I will NEVER forgive my sister

[Anonymous]

Sounds like bad behavior all around. OP I hope you can forgive them someday and let it go. You'll be much happier.

[Anonymous]

FruminousBandersnatch wrote:I'm still confused by this thread.

So, let me summarize:

OP was on the rebound five years ago, dated a guy a few times, they slept together and then he dumped her.

Not long after that, OP's sister started dating the guy, and they have been dating ever since, but kept it secret from OP.

Now, OP has a new boyfriend, and OP's sister and rebound guy are getting married and the sister is pregnant.

OP's sister didn't invite OP to the wedding, allegedly because it makes the rebound guy uncomfortable, however, OP seems to keep focusing on the fact that "the guy knows what she looks like naked."

If having the OP around makes the rebound guy uncomfortable that must mean that he's somehow ashamed of how he treated her 5 years ago, which would be the basis for a reconciliation. Either that, or OP gives off a bad vibe every time she's around that makes everyone uncomfortable, which would be a sign that she hasn't actually gotten over the rebound guy.

On the other hand, the rebound guy might be getting the blame, and it's the OP's sister who feels uncomfortable with the OP because she feels guilty for hooking up with the rebound guy, or because the OP has actually been making her feel guilty over this for the last 5 years (despite claiming to be over it).

All in all, the pieces don't fit (leaving aside the fact that this sounds like it belongs on Maury or Montel).

Here's the prequel. OP was always jealous of her sister. Although OP was the more popular one, her sister was smarter and better behaved growing up, never gave their parents a moment's worry. OP knew her sister really liked this guy and had for a very long time. The sister started working out, got a new haircut/make up, getting some self confidence - all in an effort to get noticed by this guy. OP saw this guy in a bar, smashed off his ass and saw an opportunity to get her mind off her 'heartbreak' and stick it to her sister. It's not like he'd actually dated her sister or anything. When the guy sobered up, he realized what a mistake he'd made and dumped OP. About the same time, he finally noticed OP's sister and, well, he was sickened by what he'd done because it was ruining his chances with the sister. But, as happens in fairy tales (which all of this thread is), true love won out and the jealous sister's evil plans were for naught.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

FruminousBandersnatch wrote:I'm still confused by this thread.

So, let me summarize:

OP was on the rebound five years ago, dated a guy a few times, they slept together and then he dumped her.

Not long after that, OP's sister started dating the guy, and they have been dating ever since, but kept it secret from OP.

Now, OP has a new boyfriend, and OP's sister and rebound guy are getting married and the sister is pregnant.

OP's sister didn't invite OP to the wedding, allegedly because it makes the rebound guy uncomfortable, however, OP seems to keep focusing on the fact that "the guy knows what she looks like naked."

If having the OP around makes the rebound guy uncomfortable that must mean that he's somehow ashamed of how he treated her 5 years ago, which would be the basis for a reconciliation. Either that, or OP gives off a bad vibe every time she's around that makes everyone uncomfortable, which would be a sign that she hasn't actually gotten over the rebound guy.

On the other hand, the rebound guy might be getting the blame, and it's the OP's sister who feels uncomfortable with the OP because she feels guilty for hooking up with the rebound guy, or because the OP has actually been making her feel guilty over this for the last 5 years (despite claiming to be over it).

All in all, the pieces don't fit (leaving aside the fact that this sounds like it belongs on Maury or Montel).

Here's the prequel. OP was always jealous of her sister. Although OP was the more popular one, her sister was smarter and better behaved growing up, never gave their parents a moment's worry. OP knew her sister really liked this guy and had for a very long time. The sister started working out, got a new haircut/make up, getting some self confidence - all in an effort to get noticed by this guy. OP saw this guy in a bar, smashed off his ass and saw an opportunity to get her mind off her 'heartbreak' and stick it to her sister. It's not like he'd actually dated her sister or anything. When the guy sobered up, he realized what a mistake he'd made and dumped OP. About the same time, he finally noticed OP's sister and, well, he was sickened by what he'd done because it was ruining his chances with the sister. But, as happens in fairy tales (which all of this thread is), true love won out and the jealous sister's evil plans were for naught.

Coming to LMN this summer.

Kinda hoping Taylor Lautner plays the fiance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not getting why people keep saying that the OP should "get over it", when she's not invited to her sister's wedding.

It sounds to me as if the sister and fiancee are igniting the drama by saying it would make him uncomfortable to have OP there at the wedding.

I'm with this same person. Your sister is an ass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This guy is awesome.

He's been inside the OP and her sister --

*** WINNER!!! ***

Whatever happens, nothing can take that away from him.

Now if he scored the mom that's a three way tie.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This guy is awesome.

He's been inside the OP and her sister --

*** WINNER!!! ***

Whatever happens, nothing can take that away from him.

Now if he scored the mom that's a three way tie.

Miley Cyrus should play OP.

Amanda Bynes should play OP's sister.

[Anonymous]

This happened to my best friend. She's stayed stuck in the sadness for 7 years and can't move on with her life, although she thinks now she's happy. She's 'engaged' to a loser (he hasn't given her a ring yet but they're engaged. Ok) and moved across country to be with him. She has no job and the guy is a loser too. She spent years dwelling on this injustice of a guy she dated for a week (and slept with) choosing her sister in the end. The sisters no longer speak, but while my friend has stayed a mess, her sister has a beautiful baby with that man and is getting married.

Please don't stag stuck in the anger and bitterness. It changes who you are as a person. You might not think you're stuck, but you are. Sending you nothing but love.

[Anonymous]

*stay, not stag

[Anonymous]

I can't think of many reasons why the guy would be
Upset she was at the wedding. Unless she provided
Some freaky ass sex years back there really
Is no reason. There had to be more to the
Story.

op you sound like the loose guys I knew in college
Who dated a girl and then for all upset and weird
If after they broke up she dated someone in
The same social circle. They just couldn't be happy
That she had found someone that it worked with.


So op did you get freaky and now the guy
Doesn't want you around to make him
Miss the crazy stuff you did that your sister
Doesn't.

[Anonymous]

OP maybe no one told you b/c you are crazy. Tell the whole story...why did he end it? You used the guy while in your poor pitiful me mind set. If you make a big deal of this now it will be worst vs anything that happen 5 years ago.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP maybe no one told you b/c you are crazy. Tell the whole story...why did he end it? You used the guy while in your poor pitiful me mind set. If you make a big deal of this now it will be worst vs anything that happen 5 years ago.

No matter how crazy you think OP is, the guy and the sister may be the worst of the bunch because he slept with OP and then moved on to the sister and the sister gladly accepted ever after she knew what happened between the sister and the guy.

Why he left OP or why they didn't work out is irrelevant.

Sounds like your sister wanted to one you up, does she have insecurity issues? Is she the older sister or you? Are you guys close? Was there ever a competition issue between the two of you before this?

[Anonymous]

As is so often the case on DCUM, I would love to know how many of these harsh, bullying, OP-bashing posts are written by the same person. I'm betting a lot.

OP, this totally sucks. Your own sister. But you know what? It really should (and I hope someday will) comfort you that you didn't up with a creep like this guy.

The odds of their marriage lasting very long are slim, I think.
You can decide later whether you want to help her pick up the pieces when their ill-begotten relationship ends. Which it will. You're better off without a guy like this and your sister is too wrapped up her wedding and landing a husband to think beyond it.

He's a loser, and if all you say is true then he sounds sadistic and twisted too. I wonder if you could seek therapy for how much this situation has hurt and humiliated you. Best of luck.