I want to talk shit to the pregnant skank (her boyfriend) my DH had sex with when I was pregnant

[Anonymous]

DH and I had issues. Resolved and/or working on resolving (like now). It's late, DH is in bed, or I would ask him to talk this out with me. DH cheated on me when I was pregnant 2 years ago. I just found out about 5 minutes ago that the woman he cheated on me with (at the time, my best friend) is pregnant. This bitch pursued my husband while I was PREGNANT. In my house. Crazy woman. She convinced DH that I was making up my feelings.

I am angry right now at the the thought that this woman might go through her pregnancy without the pain I went through in a large part because she was playing mind games with my husband. My husband has a lot of fault, too. But, this woman tried to console me while she was sleeping with my husband.

I want to say mean things to her. Like how she's trash. Like how she will be the worst mother. Like how I'm disgusted she's pregnant. I want to tell her she will never have what I have (a complicated, but normal life, a successful career, a husband who chose us over her).

To the woman who came into my home, said she was my friend, and tried to steal my life... I want to tell her that she's a piece of trash who hasn't accomplished anything in her life and that I'm sorry for her baby. She is not allowed to have a pregnancy free from her disgusting ways. Free from what she did to my family.

There is no such thing as a bigger person. There are winners and losers. That is life. Tell me why I should not tell this woman these things?

[Anonymous]

Because it won't help.

Hand write her a letter. Tell her EVERYTHING. Then either burn it, shred it, or rip it up into tiny pieces.

[Anonymous]

Who is the father of her baby? Is it your DH?

[Anonymous]

Why? She doesn't owe you anything. Your husband does.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who is the father of her baby? Is it your DH?

No way. This dude she's been dating. I think. I don't know. Not my DH.

[Anonymous]

She is not "free from her disgusting ways." She has to live with herself everyday, all disgusting parts included.

[Anonymous]

It is your husband's fault. He should have said no. If it wasn't her it could have been someone else. Sorry you had to go through this and are hurting so much.

[Anonymous]

The skank is your husband, who is the one that entered into a binding contract of fidelity with you.

The healthy thing to do is to drop this woman from your life completely. She sounds unwell, and her unborn child will have enough to deal with without added stress hormones in utero.

[Anonymous]

I understand your anger, but follow the advice of the PP above. Write it all out then destroy it. Get it out of your system and then let it blow away in the wind. If that won't do it, find a neutral third party.

Because the truth is that some of your anger is for her and her (vile) betrayal, but some of it is anger at your husband that is easier to direct entirely at her. Two played at that game, two betrayed you, but it's always easier emotionally to blame it all on the other woman.

I am sorry that you are going through this OP. You either choose to forgive him or you don't, but either way you have to face and process the anger about his betrayal as well as hers. And, yes, don't ever see her again.

[Anonymous]

If you get nasty with her, you will probably regret it.

The best revenge is to be happy and successful in your own life. Your husband is at least equally at fault, and you have forgiven him. There may come a time when you may need forgiveness from someone.

[Anonymous]

Whoah OP. Who's the crazy woman in this situation? It goes without saying that your DH should not have cheated on you, but this is a problem between you and him. Take the high road and don't think that you have the right to dole out moral punishment just because this person is moving on with her life.

[Anonymous]

The skank is your husband, and the moron is the woman didn't divorce him.

Hang on, because you have quite a wild ride in front of you. He will do it again.

[Anonymous]

She's moved on. You need to do that too.

Confronting her will accomplish nothing. You won't feel better. As PP has suggested, write it all out and then destroy it. Then focus on what you have now.

[Anonymous]

I completely understand why you're so angry. Hopefully what goes around, will come around for her. If you do confront her (not advising it, but just in case), be sure to do it verbally. No letters, no email, no record.

[Anonymous]

I completely understand your residual anger OP. If I were in your shoes, I would feel exactly the same way toward her.

What she did to you during what should have been one of the happiest times of your life is truly despicable AND unforgivable.

But if it make you feel any better, trust that in this life, what goes around ALWAYS DOES COME AROUND. ALWAYS. Karma is truly a beautiful thing and it does not discriminate nor does it ever forget.

Let it take care of her and do its job.