Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:So two years later, you've forgiven the man who broke his vow to you while you were pregnant with his child. And now you're enraged at some woman you just found out is pregnant. You have enough forgiveness for your cheating husband, but two years later you want to make this woman miserable.
OP, you need some therapy.
OP has forgiven her cheating husband because they have both done enormously painful work to save their marriage. Leaving a marriage after infidelity is much easier than staying, so those who advocate divorce can only speak for themselves. OP has never had a chance to process her anger or confront her friend. This was not an anonymous stranger, but her best friend. There's no slut shaming about holding someone responsible for her actions. OP's husband has taken responsibility for his part or they wouldn't still be together (I hope). OP, do what you can to find closure. You deserve it. But I agree that your ex-friend is unwell and will not behave in a way that satisfies you or brings you peace. My DH also had an affair while I was pregnant. I still can't look at pictures of my pregnancy or my child's early years (yes, it went on for years). Sometimes I fantasize about confronting the OW, but I know in my heart that it will make no difference. She will never be truly happy. And believe it or not, I am. Most of the time anyway. Besides, my husband and I have enough work to do without adding to the pain.
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