Do you use the N word?

[Anonymous]

Since when did the PP get to decide what is and isn't art.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely never. Not. Ever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't use the word. Ever.
But I think that AAs have played, played, played you with this word. Is a WORD. Not crime. And saying a word does not equal ".... it's discriminating under the law and on and on and on.... fools!"

...the hell are you talking about?

So brain washed. OK for all AAs to use the word anytime they want, but anyone else and out comes the race card. Do you ever think for yourself, or just rush to be the first one to play the race card yourself?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Never. The only time it's acceptable IMO is if a black person refers to another black person that way.

REALLY!?

Black person here! It's totally unacceptable for anyone to use it especially a black person. I will not associate with anyone who uses the n-word.

No, it is neither worse nor better for a black person to use it. There aren't different rules for blacks and whites when it comes to racial slurs, so let's stop acting like there are. It's an ugly word that can't be divorced from either its historical context or its current popular association with a specific "urban" sub culture.
--another Black person

This right here.

[Anonymous]

No.

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

What about racial slurs for other minorities?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't use the word. Ever.
But I think that AAs have played, played, played you with this word. Is a WORD. Not crime. And saying a word does not equal ".... it's discriminating under the law and on and on and on.... fools!"

...the hell are you talking about?

So brain washed. OK for all AAs to use the word anytime they want, but anyone else and out comes the race card. Do you ever think for yourself, or just rush to be the first one to play the race card yourself?

Who is saying this? Most of the AA's that have commented here most that I know say that it is NOT OK! So your point is kind of an empty one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What about racial slurs for other minorities?

Earlier PP here and AA. Just to be clear, I do not condone or use racial slurs....PERIOD! I will not even say the name of the local NFL team that is how strongly I feel about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What about racial slurs for other minorities?

I have never called anyone a racial slur in my life. None of those words are acceptable to me. I'm no saint when it comes to bad language, but using an insulting term for someone's race or ethnicity is just beyond the pale.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No! It's horrifying.

so what do you think about reading Huckleberry Finn? Just asking as my 8th grader is doing that now and the word is used about 250 times in the book.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't use the word. Ever.
But I think that AAs have played, played, played you with this word. Is a WORD. Not crime. And saying a word does not equal ".... it's discriminating under the law and on and on and on.... fools!"

...the hell are you talking about?

So brain washed. OK for all AAs to use the word anytime they want, but anyone else and out comes the race card. Do you ever think for yourself, or just rush to be the first one to play the race card yourself?

Context provides a lot of meaning for words. When a word is used in a certain context, it can have a certain meaning, but it's meaning can be completely changed when it's used in another context.

When AA people use the word, it doesn't mean the same thing as when white people use it. When white people use it, they mean "I am racially superior to you. I have more rights than you. The police will not treat me the way they treat you, so I can afford to start a confrontation with you, even if it gets physical." When black people use it, they are using it to each other to mark a shared status and group membership, or they're using it to criticize one of their own.

Context creates meaning. If you can't understand that, you don't have the social skills required to live in a modern society. Please immediately remove yourself to the top of a nearest mountain or the outskirts of Greater Redneckistan.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:AA here.

Used to use it all the time with my friends as a teenager. Stopped immediately when a road rager said it to me with malice. I cannot describe the feelings I had that day. I still remember the incident vividly.

So...no...I do not say it and it is not allowed to be said in our home. I am not naive to think that my 4 teens do not say it with their friends, but they have heard ad nauseum our objections about the word.

I said this to someone in anger once. I was mad and used the worst thing I could say to lash out with. I'm sorry. I was wrong. I don't do that anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What about racial slurs for other minorities?

Earlier PP here and AA. Just to be clear, I do not condone or use racial slurs....PERIOD! I will not even say the name of the local NFL team that is how strongly I feel about it.

+ a million!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't use the word. Ever.
But I think that AAs have played, played, played you with this word. Is a WORD. Not crime. And saying a word does not equal ".... it's discriminating under the law and on and on and on.... fools!"

...the hell are you talking about?

So brain washed. OK for all AAs to use the word anytime they want, but anyone else and out comes the race card. Do you ever think for yourself, or just rush to be the first one to play the race card yourself?

Context provides a lot of meaning for words. When a word is used in a certain context, it can have a certain meaning, but it's meaning can be completely changed when it's used in another context.

When AA people use the word, it doesn't mean the same thing as when white people use it. When white people use it, they mean "I am racially superior to you. I have more rights than you. The police will not treat me the way they treat you, so I can afford to start a confrontation with you, even if it gets physical." When black people use it, they are using it to each other to mark a shared status and group membership, or they're using it to criticize one of their own.

Context creates meaning. If you can't understand that, you don't have the social skills required to live in a modern society. Please immediately remove yourself to the top of a nearest mountain or the outskirts of Greater Redneckistan.

The problem with this argument is that it dismisses the fact that words carry weight and power - both in a positive and negative way. Words can be hurtful, hateful and harmful in the same way that they can be uplifting and encouraging. When you ignore this fact then you lose the ability to communicate effectively with those around you. Context does create meaning, but it cannot suddenly make an offensive term acceptable. It won't take away the generally accepted hateful meaning of the word.

I am a middle-aged (hurts to write that - see…words have power!) white woman who has never used the term and never will. I was raised to believe in the power of words. My father once kicked one of my sister's (loser) boyfriends out of the house for using the term - that's how strongly my parents felt about the use of appropriate and respectful language (not to mention actions). I don't buy the argument that black people using the terms with each other some how makes that word less offensive. No one can take away the history and prior use of a hateful term. We cannot "own" words or change their history of disrespect. The history is there and it isn't going away. As a woman I hate the word "c*nt". It is hurtful and only used to disrespect the recipient. I cannot change the history of misogyny it carries. It's for this reason you don't see me (or any other woman) walking into a room full of my female friends saying "Hey, c*nt, what's up?" Why? Because it would be ridiculous and outrageously disrespectful!

If we are going to get anywhere in this nation not only with positive race relations (with ALL races), but also with removing the continued sense of division due to differences of opinion, culture and practice then we have to start with understanding the power of the words we use. No one should get a pass to be disrespectful.