Nanny applied to Gds for her kid!

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Anonymous wrote:Why is there such an assumption that the nanny's kids are SO much more deserving than the original poster?? I have a wonderful nanny, and I hope the absolute best for her and her future children. I honestly do. However, my kids can go to private school because I spent 12 years in school post-high school and I work 80+ hour weeks. My nanny works about 25-30 hours per week. I know if I was this original poster, I would be upset if her child got in with full aid over my children. Assuming, of course, all other things being equal. We are both minority families so that is not a differentiating factor. I don't think there should be such venom towards the poster just because she has the money to have a nanny and consider private school. Maybe she works extremely hard and deserves it!

What do your accomplishments have to do with your childrens' abilities and talents? Maybe your nanny's kid is a genius and benefits from time with a parent who isn't a workaholic?

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When my parents immigrated to the states, she worked as a nanny. They still wanted the best for me. I ended up at Harvard. I received a full ride. DH and I now earn almost $1 million a year and support my parents financially. They had no retirement savings.

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Anonymous wrote:Even working 80 hours, you can check DCUM. Maybe this week it will be 79.5 hours
Absolutely agree that no one "deserves" to have their child accepted.
I was just struck by how so much here was assumed here about the poster. She really doesn't have to be any type of horrific person. It always seems like on this board if you are successful then you must be a horrible human being.
Not really true!!

No one thinks she's horrible because she has money. We think she's horrible because she's apoplectic that her nanny's kid is appluing to GDS. Obviously.

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Op you are so classist.

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Anonymous wrote:I know a family at sidwell that receives, I think, close to 90%. Their family and kid are fantastic.My son goes to public bc at the end of the day we couldn't justify the full freight tuition. Not a twinge a twinge of jealousy here -- my kid will just fine and happy the other kid has a great support system for opportunity and to succeed.

No way. Seriously, that is not happening at Sidwell. I've had 2 kids graduate and have one left there, all lifers, and the most I have heard (from parents and administrators) is 60% FA. Sidwell doesn't have that kind of endowment, and the fundraising they do every year for scholarship aid can't keep pace.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know a family at sidwell that receives, I think, close to 90%. Their family and kid are fantastic.My son goes to public bc at the end of the day we couldn't justify the full freight tuition. Not a twinge a twinge of jealousy here -- my kid will just fine and happy the other kid has a great support system for opportunity and to succeed.

No way. Seriously, that is not happening at Sidwell. I've had 2 kids graduate and have one left there, all lifers, and the most I have heard (from parents and administrators) is 60% FA. Sidwell doesn't have that kind of endowment, and the fundraising they do every year for scholarship aid can't keep pace.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know a family at sidwell that receives, I think, close to 90%. Their family and kid are fantastic.My son goes to public bc at the end of the day we couldn't justify the full freight tuition. Not a twinge a twinge of jealousy here -- my kid will just fine and happy the other kid has a great support system for opportunity and to succeed.

No way. Seriously, that is not happening at Sidwell. I've had 2 kids graduate and have one left there, all lifers, and the most I have heard (from parents and administrators) is 60% FA. Sidwell doesn't have that kind of endowment, and the fundraising they do every year for scholarship aid can't keep pace.

From the Sidwell website: "In keeping with Quaker tenets, Sidwell Friends School seeks a student body that represents varied economic backgrounds. In 2013-2014, 23 percent of our students will receive approximately $6,200,000 of financial aid support with an average aid award of $21,938, which covers nearly two-thirds of the average tuition cost." If the average is 66%, then presumably some kids are getting more than that.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know a family at sidwell that receives, I think, close to 90%. Their family and kid are fantastic.My son goes to public bc at the end of the day we couldn't justify the full freight tuition. Not a twinge a twinge of jealousy here -- my kid will just fine and happy the other kid has a great support system for opportunity and to succeed.

No way. Seriously, that is not happening at Sidwell. I've had 2 kids graduate and have one left there, all lifers, and the most I have heard (from parents and administrators) is 60% FA. Sidwell doesn't have that kind of endowment, and the fundraising they do every year for scholarship aid can't keep pace.

From the Sidwell website: "In keeping with Quaker tenets, Sidwell Friends School seeks a student body that represents varied economic backgrounds. In 2013-2014, 23 percent of our students will receive approximately $6,200,000 of financial aid support with an average aid award of $21,938, which covers nearly two-thirds of the average tuition cost." If the average is 66%, then presumably some kids are getting more than that.

So this year only 23% of the entire pre-K thru 12 gets financial aid? If Sidwell gets 77% of students to pay full price, FA has to come into play during admissions. Because I am sure a LOT of applicants need something, and they take so few new students. That just seems like a small percentage of students on aid as a whole, doesn't it?

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Anonymous wrote:
We had two nannies (not at the same time) who had a child close in age to one of our DC. Both ended up quitting due to school issues. One decided to apply to private shortly after our oldest started at a private school. We helped her navigate the admissions process, gave her time off to do tours, etc. It was a big disappointment for her when he wasn't accepted. We helped her with the public school lottery and he was accepted to a good school, but she decided to move out of DC for better schools and could no longer work for us in DC due to commute.

The other nanny applied to a private school outside of DC which cost much less. When her DC was accepted she asked for a significant raise and modified hours - within 3 months of working for us. My DH and I were very clear on the schedule requirements when we hired her and couldn't meet her demands.

I believe the OP's post is real - who wouldn't want to provide for their own child what the kids in their care are receiving? However, private school is a luxury when you have good public schools as an alternative. Both of our nannies drove newer/nicer cars and had more expensive cell phones than my DH and I. Their kids had expensive bday parties at bowling alleys, etc. while we were having them at the park or at home. A lot of people strive to live beyond their means - not just nannies. But they don't make for very desirable employees - at work or at home.


Just a little hate for the people who raised your children? Nice.

How is this hateful? The 2nd nanny was an employee that exhibited less than desirable behavior. Asking for a raise and a modified work schedule after 3 months is unprofessional. The hours/pay were negotiated and accepted - then she changed her mind after her kid got into a private school. How does that behavior exhibit any care for the children she "raised" for 3 months? The first nanny received additional paid leave to attend open houses/tours for private and public school application process. We filled out the forms for her and paid for the application. She lived beyond her means and was constantly asking for help financially. When her child didn't get into private school she chose to move out of DC instead of attending the excellent JKLM public school her child got into via lottery. She still sits for our family on occasional weekends because she can "barely get by" on the reduced salary she makes in her new job outside of DC.

It's not "hateful" to evaluate an employee's behavior.

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Bday parties at bowling alleys are expensive parties now? PP, I'm willing to bet your housing costs were significantly higher than your previous nanny. An iphone and duck pin bowling cant compare.