I want to talk shit to the pregnant skank (her boyfriend) my DH had sex with when I was pregnant

[Anonymous]

So two years later, you've forgiven the man who broke his vow to you while you were pregnant with his child. And now you're enraged at some woman you just found out is pregnant. You have enough forgiveness for your cheating husband, but two years later you want to make this woman miserable.

OP, you need some therapy.

[Anonymous]

OP, you're probably a good person who is still very hurt and angry. It's likely that one of the reasons that your husband chose you and your family over this woman is that you are a good person. You have every right to feel hurt and angry. Being a good person, though, is not inflicting pain on others, even when you are maybe justified in doing so. Choosing not to be cruel makes you a good person. Saying those hateful things to this woman you feel ruined your life (and I agree with PPs that you should probably be blaming your husband MORE than you are in your OP) will degrade that integrity that made you worthy of being chosen.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you sound crazy. Really! Confronting this woman will not make you feel better. It will only cause more drama for your family. Focus on what you need to do to be content and move on, because clearly you haven't. What if she has multiple children? Are you going to confront her each time she is pregnant?

Seriously, you are on the edge of crazy

No, she doesn't sound crazy, on the edge of crazy, or anywhere in the vicinity of crazy. What a ridiculous thing to write.

She sounds like someone who's heard shocking news from her husband. I'm sure it'd be interesting to hear (1) his excuse for withholding this little tidbit of information all this time, and (2) what else is going to come trickling out over time. Because there's always a lot of something else.

OP, if you contact the other woman, you're going to regret it. Anybody who behaves the way she did is sick and depraved, and likely to react to your anger and hurt in ways that will hurt you a lot more. Sounds like she enjoyed fooling you when she was having an affair with your husband. Trust me: she's going to enjoy the chance to hurt you some more.

Another thought: her child is going to suffer horribly for having the terrible misfortune of being her child. Don't be a contributing factor to that poor child's misery.

You sound as dramatic and over-the-top as OP! OP's child has the horrible misfortune of having a skank of a father, but you aren't going on and on about that. There is a lot of slut-shaming on this thread! OP, just focus on your own family.

PP, it seems like this thread hitting a little too close to home for you. I hope you get the help and support you need and deserve.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you sound crazy. Really! Confronting this woman will not make you feel better. It will only cause more drama for your family. Focus on what you need to do to be content and move on, because clearly you haven't. What if she has multiple children? Are you going to confront her each time she is pregnant?

Seriously, you are on the edge of crazy

No, she doesn't sound crazy, on the edge of crazy, or anywhere in the vicinity of crazy. What a ridiculous thing to write.

She sounds like someone who's heard shocking news from her husband. I'm sure it'd be interesting to hear (1) his excuse for withholding this little tidbit of information all this time, and (2) what else is going to come trickling out over time. Because there's always a lot of something else.

OP, if you contact the other woman, you're going to regret it. Anybody who behaves the way she did is sick and depraved, and likely to react to your anger and hurt in ways that will hurt you a lot more. Sounds like she enjoyed fooling you when she was having an affair with your husband. Trust me: she's going to enjoy the chance to hurt you some more.

Another thought: her child is going to suffer horribly for having the terrible misfortune of being her child. Don't be a contributing factor to that poor child's misery.

You sound as dramatic and over-the-top as OP! OP's child has the horrible misfortune of having a skank of a father, but you aren't going on and on about that. There is a lot of slut-shaming on this thread! OP, just focus on your own family.

PP, it seems like this thread hitting a little too close to home for you. I hope you get the help and support you need and deserve.

I was pointing out the irony of this discussion that while the other woman and her child are being written off as miserable and unredeemable, the father is being celebrated for making the right decision. I'm merely wondering why OP's child is inherently luckier than the child of his affair partner?

[Anonymous]

What would Jesus do?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH and I had issues. Resolved and/or working on resolving (like now). It's late, DH is in bed, or I would ask him to talk this out with me. DH cheated on me when I was pregnant 2 years ago. I just found out about 5 minutes ago that the woman he cheated on me with (at the time, my best friend) is pregnant. This bitch pursued my husband while I was PREGNANT. In my house. Crazy woman. She convinced DH that I was making up my feelings.

I am angry right now at the the thought that this woman might go through her pregnancy without the pain I went through in a large part because she was playing mind games with my husband. My husband has a lot of fault, too. But, this woman tried to console me while she was sleeping with my husband.

I want to say mean things to her. Like how she's trash. Like how she will be the worst mother. Like how I'm disgusted she's pregnant. I want to tell her she will never have what I have (a complicated, but normal life, a successful career, a husband who chose us over her).

To the woman who came into my home, said she was my friend, and tried to steal my life... I want to tell her that she's a piece of trash who hasn't accomplished anything in her life and that I'm sorry for her baby. She is not allowed to have a pregnancy free from her disgusting ways. Free from what she did to my family.

There is no such thing as a bigger person. There are winners and losers. That is life. Tell me why I should not tell this woman these things?

I think you should do it. I think you should stop pretending to be someone you're not (mature) and embrace the childish itch-bay you truly are.

[Anonymous]

If she is as horrible as you say chances are high that she will fuck up her life all by herself. You won't have to lift a finger. And you'll come out looking better for it.

Personally, I wouldn't do anything because as you know hurting the mother hurts the baby. I'm bigger person than to have any part in hurting a baby.

I'm sorry you are going through this OP. She is a bitch and deserves to get what she has coming but I think you will feel better about yourself if you walk away from this. You can't attract better friends if you act like trash yourself.

[Anonymous]

You can take the hood rat out of the hood but you can't take the hood rat out of the hood.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can take the hood rat out of the hood but you can't take the hood rat out of the hood.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because it won't help.

Hand write her a letter. Tell her EVERYTHING. Then either burn it, shred it, or rip it up into tiny pieces.

+1

Do not actually give her a moment of your time. I can't believe you forgave your Dh for that. I would have divorced him Or maybe gone ballistic on his butt and ended up in prison, but I sure as HECK wouldn't still be in the same room with him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So two years later, you've forgiven the man who broke his vow to you while you were pregnant with his child. And now you're enraged at some woman you just found out is pregnant. You have enough forgiveness for your cheating husband, but two years later you want to make this woman miserable.

OP, you need some therapy.

She wasn't just "some woman." She was OP's best friend at the time. Take way the issues with the husband for a second, and if your former best friend made a certain milestone in your life miserable, wouldn't it bring up stuff for you when she then goes through that same milestone without a care in the world? That's the part that OP is dealing with here if I'm reading this correctly. I don't blame her one bit for feeling resentful, and for the fact that her former best friend's pregnancy has triggered all of this.

I'm curious why the OP's husband knows she's pregnant though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I completely understand your residual anger OP. If I were in your shoes, I would feel exactly the same way toward her.

What she did to you during what should have been one of the happiest times of your life is truly despicable AND unforgivable.

But if it make you feel any better, trust that in this life, what goes around ALWAYS DOES COME AROUND. ALWAYS. Karma is truly a beautiful thing and it does not discriminate nor does it ever forget.

Let it take care of her and do its job.

Wishful thinking.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The skank is your husband, and the moron is the woman didn't divorce him.

Hang on, because you have quite a wild ride in front of you. He will do it again.

Oh for the love of the lord, ignore these DIVORCE posters. Good for you for making efforts to reconcile your marriage. Your husband is human, he made a mistake and you deserve credit for keeping your family intact.

And this is what comes of staying married. She will be tormented and eaten up by this forever after. Not a very healthy choice IMO.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you sound crazy. Really! Confronting this woman will not make you feel better. It will only cause more drama for your family. Focus on what you need to do to be content and move on, because clearly you haven't. What if she has multiple children? Are you going to confront her each time she is pregnant?

Seriously, you are on the edge of crazy

No, she doesn't sound crazy, on the edge of crazy, or anywhere in the vicinity of crazy. What a ridiculous thing to write.

She sounds like someone who's heard shocking news from her husband. I'm sure it'd be interesting to hear (1) his excuse for withholding this little tidbit of information all this time, and (2) what else is going to come trickling out over time. Because there's always a lot of something else.

OP, if you contact the other woman, you're going to regret it. Anybody who behaves the way she did is sick and depraved, and likely to react to your anger and hurt in ways that will hurt you a lot more. Sounds like she enjoyed fooling you when she was having an affair with your husband. Trust me: she's going to enjoy the chance to hurt you some more.

Another thought: her child is going to suffer horribly for having the terrible misfortune of being her child. Don't be a contributing factor to that poor child's misery.

Wait, the OW was pregnant for 2 years without OP knowing it? Now that IS shocking news.

PP, the baby is not OP's DH's child. But I agree there is more shocking news to come from OP's DH, sooner or later. Why wouldn't there be, since he already showed OP who he is by having an affair with her friend while she was pregnant?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you sound crazy. Really! Confronting this woman will not make you feel better. It will only cause more drama for your family. Focus on what you need to do to be content and move on, because clearly you haven't. What if she has multiple children? Are you going to confront her each time she is pregnant?

Seriously, you are on the edge of crazy

No, she doesn't sound crazy, on the edge of crazy, or anywhere in the vicinity of crazy. What a ridiculous thing to write.

She sounds like someone who's heard shocking news from her husband. I'm sure it'd be interesting to hear (1) his excuse for withholding this little tidbit of information all this time, and (2) what else is going to come trickling out over time. Because there's always a lot of something else.

OP, if you contact the other woman, you're going to regret it. Anybody who behaves the way she did is sick and depraved, and likely to react to your anger and hurt in ways that will hurt you a lot more. Sounds like she enjoyed fooling you when she was having an affair with your husband. Trust me: she's going to enjoy the chance to hurt you some more.

Another thought: her child is going to suffer horribly for having the terrible misfortune of being her child. Don't be a contributing factor to that poor child's misery.

You sound as dramatic and over-the-top as OP! OP's child has the horrible misfortune of having a skank of a father, but you aren't going on and on about that. There is a lot of slut-shaming on this thread! OP, just focus on your own family.

PP, it seems like this thread hitting a little too close to home for you. I hope you get the help and support you need and deserve.

That's strange, considering every single post agrees with the PP's sentiments.