Nanny applied to Gds for her kid!

[Anonymous]

OP here!! This is my last response. I don't think I am better than Nanny or that my kids deserve better than her kids. It seemed odd to me that she wouldn't even think about public schools or filling out an application for the lottery to any public school. If she doesn't get accepted then her child will go to a public school that's really rough and doesn't have great scores. I also find it odd that she has never mentioned private schools until we started the application. Look I am happy for her Child if accepted but since I know how tough things are for her financially it struck me as odd. That is all!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here!! This is my last response. I don't think I am better than Nanny or that my kids deserve better than her kids. It seemed odd to me that she wouldn't even think about public schools or filling out an application for the lottery to any public school. If she doesn't get accepted then her child will go to a public school that's really rough and doesn't have great scores. I also find it odd that she has never mentioned private schools until we started the application. Look I am happy for her Child if accepted but since I know how tough things are for her financially it struck me as odd. That is all!

If it struck you as odd and that's it, then you wouldn't have bothered posting about it.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like she admires and respects you, but I agree that GDS probably will not be in the child's future. Sidwell gives full scholarships to incoming K students. If the child shows enough promise and the parent comes with good recommendations then there is a snowballs chance. It would be very kind of you, OP, to sit down and help her navigate the DCPS charter lottery process, as that seems like his best hope at this point. Every parent wants their child to succeed and have opportunity regardless of income and perceived class. I wish her and her son the very best.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here!! This is my last response. I don't think I am better than Nanny or that my kids deserve better than her kids. It seemed odd to me that she wouldn't even think about public schools or filling out an application for the lottery to any public school. If she doesn't get accepted then her child will go to a public school that's really rough and doesn't have great scores. I also find it odd that she has never mentioned private schools until we started the application. Look I am happy for her Child if accepted but since I know how tough things are for her financially it struck me as odd. That is all!

Did YOU look at public schools?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like she admires and respects you, but I agree that GDS probably will not be in the child's future. Sidwell gives full scholarships to incoming K students. If the child shows enough promise and the parent comes with good recommendations then there is a snowballs chance. It would be very kind of you, OP, to sit down and help her navigate the DCPS charter lottery process, as that seems like his best hope at this point. Every parent wants their child to succeed and have opportunity regardless of income and perceived class. I wish her and her son the very best.

I didn't realize that certain schools don't give full scholarships? That surprises me, as I am sure there are some really bright children that have parents that are financially already struggling that would not be able to contribute anything to a private school education. Which schools DO give full financial aid?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would have thought that financial aid exists first and foremost for the people who need it most. Do kids really never get 100% fa or close to it ? I hope you are all wrong and that the kid gets in and gets a full ride.

None of the Big 3 give anywhere close to 50% FA - more along the lines of $10-15k of a $40k tuition bill. But maybe she has a husband with a job too?

[Anonymous]

Seriously can't believe you. If her child can handle the academics, I would be doing everything in my power to help her. What a gift that would be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seriously can't believe you. If her child can handle the academics, I would be doing everything in my power to help her. What a gift that would be.

But they might admit the nanny's child instead of the OP's child...!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would have thought that financial aid exists first and foremost for the people who need it most. Do kids really never get 100% fa or close to it ? I hope you are all wrong and that the kid gets in and gets a full ride.

None of the Big 3 give anywhere close to 50% FA - more along the lines of $10-15k of a $40k tuition bill. But maybe she has a husband with a job too?

GDS and Maret give less FA in the aggregate because their endowments are lower, but I am would think there are still some students who get over 50% in Financial Aid. At both Sidwell and St. Albans, which lead in this area for the average aid per student, there are certainly students who receive well over 50% in Financial Aid. I don't think anyone gets 100% aid -- it's the "skin in the game" concept -- but for some the percentage is very high if the parents have very low income.

[Anonymous]

Spanglish.

See this movie. Same theme.

[Anonymous]

SFS upper school parent here - a Pp was correct. No student at Sidwell gets more than $15k in aid. It even says it somewhere on some materials we are given when we renew our contracts every year. The average FA award is $7500. That figure is somewhere in paperwork parents are given every year too. SFS doesn't have an endowment anywhere close to NCS, and I know from friends who have kids at NCS that they don't give 50% either. These schools like to publicize how inclusive they are, but you still need to pay 60-70% of the tuition.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:SFS upper school parent here - a Pp was correct. No student at Sidwell gets more than $15k in aid. It even says it somewhere on some materials we are given when we renew our contracts every year. The average FA award is $7500. That figure is somewhere in paperwork parents are given every year too. SFS doesn't have an endowment anywhere close to NCS, and I know from friends who have kids at NCS that they don't give 50% either. These schools like to publicize how inclusive they are, but you still need to pay 60-70% of the tuition.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We had two nannies (not at the same time) who had a child close in age to one of our DC. Both ended up quitting due to school issues. One decided to apply to private shortly after our oldest started at a private school. We helped her navigate the admissions process, gave her time off to do tours, etc. It was a big disappointment for her when he wasn't accepted. We helped her with the public school lottery and he was accepted to a good school, but she decided to move out of DC for better schools and could no longer work for us in DC due to commute.

The other nanny applied to a private school outside of DC which cost much less. When her DC was accepted she asked for a significant raise and modified hours - within 3 months of working for us. My DH and I were very clear on the schedule requirements when we hired her and couldn't meet her demands.

I believe the OP's post is real - who wouldn't want to provide for their own child what the kids in their care are receiving? However, private school is a luxury when you have good public schools as an alternative. Both of our nannies drove newer/nicer cars and had more expensive cell phones than my DH and I. Their kids had expensive bday parties at bowling alleys, etc. while we were having them at the park or at home. A lot of people strive to live beyond their means - not just nannies. But they don't make for very desirable employees - at work or at home.

Just a little hate for the people who raised your children? Nice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Again, I'm not saying she should not apply for her child to go there. I just wondered how she would manage with all the extras that she may have to pay. I told her I wouldn't mind talking to the public school (great school btw) to allow her child to go there and she refused since she really wants private school for her kid. She works 4 hours a day for me and I pay her $400 a week. I also give her paid leave since we to away almost 2 months of the year. She gets all holidays, snow days off plus a Holiday and birthday bonus so I think I pay her fairly.

I think you don't want the "nanny's" kid at the same school as yours because you do to want her in the same social realm as you. Be honest with yourself.

[Anonymous]

What a bitch.