Sister Problems

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here and our mother was a single parent while we were growing up who worked her butt off to give us everything. She taught me and my sisters how to be strong women and that we don't need men to support us. I feel like my sister's recent decisions are just a slap in the face to my mother. Even though they appear happy now, what happens when my sister's husband leaves her. She will have nothing.

She will be entitled to half their assets unless there is some kind of prenup. She is a housewife. MYOB. You can't change anything.

[Anonymous]

OP, I get frustrated with people close to me who make life decisions I just can't understand. It's something I'm working on. With one woman in particular, I think it stems partly from jealousy and part annoyance that she's too "blind" to make the "right" choice... which is my choice, of course. It's like her way of life is an insult to my way of life. which of course it isn't at all. Not sure what the answer is here except for you to explore the root of your feelings and try to let it go as much as possible.

[Anonymous]

OP I used to have a similar mindset as you, thinking my sisters' life choices were somehow my business, and went about my days "concerned" over their "mistakes" and trying to advise them. Then I realized the problem was all mine, and none of it was any of my business. My sister who had 5 kids before she was 28, never finished college, financially struggling but a good mom and with a husband who loved her? I thought she was crazy, and now I see that it's absolutely not remotely my business how many kids she wants or how she will support them or whether she will have a career. I'm happier now that I let them be them and let me be me, and our relationships are better for it. I honestly feel like such an asshole looking back at myself. Let it go...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow. SAHMs get dire warnings all the time on these boards about stepping out of the workforce. You people really see no problem with this woman simply choosing not to work at all?

+1 if it was my sister, I would advise her to have a plan. Posters would be quick to tell a sah parent posting to get a job but because it's a sibling it's different?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow. SAHMs get dire warnings all the time on these boards about stepping out of the workforce. You people really see no problem with this woman simply choosing not to work at all?

+1 if it was my sister, I would advise her to have a plan. Posters would be quick to tell a sah parent posting to get a job but because it's a sibling it's different?

No, many of us don't tell SAHPs to get a job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow. SAHMs get dire warnings all the time on these boards about stepping out of the workforce. You people really see no problem with this woman simply choosing not to work at all?

+1 if it was my sister, I would advise her to have a plan. Posters would be quick to tell a sah parent posting to get a job but because it's a sibling it's different?

I don't think most people here are saying what her sister is doing is wise. They are just pointing out that op needs to butt out.