because all the sources I read say that teens are actually having less sex these days--rates have dropped steadily since 1988 (when many of us were teens).

Even Fox says so!
http://www.foxnews.com/health/2011/03/03/teens-having-sex-study-finds/

You realize the study says that 72% of teens are having sex instead of 78%. So 7 out of the 10 girls are having sex. You think that is low?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Do you even have a HS student. Do you know girls give away BJ's like it is Halloween candy. This generations "spin the bottle" has been taken to a whole new level.

Interesting, is this YOUR daughter. It's not mine.

You think it is not yours.



Ask a friend's freshman in college what really goes on in HS ... you daughter is lying to you. Only a graduate will finally tell a parent the ugly truth. Or better yet, set up a meeting with the school counselor to find out what is really going on in HS.

These are not boyfriends, these are just guys at parties/after parties/after school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Do you even have a HS student. Do you know girls give away BJ's like it is Halloween candy. This generations "spin the bottle" has been taken to a whole new level.

I don't have a HS student, but I always find claims like this interesting, because all the sources I read say that teens are actually having less sex these days--rates have dropped steadily since 1988 (when many of us were teens).

Even Fox says so!
http://www.foxnews.com/health/2011/03/03/teens-having-sex-study-finds/

You realize the study says that 72% of teens are having sex instead of 78%. So 7 out of the 10 girls are having sex. You think that is low?

Nope, not low, but lower than my generation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Do you even have a HS student. Do you know girls give away BJ's like it is Halloween candy. This generations "spin the bottle" has been taken to a whole new level.

Interesting, is this YOUR daughter. It's not mine.

You think it is not yours.



Ask a friend's freshman in college what really goes on in HS ... you daughter is lying to you. Only a graduate will finally tell a parent the ugly truth. Or better yet, set up a meeting with the school counselor to find out what is really going on in HS.

These are not boyfriends, these are just guys at parties/after parties/after school.

Or you can look at the facts:

http://www.guttmacher.org/pubs/FB-ATSRH.html